The response to my post yesterday has me questioning why we even have free speech. Why I have spent the last six years of my life blogging most every day. Why I have always been there to help anyone and everyone with their blogs or blog design, out of friendship and community.
Yesterday I made a statement that, in my eyes, was taken out of context. I cried many tears over the comments rendered yesterday. I felt like blood in the water amidst sharks.
I have not served in the military forces. But I appreciate each and every member of those men and women who dutifully serve our country. THEY are the ones who should have the assault weapons to protect themselves. THEY are the heroes. This country, albeit shaken and divisive, is not truly at war in the true sense of the word. Although you wouldn’t know it by the fierce and driven anger.
I have considered deleting my blog after this. I’m so tired of those that strike back as though they personally have been targeted. I have learned that you cannot have a discussion over something so tragic as what happened last week without those that will twist your every word.
And I will reflect today on what is good and wholesome in this world.
Brenda, I am just now seeing your post. I feel much the same way as you do. And if I didn’t have grandkids who are UNAWARE of the evil in this world that took place last week, and who are SO excited for Christmas, I would not be having it either. Our hearts are so broken.
XO
Kris
Brenda
Be strong and move forward. Honestly, I have not yet read your post from yesterday. But I’ll tell you never in my life have I encountered such obnoxious, hateful, superior people. I have wonderful friends with good character and then there are the others. We each can say what we think even if others do not like it. My daughter works in a nut house of arrogant, know it all people and you don’t dare disagree. Makes me sad that we cannot be friends no matter what we believe. I say, “Treat others as you want to be treated.” I’m so sorry your heart is hurting.
I saw your post and I thought it was wonderful. I completely understood what you meant and why you posted. There are many, many of us who agree with you and want to change the way things are. We truly understand. It was courageous of you and I am glad you did, I have shared it with many others.
Sali
PLEASE KEEP BLOGGING….YOU HAVE MADE MY MORNINGS SO SPECIAL MANY TIMES….APPRECIATE YOUR LOVE AND CARE FOR AMERICA…GOD BLESS AMERICA LAND THAT I LOVE.
From what I am hearing and reading in the press, most of the people in our country agree with you ~ we need to do something about proper gun control. You have every right to express your opinion on your blog.
Hi Brenda,
Please keep blogging – your opinion it YOUR opinion and you have every right (in this great country!) to say what you feel. Consider the source of the rude, ugly comments and move on.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas with your family and friends. Hug them tight.
Best regards, Lee Anna
Disagreeing with some else’s opinion is not rude & ugly. Yes, Brenda has a right to voice her opinion and views just as the others had a right to disagree and voice theirs. People were offended by the remark about her not being proud of being an American. That too is their right. It is not evil to disagree. And if they are put off enough, they will not come back to this blog. That is they right. Thank God that we live in America even with all of it’s faults and stupid people on both sides of the blog.
Becky,
Disagreeing is obviously not wrong, but some commenters on that post were “rude and ugly” in stating their disagreed opinions. There is a way to disagree and not be mean about it.
Brenda, don’t cry over those with different opinions. People that can’t listen to other opinions without getting mean and hateful aren’t worth dealing with. Unfortunately the success of a blog depends on being popular, but being true to yourself is more important. As for myself, and maybe you, I think that some of these bible thumping people are delusional. No belief in an imaginary sky fairy or any amount of praying would make a difference to the mind of that mentally ill man that committed atrocities. To think that there is a Satan or a god is delusional, in my opinion.There ! That should rile up the blog.
On another note, I mentioned my daughter is battling mental illness, as are millions in this country. The stigma is so great, I saw little mention of others dealing with mental illness themselves or with loved ones. Thanks for being real Brenda!
Brenda, We have free speech so we can ALL express our opinions whether or not others agree with them. When you started this blog, I am sure it was so you could reach as many people as possible with the things you thought important; your opinion. With that extension of your public voice, you invite the opportunity for others to leave comments; because you give this option (and it is optional as comments can be disabled) you can expect opinions that do not always agree with yours. That is what free speech is all about. I read your blog because of your beautiful pictures, not the opinions you sometimes post, of which, I do not always agree or disagree. This one however, hit a sore spot in a very raw wound and maybe this particular tragedy is not something we should be discussing and offering opinions on, so soon.
Well said.
I agree. I doubt Brenda would shut down her blog. Isn’t this her source of income?
what is that any of your business? why don’t you mind your own business!!!
Oh my gosh!!!
What???? How totally tactless. Thank you Carol!!
you are so very welcome!!!
I read Brenda’s blog all the time but rarely comment. I’m only commenting now to say what a rude comment Janey made. I think Brenda has given us all so much insight into so many areas that have nothing to do with her beautiful ideas and executions in decorating. Whether or not she makes money on her blog has nothing to do with why I keep coming back. I come back because I’m interested. I’m wondering why Janey does.
Best,
Bonnie
Goodness, Carol, my comment was to Janey and her tactless comment . I was thanking you for your comment to her. After I re-read what I wrote I realized that it could have been taken otherwise.
But true…
In my opinion, Brenda welcomes comments and varying opinions on her blog. She, like most people, doesn’t welcome the rude and hurtful comments left by many on her previous post.
Brenda,
Don’t take the comments from yesterday as a personal attack. This country is hurting and people are scared of what we have become.
I have worked for a church in Texas for 26 years and can say that I have seen it all. Those of us who are believers must continue to pray. Not only for the victims, but also those who have inflicted terrible pain. I know in my life, God has answered many prayers. HE is our only hope and without that, we have nothing.
I just had to say something here.
Do you really expect to post about such a sensitive controversial subject and have everyone agree with you? and the majority did agree with you. The irony of your statement “The response to my post yesterday has me questioning why we even have free speech.” is the fact that when a few others did speak freely and expressed they were upset about your post you cannot handle it? Are you the only one that should be allowed to speak freely? You opened this dialog yourself so don’t be so shaken when people respond and share their thoughts about this with honest raw emotion.
The events last week were horrific and I think we all do agree on that.
I know your blog means a lot to you and is a big part of your life, It would also be a tragedy if you let your emotions jeopardize it.
While it is honorable that you want to take a stand maybe your Cozy Little House blog readers are not your target audience for this. Why not look for a more suitable platform to debate this topic?
Of course this is YOUR blog and you have the right to express anything you choose and the right to be upset and the right to delete YOUR blog if the results do not sit well with you.
Well said Linda. Wow! reading through these comments are really interesting. When we open ourselves to debate by tackling such “hot button” issues there will be lots of people who disagree. Agreeing or not agreeing isn’t the point right? I chose not to tackle this topic on my blog but I’m really enjoying reading all the comments. People fiercely defend their views and values and when other’s disagree it can sometimes feel personal.
I don’t think it’s that she is upset that people disagree with her, etc. I think it’s because the way in which those opinions were delivered…frankly pretty harsh and unkind. What did she ever do to you? I really think you are missing the point here, people. It’s not what you say, but how you say it.
I didn’t read through all the comments but yes, delivery is everything. No personal attacks.
I agree with you! I have caught considerable flack over a similar comment I made on Facebook. We must just be firm in our belief, because of course we will not change it. Other folks will most likely not change their belief either. Name calling another is unacceptable however. It is just an imperfect world, but we can rise above the hurt. Stay strong! Agree to disagree and pray for wise decisions to be made by those that hold that power in their hands.
Linda L in Tx
Hi Brenda…don’t cry or feel bad over stupid people who have nothing better to do than hurt someone elses feelings..misery loves company…they just want to drag you down into their miserable being…don’t go there!! I love your blog and I love your opinions…they are YOUR opinions..no where did I read you wanted everyone to believe the same as you.. you just put out how you were feeling and you have that right to blog what ever you want to…and as for the woman who expressed there is no Satan or God…lets all just feel sorry for her…who will probably never meet her maker…how rude! Love ya Brenda! Carol
Dear Brenda: Your blog post yesterday was thought provoking and well written (as are all of your posts I might add!). I find it confounding that some people who disagree attack you instead of having rational discourse about the subject. Avoiding the subject with personal attacks against anyone’s opinions doesn’t help us find solutions. If this whole horrible event doesn’t get this country and its citizens moving in a positive direction, I too, will no longer be so proud to be an American. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and feelings!
I did not see your blog yesterday and today I only read a few of the responses. Above all else, God is in control and even when we are shaken, He has us in His gentle arms. I was a teacher for 31 years…I adore children. I would only hope that I would have been as brave as those who lost their lives. Just know that it will not help this situation in any way if you go into a depression.
Christmas is a celebration of what is to come….and for that reason we can continue to be with our family and friends…to hold each other near…and to pray for mercy and peace for those that mourn.
Just know, you, too, are in my prayers.
Dianntha
i am truly sorry but i went back and re-read the post and i am not seeing what was said so disturbing…………..we can’t all agree on everything and i thought blogs were for open discussions if not mabe you should do what i have seen lately comments have been taken away only the blog writter ‘s blog shows……….we ALL have the right to share how we feel what a boring world if we all agreed on things…….i was offend many months ago but a blogger that to me was dissing on people who can’t spell correcty or only has 1 or 2 words to a comment well that included me…i still read the blog but i won’t Ever comment again on it………take each day as it comes and we must learn to deal with what we are handed…..we can not change the world over night.
Dear Brenda. Anyone who visits you knows your heart and your care and concern for so many not to mention your well worded posts. I’m sorry about the commenter and I feel sorry for her that she doesn’t seem to believe in anything. There are so many things wrong in this world and my heart is grieving for these innocent lives lost and pray something can be done to keep this from happening again. Will gun laws help? Maybe. Will trying to get more help for the mentally disturbed help. Probably. But we do live in a world that is upside down so I keep my faith in God and pray each day for our country and our leaders.
Brenda, don’t stop blogging. You have too many of us who love you and love what you say and love your beautiful photography! I thank you for all of your help you’ve given me through the years and would be ever so sad if you left us!
Please try to put this behind you, pray for that gal and I will pray for you that God will bring happiness to you and your family this Christmas.
You’re always a sweetie,
Shelia
I was so upset by some of the mean-spirited, judgmental comments on YOUR blog yesterday that I couldn’t sleep. It is your blog my friend. You have the right to express your opinion – an opinion that comes from a caring, compassionate heart. If someone disagrees, that’s fine, it’s their right. But to slam you the way so many did, to be hateful – that is uncalled for. I myself tried to get a dialogue going in the comments on that post and encountered some, not all, knee-jerk responses that left no room for a healthy discussion. So sorry this happened to you. You know how I feel about the level of intolerance for public discourse in this country. And my thoughts about what makes a true patriot – caring enough to work for change, being brave enough to disagree with your country while still loving it. Keep posting. Keep writing. This is your space. You are gracious enough to invite comments. Commenters should also be gracious in the way they respond.
However, “gracious” does not mean that we have to agree with the blogger. She should be open for disagreement. And when I go back and look at all of the post you were the only one that used a curse word. Un-gracious….yes.
I have no problem with curse words. Neither does Brenda. No one said you had to agree – read my comment again. How many different ways do I have to say it?
And, granted, I didn’t get much sleep, but I’ve gone back over my comments and can’t find anything that I would consider a ‘curse’ word.
It is just that so many comments today say that about being “cruel, hateful, evil, ugly, and yes ungracious” When no one was any of these things. There were no name calling or foul 4 letter words used. Just people dis agreeing and it seems like that is what has upset you so much. Calm down and try to see others point of view sometime. ( And I guess that last sentence will be labeled as mean sprited, hateful, & evil )
Not at all. But, some of those comments WERE objectionable. Not all. Some. Many found a way to disagree that didn’t slam Brenda’s patriotism or perceived lack of patriotism.
I’ve said all I’m going to say. I’ll just end up repeating myself. I’m already repeating myself!
WHEW! It’s about time.
Claudia, I agree with what you say, and also that it is useless dialoguing with those who have closed minds…
That is because you don’t see anything unless it is the only correct opinion, Yours! I also fear for the civility of our people when we can’t see anything evil, or mean spirited hateful, because we are the doing same thing.
By “closed Minds” do you mean anyone that does not think just like you???? How close minded is that???
Claudia, Brenda is obviously upset because others did not agree with her opinion (I feel you are upset for the same reason). She felt her opinion of greater value than others or she would not have been troubled by what they had to say. If I believe my opinion is right (for me, not necessarily others, which is what an opinion is), I have no problem with what others think of it. It is only my opinion, but I still maintain humanity is what you shouldn’t be proud of right now. Humanity has sunk to such a low degree by not valuing life and as I said before, that is not exclusive to Americans.
This really makes no sense, what you said.
Denise, Which part of my statement does not make sense? The part where I think Brenda is upset because others do not agree with her opinion; the part where I say I feel Claudia is upset for the same reason; the part where I said Brenda felt her opinion was more valuable than the others; the part where I said, if I believe my opinion is right,I have no problem with what others think of it; the part where I maintain humanity (as in human beings, rather than our country) is where your lack of pride should be placed; OR is it really the part where I said we have sunk to such a low degree by not valuing life?! An opinion is a person’s view of a particular situation; it is not a fact, therefore, if I have an opinion others do not agree with that is o.k. Now if something is a fact, it must be absolute by reason of proof, therefore there can be no disagreement. It is a fact that millions of unborn children have been murdered legally and that is why I have formed the opinion that we do not value life. As I stated in my previous comment this is not exclusive to Americans.
Very well put, Claudia! I so agree!!
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Very well said, Claudia, I completely agree! I read the post and comments and any reasonable person should realize that Brenda doesn’t care if you disagree with her…that’s your right. What, as you stated, she is upset about is the way she was rudely attacked for sharing HER opinion. You can disagree and still be a pleasant person, people!
I’m so sorry you went through this. This is such a “hot potato” topic it seems folks can’t have rational discussions about it.
People need to remember though that this blog is your playground, not theirs. And when they come to your playground they need to show some respect . It’s okay to disagree but we can do it with class and kindness; not cruelty and meanness just because someone else has a different point of view.
Don’t be discouraged. Some of the comments fired me up and that is why I wrote all that I did. No one on TV even mentions how other countries handle this and they need to.
I am so amazed at all the different opinions of people on this issue….that is why I listed four from my family.
Some people seem to think that it so simple to change things.
I can not believe how people are slamming Obama over stupid things like where the father of the shooter works and how they contributed to his political fund. Give it a rest. They did the same thing after Sandy hit.
Don’t stop blogging, please. So many of us would just be sick over that. Let those with those slamming comments stop reading if they would. We need you.
I hope nothing I said in my comments made you feel I was attacking you, I actually had my claws out defending you. I am on steriods and getting crabby and protective.
Love you my friend.
Dear , Dear Brenda, I am so sorry that the responses to your blog post were upsetting to you.
I have similar views to yours, and expressed them in my first response to the shootings, and then, when I realized that it could start a firestorm of responses, decided to go in another direction.
I can handle a one on one conversation, but when lots of people are responding not only to what I say, but to what other commenters are saying, the conversation can begin to get ugly.
I made a post on Facebook on the day of the shooting, that expressed my sorrow and my FB friends (some of whom have differing opinions on gun control) began arguing with each other. I immediately deleted the comments and told my friends to post their opinions on their own FB pages and keep their arguments to themselves.
I thank God for the First Amendment, and I am glad that I can express my opinion, and I also know that it is difficult to listen to others’ opinions. If they are given with honesty, respect and courtesy, it makes it easier to engage in civil discourse.
I have completely avoided watching, listening to, or reading the news about Newtown. I don’t want to get drawn into the black hole of vitriol that the coverage has become. I am choosing to show my respect for the victims by prayer, and by doing small acts of kindness to others and to my family. That is all I can do right now.
Love to you and yours today, and all through this holy season!
Dear Brenda:
I just discovered your blog this past year and since then I have started my day reading your postings. Many times when I didn’t have a voice you game me one and I feel a kindred spirit in you no matter how far away or how different we might be. I share your views in respect to guns and I’m proud of you for been straightforward in your posting about the issue…it’s about time we start looking in the mirror and stop ignoring what’s going on.
I hope you never stop blogging!
Please don’t delete your blog…I have been a follower for years…since before your move…and your blog brings a lot of comfort to so many…don’t let evil win out…keep spreading your gift…you have been through a lot and there are people out there who need to hear that you can survive the storms and live in the sunshine once again.
I’m sure a LOT of Americans feel the way you do Brenda, me included, you were just brave enough to say them. It’s like talking politics, religion, or somebody else’s parenting….VERY dangerous topics, and you’re more than likely to get someone that vehemently disagrees with you and will get nasty about it.
I myself am ashamed of most of American society for MANY different reasons and I feel the emphasis on guns in our country is crazy and yes we DO need better mental health care and better mental health awareness. Keep believing in what you believe in and don’t let anyone shout you down from those beliefs.
As a side note, it doesn’t feel right to me either fully celebrating Christmas when those little kids won’t get to and all those families are in so much pain.
Brenda…
It’s YOUR blog…and you can post whatever you’d like to post. Many of us out here in blogland enjoy your daily writings, and we would miss hearing any and ALL of your opinions. As for the haters out there: Screw’em! Don’t you dare allow yourself to shed another tear because of their hateful comments….they’re not worth it. It’s a wonderful life…don’t allow those ignorant fools to settle into your heart. Kick ‘em out!…. and read the loving, caring comments of those who appreciate and care about you. BTW: I agree with everything you said.
Be well….be strong….and brush it off.
xo
I truly appreciate your posts. You are writing about an important topic – we are all grieving. We are all trying to understand, to cope, and heal. We do not want to see a repeat of this tragedy, and iris painfully obvious that we need change. I commend you for writing on this topic, and I hope to be able to continue reading your posts – stick with it!
Brenda,
As you know, I don’t blog. I love to look/read/borrow ideas from other talented people who share so willing. I do want to say this. I’m Southern to the BONE. Born in South Carolina raised as a country girl, etc. Don’t give in to people like that because then they win. You know what? Here comes the Southern Country Girl Part. “You can’t make chicken salad from chicken shit” and I’d rather be pissed off than pissed on. You do good work here. Keep it up. I’m proud of you and my last word is this: THANK YOU GOD, ALMIGHTY, FOR THE FREE NATION THAT WE LIVE IN AND THAT OUR FREE NATION GUARANTEES US THE FREEDOM OF SPEACH.
Hang in there.
Diane ~ The Library Lady
Thanks for the chicken salad quote.. gave me a giggle!!!
Brenda, my dear:
I’m not done yet. Here is a poem that the Sheriff of our county e-mailed to some county employees. I hope this helps how you feel?
Twas’ 11 days before Christmas, around 9:38 when 20 beautiful children
Stormed through heaven’s gate.
Their smiles were contagious, their laughter filled the air. They could
hardly believe all the beauty they saw there. They were filled with such joy,
they didn’t know what to say. They remembered nothing of what had happened
earlier that day.
“Where are we?” asked a little girl, as quiet as a mouse. “This is heaven.”
declared a small boy. “We’re spending Christmas at God’s house. “When what to
their wondering eyes did appear, but Jesus, their Savior, the children
gathered near.
He looked at them and smiled, and they smiled just the same. Then He opened
His arms and He called them by name. And in that moment was joy, that only
heaven can bring.
Those children all flew into the arms of their King.
And as they lingered in the warmth of His embrace, one small girl turned and
looked at Jesus’ face. And as if He could read all the questions she had He
gently whispered to her, “I’ll take care of mom and dad”. Then He looked down
on earth, the world far below He saw all of the hurt, the sorrow, and woe.
Then He closed His eyes and He outstretched His hand, “Let My power and
presence re-enter this land! May this country be delivered from the hands
of fools” “I’m taking back my nation. I’m taking back my schools!”
Then He and the children stood up without a sound. “Come now my children, let
me show you around.”
Excitement filled the space, some skipped and some ran, all displaying
enthusiasm that only a small child can and I heard Him proclaim as He walked
out of sight, “In the midst of this darkness, I AM STILL THE LIGHT. Written
by Cameo Smith, Mt. Wolf, PAAmen
I then forwarded the message to our Superintendent of Schools and this is what she said to me:
Hey Mrs. Diane,
Thanks for sharing that beautiful poem with me. I have sat here and sobbed as I read it. It touched my heart more than I can share in words. My heart has been so heavy with all that has happened. But, this reminds me that our God is mighty and he is still in CONTROL. God bless you and know that I love you and admire you.
Have a very Merry Christmas my friend, Sherrie
Sherrie Raulerson
Superintendent of Schools
Baker County Public Schools
“Where Children Are First!”
Thank you for sharing this. What a wonderful poem!
When a person jumps into a fire they are going to get burned.
Gun control is a very controversial subject. I am not a debater, nor am I someone who likes to argue. If someone asks my opinion I will oblige and speak the truth as I see it.
We all know someone who is affected with mental illness and we are aware of the burden it puts on a family, even friends. If, I had a child that was mentally ill, guns would not be in my house, ever. Actually I don’t think they should be in any home where there are children…esp. teenagers. So many take their own lives because of peer pressure.
As far as raising children and family’s…I am speechless at what I see. Go to Walmart and watch the parents yelling and cussing at one of their children. It is ignorance that is at fault. Ignorance breeds ignorance. It is passed from one generation to another.
I thank God everyday…that my family is still alive and safe. We should all pray for our country, the children, and esp. the parents. We, as caring adults need to be good examples to those around us and work hard to get some help for the mentally ill.
P. S.
Guns are not the only thing that kill people.
I also didn’t read your post from yesterday. I feel that if you’re going to blog about controversial subjects then you’ve got to get a thicker skin. Most people have made up their minds and whatever you say isn’t going to sway them (on most subjects). Blogging is just a way of expressing your thoughts and feelings, which you have every right to do. People don’t need to be nasty to express theirs. That’s uncalled for.
I think when such a sensitive issue is put on a blog you will get responses, that perhaps differ from yours. Each person has their own response “trigger”. What I seen were people responding to theirs. I just found many who voiced an opinion, their opinion, in a straight forward way. You always do make me think, and many times we do not agree, so I chose not to respond, since hot topics might bring out something I might regret saying. But please don’t end your blog because of others comments that so many enjoy, as well as yourself. At the end of the day this was a horrific tragedy, but I do not want to see anyone’s rights taken away because our country is deteriorating from the inside out. More government control in my life is not a good thing, many which I do not agree with, and there are always people on both sides who are entitled to their opinion even though said quite bluntly. Government was not meant to solve all our problems, but unfortunately many do think this. Have a great day Brenda, and I look forward to another great post by you.
I’ve been reading here for years Brenda. And I will continue to. Whether I agree with you or not.
You have the right to say what you want, and the right to be upset by what others say.
NOBODY should have the right to own an assault rifle. NOBODY. EVER.
Please do not ever think of discontinuing your blog. I would miss you very much.
KEEP BLOGGING!! If people don’t like what they see on your blog they do not have to visit! I don’t understand why some people have to be so cruel when stating their opinion!
Merry Christmas to you Dear Brenda!!
chris
Don’t shut your blog down. It’s YOUR blog, your outlet, your space. By allowing comments, you allow people to voice an opinion. It’s unfortunate that many cannot do this without being hurtful. hmmm, that’s why we are discussing this issue to start with, isn’t it??….to try to make our world a safer place for mankind?? I choose to focus on the positive, supportive comments, or even the ones with a differing, but thoughtful way of responding. Those are the people who will lead this world to peace. xo
Congratulations dear Brenda ! You’re getting somewhere with your podium. Dissent is the proof.
If they had a podium they would not need to use YOURS.
Alas, congress seems to be the real problem. They’ve got the podium & $$$$$.
Garden & Be Well, XO Tara
Brenda,
Please keep blogging. Please do not shed a tear over what has been said here. Please be okay with your beliefs, views and your right to express them…especially on your very own blog.
I have made the same comment you’ve been attacked for and I have felt the same way many times. I will go as far as to say that I have even made the comment that I am ashamed to be white. That comes from living in the South and seeing all of the racism that I see every single day of my life…and yes I see it every single day.
I have the right to say that I am ashamed to be white because I am white! There will be those that don’t agree with me…so be it….my point is this. I know their words and their judgment and lack of an open mind to even really hear what you say hurts. I know that it hurts deeper than we can imagine for you on top of all that you have faced.
You have a dear soul, a kind heart and so much to offer and say on your blog. I enjoy it so much and would hate to see it go away. Have I always agreed with all you’ve said? Of course not…..but it doesn’t change who you are or my enjoyment of your blog.
Americans are full of arrogance….period. Yes I can leave this country if I’m not happy….blah blah blah as they will all say. I can also open my mouth and voice my concerns and beliefs and push for change. Too many Americans are too close minded to change. They want it their way and no other way will suffice. And any changes certainly will not be allowed.
Just take some time for yourself. Enjoy this holiday season in the way that makes it best for you. No one else on this planet has to agree with how you celebrate this season or with how you feel. They are your feelings….yours. And you have every right to them and to voice them if you so choose and without being attacked or taken out of context.
The people who responsded so awful to your comments should be ashamed of theirselves. It’s just ridiculous. Sadly the world is full of people like that but it’s also full of wonderful and caring people.
Hug your babies closer and have a cup of coffee…..everything is going to be okay.
Belinda
Brenda- I just want to say that I throughly enjoy your blog. It is the first one I read
every morning. Yesterday I read your blog with interest and would never have thought
of such a response it would bring. (but I guess I should not have surprise me) Like your
I am an advocate of gun control. All my life I have hated guns. My great uncle accidentally killed himself cleaning his gun. As a child growing up in the 50′s and 60′s and having parents in war -talking about it was taboo. Their experiences in war were very
tramatic
Brenda, as in real life, those you end up sharing it with for the ling term are like minded and/or open minded people. Debate is healthy and necessary. Any one with reasonable intelligence knows that you are not NOT proud to be American, but NOT PROUD of the American gun culture. To aim low and accuse you of not appreciating those that fight for America with guns etc (I forget all the crap hurled your way) is just more bullshit. And as for inciting some nastiness, so what. You’ve just filtered your readers as you would filter people you hang around with in real life.
As far as I am concerned, you took one for the team. Good on you.
So true on the filter! We all need to filter our lives more of the people around us. While it may be a good thing to always take something positive away from everyone you come in contact with sometimes it’s just not possible.
Brenda- Whoops I hit the send button by mistake. Anyway I was going to say that my parents experiences were traumatic and did not allow us as children to play with “play guns”. The tragedy last week in Newton was overwhelming heart breaking and sad. For the ones who have lost their beloved children their lives will never be the same again. They will go on with their lives but will always carry the burden of loss on forever on their shoulders . Gun control? We need it. Yes, everyone has an opinion and having a blog makes you target to adversity. I feel sad that your article yesterday created such troubled feelings for you. I will be thinking of you today and hope you can find solace and happiness.
Brenda,
There is bound to be people who attack you personally for your beliefs….that does NOT make them right and you wrong!!!! Thank God you have this blog to state your beliefs!
Anyone who thought what you wrote was anti-American doesn’t get it anyway!!!!!
Just know that 99.9% of us out here love you and your blog!!!!
Brenda do not give them that power! I know it hurts but you are entitled to your opinion. We are all still grieving for what happened and just searching for answers to how to end this type of mass killings. I cannot stand that folks will pop off a hurtful comment but they wouldn’t say that to someone’s face. Your blog, your opinions and that is it. Pooey on them.
I hope you filter out all this rudeness from some very rude people who should be labeled”UNGRACIOUS” state your opinion but be nice…no one needs to hear rude nasty remarks sent to Brenda just to hurt her feelings…most of you could NOT even walk in her shoes you would be crawling and begging for help not holding your head up high like she does and goes on with her life…shame on you all!!!! we all love you Brenda and we need you in our lives doing your blog every day…to hell with these ungrateful bitches!!!Carol
BRAVO Brenda and Claudia. DO NOT stop blogging Brenda because of some people who disagee with you or read into what you say because that is how they interpret it. This is YOUR blog and if they don’t want to read it, so be it. GOOD-BY—-I certainly wouldn’t cry over it—it is not worth it. Obviously I agree wtih both you and Claudia 100% ( as dio the majority of posts),so will probably see posts here telling me that I am not patriotic and very wrong for supporting restrictions on assault weapons. That is okay—they don’t know me or know my situations but it is their right to disagree. Meanfully attacking is NOT, as far as I am concerned freedom of speech—it is ignorance.
Having an opinion and expressing it should not ever make you a target. We do have that freedom and it is really sad to see so many people attack others just because they do not agree with your opinion ( and I mean you in the general sense not you personally Brenda). In fact, I find that much scarier than the topic.
You are a kind and tender-hearted person, Brenda. Of course you would be shaken by unkind remarks, as would I or most anyone else for that matter. Please do not delete your blog because of a few people who disagree and say they won’t come back. It’s their loss. Please don’t make their loss OUR loss, kwim? I don’t comment often, but read your blog pretty regularly and love to see what’s new in your wonderful cozy little house.
It’s a fact that not everyone will agree on many topics as we’re all different, but there is certainly no need for anyone to be hateful. I’m sorry that your feelings were hurt. Don’t let it get you down. I haven’t read all the comments prior to writing this, but I’m sure most everyone else feels the same way I do.
Keep on keeping on and don’t let the few who are disagreeable keep you from the many who love you.
~Cheryl
I hope that you know that you are loved and a very special person. We have never met, I enjoy your blog. I check on you almost everyday. I would miss you if you stopped your blog. Please take these people with a grain of salt.
Brenda,
I’ve never met you in person or even on the phone, but I do feel like you are my friend. I have visited you almost everyday via your blog for about two years now. I have come to admire you, your courage, your tenderness with Charlie and Abi, your beautiful writing and gorgeous photos, the way you put together a vignette, and don’t get me started on those quilts! What I am trying to say is, please don’t stop blogging, because if you do, I won’t have my friend to visit everyday. From the comments left here, I’m not the only one that would miss you. I didn’t comment on yesterday’s post because I don’t like it when things get ugly and well I’m a chicken and usually run for cover! I get my feelings hurt too easily. It sounds like you did get your feelings hurt and I’m so sorry for that! Go and spend some sweet time with Charlie Ross and Abi and come back to blogging when you feel better! Please?!
Xo,
Charlotte T
Brenda-
Most of the comments were in support of your feelings and just as you have the right to say whatever you wish on your blog…others have the right to say whatever they wish in comments. Don’t pay any attention to the haters…they don’t matter. Most of us agree totally with you. Don’t be down by the few random harsh comments. It’s obvious that those people hating….probably hate on lots of things. Obviously, their politics are different than your’s (and mine). I for one can’t believe people got so upset over you saying you were not proud to be an American. Don’t you have the right to say…today I don’t feel good about what is going on in America. We have lots to be embarrassed of in this country and those who do not realize it…are ignorant. I am very glad I live in America. I don’t want to live anywhere else but yes sometimes I’m embarrassed by some of the citizens of our country and ashamed.
I’m sure those that you’ve helped with their blogs were not among those who commented hatefully. Keep on posting just like you always do don’t let their opinions keep you from stating what you really feel.
Nita,
I think maybe you expressed it better. “I’m embarrassed by some of the citizens of our country” . Not being proud of fellow Americans and their actions is not the same as not being proud of BEING an American. Maybe semantics to some, but it does sound much different.
I am glad I didn’t have time to visit much yesterday. I missed the brouhaha. I don’t know what you said…and I don’t care what you said…but I will defend your right to say it to the nth degree. That is one of our rights as Americans. God bless you-keep blogging-you don’t want to give it up because of a few -when you are loved by many- xo Diana
Well, speaking one’s mind certainly opened a few doors to shout at you didn’t it! Of course you are entitled to have a view, and I personally think that your view is very valid and is correct in thought and perception. I enjoy reading your blog as so many others do too, and to let small minded hate aggravated beings cause you to close it down would be a shame. Don’t waste another brain cell in thinking about them, just concentrate on your loved ones, and lets try and get this coming New Year, to be new and loving and kind to everyone we meet or talk to, either in blogland or outside it! Hugs from across the Pond, and Happy Christmas to you and all your dear ones, Janzi
Janzi,
Just because others opinions do not agree with your own does not mean they are: “small minded hate aggravated beings”. Everyone is “entitled to have a view”. You stated (so “eloquently” I might add) that readers not agreeing with Brenda are “small minded hate aggravated beings” because the opinions expressed do not agree with yours (which happen to agree with the blogger!) I do believe it would be a shame for Brenda to shut down her blog. However, if comments are going to upset her, she should consider disabling them or she should make her blog private and have only invited readers. This would help insure those reading hold the same views and keep her from getting upset when others do not agree with her.
Again, half of what you said didn’t even make sense. ???
Denise… I think that you’re crazy..
Denise, why are you attacking my comments? Did you not read the comment I was responding to and quoting from? I cannot, for the life of me, understand what doesn’t make sense to you. I am really too tired to explain another comment to you, but I will try. I am telling Janzi that not all people are going to agree with her and just because they do not agree with her, they are not “small minded hate aggravated beings”. The words in the quotation marks are Janzi’s, not mine, I am just quoting her. I then state that Janzi used those words (the ones in quotation marks) eloquently; — that was a small bit of sarcasm. I went on to say I thought Janzi’s opinions agreed with Brenda’s and that is why she called others, with differing opinions, “small minded hate aggravated beings”–again, Janzi’s words, not mine. After that, I said it would be a shame if Brenda shut down her blog. I then proceeded to recommend to Brenda that she make her blog private. If Brenda made her blog private, she would not have to deal with unwanted comments.
I am not sure if I understand why the remarks would be so offensive. It actually seemed as if the ones who were agreeing with you were just as ‘ugly’ as the ones who opposed you. Although it was directed at the opposing comments. I did not take offense with the gun control on semi automatic weapons, but I did take offence on not being proud of being an American. I think being an American citizen is taken too lightly. If you came from a communist or third-world country and became a citizen you would TRULY understand how incredibly lucky we are to be American citizens, no matter what!
I was raised around rifles, raised my children around rifles (not semi auto) and find them a necessary part of life when you live in the country. I have killed rabid animals, put animals down that have been torn apart by coyotes, hit by cars that just leave them suffering on the side of the road, and fended off burglars. So there are uses for guns from regular citizens. I don’t hunt but my children do. They love it, and that’s fine.
There are so many people speaking about how they don’t hurt or eat a living thing. Well that is just not true! They are wearing clothing made from cotton, cotton is a living plant. Those vegetables, grains and fruits that people eat are living things at some point. So to those people in particular, don’t get to high and mighty about not “hurting a living thing”.
I have read your blog for so long and have enjoyed your sharing, that this will not turn me away. But I do wish you and the others would keep a little bit of an open mind on the gun control issue. It isn’t the guns that are killing, it is the person behind that gun. And yes, I know that a semi auto will kill so many more people quickly, but a bomb will do the same thing. I lived through the OKC bombing, so I do know what destruction is. And if someone is bent on destroying they will!
Also, I have chosen to look at this tragedy in a different light. I choose to think that these children are in the most blessed place a child could be, HEAVEN. They will never know any more pain, disappointment, or sickness. They will forever be happy and loved in the arms of Jesus. They will always be laughing and playing together.
And don’t think I don’t understand gun violence, I do…my father was shot in the head by a friend during a quarrel. But my Grandma never blamed the gun, just the man who pulled the trigger. And that’s how I was raised, blame the person, not society, not government, not the means of the destruction and never God.
Thanks you.
Well said!
Very well said! We must, each one, become responsible for our actions. We must also assign value to all human life beginning in the womb, continuing in the school yard, and, finally, up till the moment of a natural death. All humans are important; both the born and the unborn waiting to make their entrance into our lives. No doubt, we can not fathom the loss of great contributions those killed in Connecticut, and those individuals killed in the womb may have made to our great country, if they had only been given the chance.
This really isn’t a topic on abortion. Plead your case on that elsewhere, please.
The topic is senseless deaths. In this particular discussion the senseless deaths were caused by automatic weapons, and because of this, Brenda feels the weapons should be banned.
The senseless deaths of those precious children and adults in Connecticut directly parallels the senseless deaths of millions of unborn babies.
I was making a comparison between the two types of senseless deaths we are witnessing in our society. It is my opinion that both types of deaths are cause by the devaluation of human life. My reply was about taking responsibility for our actions and about valuing life; all life— the born and the unborn. By placing greater value on all life, maybe we can prevent future tragedies.
It will never cease to mystify me why people cannot see the comparison and the downhill spiral resulting from devaluing human life. No it’s not about abortion it’s about life and death. People want to blame guns, video games and Hollywood films, well abortion should be added to the list!
Dear Brenda,
I ardently defend your right and the rights of those angry, most un-God-like religious hypocrites, who yesterday, so rudely and ungraciously, exercised the right of free speech. Most of us are experiencing shock and anger at the most recent American atrocity & tragedy, but that does not need we have to spew nonconstructive hateful comments upon each other for voicing our opinions. Yes, the USA is a wonderful country, but such a large nation is bound to have numerous faults, easy availability of weapons for all and underfunding and sorely inadequate resources & treatment for the mentally ill, being two of the reasons that those poor souls died in a hail of gunfire.
Don’t you dare delete your blog… I and many others enjoy it everyday. Those who disagree with you can find like-minded blogs elsewhere. You spoke your mind and politely responded to those who were downright rude and nasty toward you for that. Continue you grace under fire, Brenda, for there are many out there who are hopelessly closed-minded…. all my very best wishes to you and thanks for your lovely blog!
From your comment you are the “un-God-like religious hypocrite, “rude, ungracious person here. It amazes me you criticize others for “spewing nonconstructive hateful comments. You are the one who is closed minded, and bigoted, perhaps you should read you own comment, it’s obvious what kind of person you are, and I’ll let you figure it out.
Sorry that you misunderstood my post. I wish you a merry Christmas, and most of I wish peace and goodwill to all.
Wow, I missed a lot while my internet was down. First of all, thanks so much for featuring my Christmas spoons a few posts back. We may never have met in person, but I feel like I know your heart, and that your heart is with these families that lost loved ones. This is a very hot topic, and I can see both sides. Touchy subject and I am not surprised that you got some angry people posting here. Please understand that the readers who say they aren’t coming back are angry about your stand on gun control. It isn’t a rejection of who you are as a person. And even if they don’t like you, you have value as a person no matter what your opinions are. Joyce Meyers always says 10 percent of the people are not going to like you, period. So it has nothing to do with you. I hope you stick around, because I enjoy coming for a visit.
Any time you discuss politics or religion or peoples rights, you can count on some backlash. Don’t feel bad about it, just know that it’s gonna happen and you have to move on from it, not absorb those commenters who insist on nasty or hateful remarks. They are part of the problem if they can’t have a civilized discussion with someone who has a different point of view.
The only thing that I found sad was your statement that you were not proud to be an american. The reason you are able to have this blog and free speech, is because you are an american. Cherish that freedom. What happened was a terrible, horrible tradegy, but goes so much further than the 2nd amendment. Yes our country does need change, not only societal change, but economic, health care change, etc etc. Our country is not perfect, as is no country or no person. Keep your blog. You are a talented writer, photographer and your blog is lovely. I have read it from the beginning. But remember, when you put yourself out there, there will be some who do not agree, and some will be less than gracious about it. Remember that anything important is not easy, and that dialogue is the beginning of change. Embrace it (good and bad). That is what “freedom of speech” is all about. And that is why “I” am proud to be an American.
Hang in there, Brenda! You have a right to say what you feel in your heart! I made a statement on my blog, I haven’t checked to see what has been said about it, but it’s what I feel and I had to comment. I am so heartbroken about the recent events, as are most of us!
I, among many others, read your blog every day. What you have to say is of interest to those
of us that follow you. Keep posting, we care about you AND what you are thinking!
Hugs, dear friend!
Okay, I was not going to comment but I just have to put my two cents in
I didn’t agree with everything you said but I am sorry that you received such hateful respones. I have not been a follower of your blog for very long but have enjoyed reading it. I started following when you, Cladia and a few other blogs did posts about being economical. Just by reading your posts I know your heart is in the right place. Though I did not agree wth everythng you wrote, I don’t believe it came from a place of being unpatriotic. Again, this comes from being a regular follower of your blog and knowing you are not mean spirited and believing that you want things to change so that we can all be safe and be better. Because we are better then this. You were just expressing your opinion. Shame on those who think less of you becaue of it. I hate when people are hurtful and choose not to be understanding.
If you jump in the fire you will feel the heat. You are entitled to beleive what you want but I am also entitled to beleive what I want and saying you are ashamed of America is just unbeleivable. Many of my family are and have served in the military. They have protected your right to free speech just as they have protected mine. If you want to jump in the political frey this is what happens. People do not agree with one another. May you have a Blessed Christmas even if you refuse to celebrate it. I commented a month or so ago about you taking your blog political and that was not why I liked reading your blog.
You can just stop reading her blog then, Maureen, if you don’t like it. Very Simple.
It’s is just fine to disagree with Brenda or anyone else, it can be done nicely…many folks were quite rude in their comments in the previous post.
I think a lot of blogs are going political, Claudia recently wrote two posts on how “bloggers” should not have politics on their blog. So basically she wrote a political posts. Then proclaimed said she will talk about “social” issues. It’s amazing to me some bloggers criticize what other bloggers write about, how many parties they link with etc. Why are they so judgmental about what others do on their own blog. I agree with Maureen, if you can’t take the heat, don’t turn it up.
I have been reading all the comments and felt like I had to respond. My husband is active duty military and we are currently four months into a two year separation. We know personally the sacrifices and dedication that service members (and their families) make. When Brenda made the comment she wasn’t proud to be an American, I felt she was speaking to the situation and not making a grand proclamation in general. Words when written, can so easily be taken out of context due to lack of punctuation, a missing verb or pronoun, etc., just as the spoken word can take on a different tone depending on the inflection of ones voice. But, if you ‘know’ the person, you would/should be able to gleen what they are attempting to say. There are times that I, and most everyone I know, gets frustrated and upset with our elected leaders and by virtue of that, our country. In spite of those feelings, we know deep down how very fortunate we are to live in this great Nation and wouldn’t change that for the world. I think at this point, regardless of how we interpreted the comment, it would be nice if the subject was dropped and that we all do our part to make this world a better place, one small kindness at a time. That is the best tribute we can pay forward, for both the victims of this, and all tragedies, as well as those who volunteer to defend this country for all of us.
Maureen,
Please thank your family members for their service to our country. My father was in the Air Force for 25 years. I am a very very proud american.
Oh my goodness Brenda! What happened? I started reading throught the comments from yesterday but there are so many to get through. Please don’t ever stop blogging. I’m sorry that you had a difficult and emotional evening due to something somone said. Blogging is a public forum and unless you moderate all the comments, you will get some that are totally off base and mean. Don’t ever let this deter you from being who you are and sharing your views and opinions. I really enjoy coming over here each week. You share so much of yourself and yes, you do help lots of other bloggers with your tips and creative ideas. What happened to your pretty cozy little house design logo at the top of your blog. Your blog looks different to me today. Please give your little doggies a hug and hang on tight to their unconditional love. I’m still celebrating Christmas this year, but it’s not the same. We all have to do what personally feels right. On Tuesday this incredible sense of sadness came over me and I just sobbed for a couple of hours on and off. I was listening to a news story about comfort dogs going to Conneticut to help the community and I just lost it! I think I was feeling the collective sadness of this whole incident. I hope people will continue to discuss the gun and mental health issues. Oh how I long to go back to a simpler time where we didn’t have so many people carrying guns. A time when our children could go to school and feel safe. Growing up school was my safe haven. I hated going home because I never knew what condition my alcoholic father would be in. I loved school and always felt safe there. Keep blogging Brenda. I know you will. This will pass and you will be back to feeling good again. Sending you light, love, prayers and cyber hugs. I can tell by reading your blog that you are a beautiful soul.
SOOOOOO well said Sandy….You stated and expressed what was in my heart but I was unable to put into words….. keep up your spirit, drive and determination Brenda….we love you for who you are and for what you stand for. God Bless America!
Maria xx
Brenda, please do not stop blogging. If some people are so vehemently opposed to the very idea of questioning the gun culture here in America, there are many, many other blogs out there they might be happier with. I for one believe in questioning many things about our country, yet that doesn’t make me any less patriotic than the next person. In fact, I think it shows how much I care about our country. And on another note, as many people have brought up, our mental health system is in dire need of help. I wish people, including some on my FB page, would spend more time discussing that issue than posting the “Love it or leave it” type of pictures and comments that seem to be so popular right now.
Brenda I am so sorry that some of the comments were hateful and hurtful. I agree with so much you said. We all have our opinions and the right to express them. That is what makes our country so great….and the refusal to look at our ‘faults’ is what is weakening our country. Please don’t stop blogging. Your voice is important and I would miss it very much!
hugs, Linda
Having lived in Australia, I could not wait to get back to the US of A. Probably because I am a very spoiled American, it was too difficult for me to adjust to what felt like country living. It was a long time ago, but it felt as though I had been transported back in time. I still have family living in the land of Oz. I am also world travelled, and I know people who comment on world affairs and they have never left their hometown. My point is I feel I have a valid point of view, and I appreciate Brenda for picking this topic for her blog.
After I first recovered from the absolute shock of what happened in Newtown, my very next thought was how the rest of the world would perceive us.
Posted….sigh
Ok, I think everyone should be concerned about how we look to the rest of the world. Not only this horrible incident, but all the other violent incidents which have unfolded in recent years. We have a government which doesn’t even understand the word compromise. What is it going to take to wake this country up, where we can say we are the free leaders of the world, proudly???
So sorry you have been hurt Brenda. I read your blog everyday and enjoy it very much. It would be a shame if you quit blogging. ♥
I guess I didn’t realize that your post yesterday was supposed to be so controversial. Since I read your blog daily, I just considered where you are coming from, and it seemed to me that you were reflecting on the post from the person in Austrailia in the light of recent events. What caught my attention was the reference to not having any children coming to your house this Christmas. That, to me, indicated that maybe you are still not reconciled with your daughter, and that must be so difficult for you right now. So no wonder you said enough with Christmas and took down the decorations. I’m sure you had no intention of riling up your readers, just were sharing your thoughts with us as I have come to expect. I would greatly miss your blog and hope you will keep at it. And I hope I am wrong and you will be seeing your family for Christmas. All the best.
Please do not delete you blog. If I offended you in any way with my comment, please forgive me.
This is a touchy subject for many. I am a gun owner but do not own assault rifles or misuse my ownership in any way.
I mourn these children deeply. It was a senseless act. I will never understand why things like this happen.
You shared an opinion of another and your opinion. A few people misjudged and crucified you for that sharing. I hope you do not count me in that group. Last time I read the Bill of Rights you still are allowed to voice your opinion.
For the radical comments you received,they are just opinions, too. Some have stronger opinions, that’s all.
The same thing happened to me when I spoke for guns, not a free rein ownership, but ownership with responsible guidelines and requirements. I, too, debated shutting it down…but I didn’t.
You are a valuable member of the blogging community. I enjoy your posts. You give us much joy.
Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and asking, no, begging, you to stay with us. Look on the bright side…you got lots of comments and that means you have a popular blog.
Dear Brenda, I just read yesterday’s post and today’s post. First of all, I think everyone’s nerves are on edge over last weeks horrific attack. I wish I could take all my holiday decorations down as you did, but my family might s****t me for doing so so I will endure the holiday. My husband works in a gun store one day a week in California. As a child he grew up with guns that were used for hunting and even he feels assault rifles should be banned. In California we have very strict gun laws with background checks and waiting periods so people don’t buy guns and do something in the heat of the moment. However, our state apparently does not limit the amount of guns a single person can own, hence many customers own 50 guns. This is where the staggering statistic of 9 out of 10 people owning guns may come from. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but they also must respect the opinions of others. I personally do not like guns of any kind, but I do believe if you take the guns away from law abiding citizens, then only the bad guys will own guns. If we ban gun sales, then truly the bad guys will be the only ones with guns. I think what happened on Friday has a lot to do with the mental health of the individual who committed these heinous acts, and there are probably so many things that caused this person to do these things that none of us will ever know about. I could go on and on, Brenda, but I will stop there. Don’t give up on your blog. Think of the many lives you touch every day and all the good that comes from what you do. You shouldn’t take the comments of people who were rude and inconsiderate to represent your readers. The blogging community is such a supportive and generous bunch so keep on doing what you are truly good at and what brings you joy.
Brenda,
Whenever you put a hot topic such as this out there for discussion, expect there to be a passionate difference of opinions, values and beliefs between all those who visit your blog. I am sorry if you were not treated with respect and please don’t quit your blog. You have to expect a wide variety of opinions including those opinions that don’t mesh with your own. After all everyone has a right to an opinion. Just putting in my two cents.
It seems there are many people out there who just cannot hear another person’s point of view. I for one experienced hateful comments just for standing up for the rights of unborn babies, I said I felt that the culture in this country that looks the other way when millions of unborn babies are killed on a daily basis has resulting in a devaluation of human life. This devaluation directly correlates to these growing atrocities like the murders at Sandy Hook. If people can blame video games, prevalence of guns, Hollywood movies why can’t I bring up the issue of killing via abortion? I guess because it’s not politically correct. Because of this I was attacked, wow, unbelievable! I was told I was spewing nonsense and political propaganda and was told to “go do something else”. So much for being able to express my opinion. This is a sad commentary on the state of our country when people cannot say how they feel without getting verbally attacked.
I agree with you, so many are rightly upset about this horrific tragedy, but not about the millions of unborn babies who are “murdered”. We seen that in this election what side doesn’t care about human life didn’t we, and unfortunately they won. They dehumanize life and all that is good in this country.
bRENDA,
You are one of the very best bloggers out there~ you have such a beautiful vocabulary and speak from the heart,
Thanks so much for all the hard work you put into your blog. It is such a blessing to read it each day.
Good Morning Brend
I came over from Meredith. So just to tell you: I am so glad that there is no such thing like THE Americans when it comes to guns. I’m so glad that there are poeple like you. Keep going! Have a nice day. Regula
Brenda – I read your blog yesterday and thought it was well written, thought provoking and very brave. I was sad to hear you had taken your Christmas decorations down but understood your need to. I didn’t comment or read any of the comments but I had to say something today. Don’t stop blogging or sharing your opinions or your life because there are haters out there. I understand what you were saying and only someone who doesn’t know you would accuse you of being unpatriotic. I agree with the opinions you hold. If I didn’t, I would express my disagreement but not the way some of your readers did. Personal attacks on you or Claudia are totally unacceptable but they do serve to illustrate the long road your country faces to solve this problem of proliferation of assault rifles. As I commented on Claudia’s blog, they say guns don’t kill people, people kill people but would they kill so many people if access to assault and semi-automatic guns were not so easy? I hope gun control continues to be a hot button issue and that the average American continues to make a stand to help ensure the safety of all the population. Many things need to be done but an outright ban on assault and semi-automatic guns is a really good place to start.
Brenda, I really enjoy your blog, and it is your blog so I also defend your right to take on such a sensitive subject. I defend everyones right to their opinion, if it is stated in a respectful way on someone else’s blog. Brenda was only stating that she wants to see a ban on assault weapons, and who can disagree with that after what has happened. Some of you that were offended by her comments never really addressed your feelings on an assault weapon ban. You can’t feel proud of your country when you have somthing so unspeakable happen to children. I feel the same way. I might have worded it differently but it is certainly understandable that someone could feel that way about something like this when you consider all the violence that is infiltrating this country every minute. Through violent video games, easy access to guns and lack of enough mental health services it is no wonder that these types of things occur. I never thought that small children would be harmed in this manner, it is so tragic. I have a lot of discontent with our government myself. It does not mean I am not patriotic or appreciative of our men and women in uniform. I want an even playing field for our men and women in the police force who put themselves in harms way every day just to do their job. There is so much sadness in the world now and people are going to feel passionate about these things. Some of us are very sensitve regarding these issues so I try to be open minded. An assault weapons ban would be a step in the right direction and if Congress would man up, I already know we can count on the women, we could get this done. It would be a start, but only a start then we could move on from there. Brenda I love your blog, so keep it up!
Hi Brenda,
Just keep on blogging and don’t worry about losing some readers. You will gain new ones, I promise you that.
When I hear guns don’t kill people I am just dumbfounded. Of course they kill people.
The Bushmaster assault type rifle that was used in the massacre of those innocent children and teachers is good for only 2 things. target practice and killing large amounts of people in a very short time. Any gun that can fire 30 rounds in under 10 seconds is not needed by the general public. You wouldn’t shoot a deer with that! The carcass would be destroyed.
We have gun shows all over this country that are not required to do any kind of background check. Talk about needing to be fixed! Domestic abusers, felons, mentally unstable can walk in purchase a weapon and walk out, no questions asked.
In 1994 former President Reagan came to congress and helped get the assault weapons ban signed into law. I think that says a lot.
Keep on blogging Brenda and don’t worry one bit about the naysayers.
I just went back to read that post. I am skipping all such discussion. For me, it is beside the point. If I were close to any person who died, I would be hurt by the direction of public discussion. I don’t want to talk about guns or even mental illness, right now. I want time to absorb and to heal. I want to honor the teacher who protected her kids. I want to send prayerful healing to the families and community. I am not calling any of this reaction wrong. I simply refuse to go there. It’s too soon. Anger and a call for action are not where I want to be, right now. If you knew me well, you would know that I am very opinionated.
This does not seem the time for my opinions. – Aunt Lou
Brenda, take a big breath ……and keep on blogging xxxx
Brenda, Please don’t give up your blog just because some idiots don’t agree with your post. It’s your blog and you can post what ever you feel like posting. Your feelings are never wrong. Just hit delete to those mean comments and they disappear. I enjoy your pictures and your comments. Thanks Love Elaine
Brenda,
One thing about living in this country is that we all have the right to free speech and all our other rights that go along with it. The freedom to bear arms to such a fundamental right and I think that is why people go nuts when they think it is being threatened. I agree with you assault weapons should only be used by the military and police, no other people have a need for those weapons. Hopefully President Obama can get something passed. At least everyone is now have conversations about gun control and mental health. What happened in Newtowne has changed this nation forever, and hopefully things will change over time and we will never have to face something like this again…..Wishing you a Blessed and Happy Christmas with those beloved doggies of yours…
Brenda,
I subscribe to your blog, but don’t have time to read it every day. I have not yet read the post you are referring to, just yesterdays and todays posts. I think the beauty of blogging and free speech for that matter, is that we can put our voice out there without getting in trouble with the law for it. Not all countries have that privelage. However, when we chose to say something, we must also be prepared for a reaction, and unfortunately not everyone’s comment are equally thought through.
Stay strong and don’t stop blogging because someone does not agree with you. You have a beautiful outlet here, stick with it.
Blimey!! (as we say here in the U.K.) you have taken a lot of flak over this haven’t you Brenda, hopefully it won’t put you off blogging, I get a lot of pleasure from seeing how you do things ‘over there’.
Here in England due to our strict gun laws unless you are part of the criminal fraternity the chances of being a victim of gun crime are almost negligible, I can honestly it is something I never think about. In truth for me the only time I feel slightly at risk is when I am visiting the U.S., sad but true.
I believe one the original questions posed was along the lines of how the rest of the world would perceive the U.S. in the light of the atrocity at Sandy Hook. Among my friends and myself I have to say that apart from the obvious horror and revulsion the initial reaction was one of “Not AGAIN !!” and an almost sense of resignation, rather than shock.
I have a great admiration for America, I wouldn’t visit as often as I do if I didn’t, my next visit is in less than a weeks time. However as someone who has only recently retired from child education I find the idea, read both on this blog and in the media, that maybe this tragedy could have been avoided had the teachers be armed to be wholly repellent.
By the way I think your expression of feeling less than proud of your country after this horrific event in no way equates to being ashamed of your country, but rather shows an open minded response, something not shown by some of the responders.
In short keep on blogging Brenda.
Andrea x
Brenda, I have been reading your blog for quite some time, and you are a gifted writer. Some of the opinions you express are similar to mine, and some are not. I didn’t think it was appropriate to post pictures of three of the murdered Sandy Hook children, and I said so. You were very kind in your response to me, but someone else was not. Among the other general responses, not one person seemed to agree with my thoughts, and that is okay. I still hold the same opinion, and quite frankly don’t need the approval of someone else to continue to hold my belief. The heading above your comment section says, “Speak Your Mind.” To me, that means you are inviting dissenting opinions. You cannot be upset when others have a very strong negative reaction to what you write on your blog, when you have just invited them to speak their mind. Saying something like you are not proud to be an American is going to illicit a strong reaction. You have been writing on emotion, and others are responding in kind. Perhaps not with kindness, but in kind. When you have an opinion on a hot button topic, remember that others do too. Keep writing, and either close your comment section, or understand that you will not always be seen as the voice of reason. That does not make you wrong. Or right.
I haven’t had a chance to read the other comments yet, but I did think you wrote an excellent post and expressed your opinions well. I agree with you and Claudia.
I’m sorry to be late here and that I wasn’t able to post a comment of support yesterday. I’m so very glad to see you have a new post this morning Brenda, don’t let the meanies get you down.
Sadly I’ve witnessed this sort of vitriol and pile on before online. I’m so very sorry that you and Claudia have taken such a beating. I agree with everything you both have so eloquently written.
I am flummoxed by the reactionary comments out there. Surely for any of us to ponder a situation, looking for answers, airing our concern, should not provoke this kind of response.
I am at a loss over the volatility and rigidity of those who feel so bothered by the mere suggestion that our country is not perfect, is a work in progress. Where do they find the lack of love of Country in wishing our country to be it’s best self?
There is not one single justification for us to have assault weapons. There is no wiggle room on this. Hoping we can all get together and do this.
Wishing you a brighter better day today!
WOW…some of your opinions I agree with and some I don’t.
I didn’t read all the comments on the other post, nor on this one. I generally DON’T read other comments, especially before I leave my own comment.
We all have the right to post what we want …even if we don’t all agree.
I agree with some of your opinions…some I don’t. But, that’s my right…just as it’s your right to write what you like.
We should all remember the Golden Rule and BE KIND…
Evil walks among us every single day and we all know the best way to strike him down is with PRAYER.
I have read your blog for about two years also…and don’t always comment. But I feel I have to weigh in. I keep coming back because of your pictures and your writing. You are a free spirit in my mind, and I enjoy that. You have opinions as do we all. You express them very eloquently…I only wish that other commentators would take the time to THINK before they leave a comment. There are more tactful ways for readers to express themselves.
Please keep writing your blog, and expressing your opinions…we are all better people because of them. After all, we do live in a free and democratic society…last time I checked. And this is your blog…you can and should write whatever you want. And if there are people that don’t like what you photograph or write about, they can also choose not to read your blog. I, for one, am here to stay!
Brenda, please don’t stop blogging. I look forward to your new post each morning. I agree, everyone has the right to their own opinion. But, there’s no need for people who disagree with you to be so hurtful and close minded. That’s why nothing ever gets done about anything in this country-everyone lashes out in anger and spitefulness when someone else disagrees with them instead of having an adult, reasonable conversation. I happen to agree with everything you said and your right to say it. I am so sorry you were so hurt.
Goodness, what has happened to civil discourse in this country. Brenda, sweet friend, I hope you will focus on the positives and not the negatives from your post. I actually wrote about this yesterday on my blog, because of all the anguish I am hearing after last week. I believe that the majority of people in this country are now finally coming around to the realization that assault weapons are not appropriate for civilians, and that we need to revisit the way mental illness it treated. Keep posting. Your views are important.
Hugs,
Laura
WOW….I didnt read yesterdays post yet! But I really feel bad that you are suffering so, from WRITING YOUR OWN BLOG! I have been following you for a few years, and love your posts. I have been following your friend Claudia too and love hers! I would really be devastated if you quit blogging. I look forward to you, again , although I didnt read yesterday! Our country is hurting from last weeks tragedy. I have shed so many tears myself for all of the lives ruined, and all due to ….guns?? mental illness??? Many discussions here! My husband and I dont even agree on the same issues. I HATE GUNS. He believes that people with mental illness should be getting the help that they need, and the guns will always be there. I HATE GUNS. THE WRONG PEOPLE HAVE THEM. The right people that want to protect themselves, and their family, or hunt, are usually never involved in these types of crimes. I live about 10 miles out of downtown Pittsburgh, and 2 14yr olds just shot and killed a woman, because they were asking for cigarettes and she told them to get a job (!!!??!!) So 14yr olds had guns??? Enough of my rant. Brenda, hang in there. Too many people love you.
I found all these comments interesting. To go back to the original comment that seems to have brought up the flack, I sense what you mean. We will always, always be proud of America for what she truly is! America is defined by her people as well as her history. I think of it much like a FAMILY……we can be proud of what our family has stood for, accomplished, does for others, etc. but as much as we love our children, we are embarrassed when they do not reflect the character or values for which we’ve sacrificed dearly for. Yes! We are always proud of America but sadly, sometimes ashamed of what some of our brothers and sisters have chosen to do. We don’t quit loving family because it erred and we don’t quit loving country because of it’s wayward children. Be strong! Be brave! Be proud! Be loyal and be true!
In leaving my comment above, it was not intended as a personal message to you, Brenda, nor to suggest that you are anything other than proud of your country. Instead, it’s my “vote” of encouragement for all of us to continue to put our best forward and never give up on our country! It’s one beautiful, wonderful country!
and am sorry you were so profoundly affected as to take down your holiday decorations. I am a psych nurse in a big city hospital and have personally tried to work on removing weapons from houses with a mentally ill (not mentally disturbed please.) Families are often unwillin I recently had a 1u year
I thought your post yesterday was right on point! Thank you for posting it!
Brenda, don’t stop blogging. I do not always agree with you or Claudia, but that is not going to stop me from reading your blogs. I still find them lovely and interesting and I still want to know what is going on in your lives. As for the people who have responded to you and Claudia with catty, bitchy, self-righteous and sanctimonious comments the only thing that I can say is that their lives are their own self-imposed punishment.
Dear Sweet Brenda,
I’m so sorry for the verbal attacks you received. Please remember that each comment, kind or unkind, is the opinion of that person. It has nothing to do with you. I hope you decide to keep your blog, but if you need to let it go, I’ll understand.
Each of us holds our own opinions and thoughts about guns. In our desire to protect the innocent, we tend to forget for a moment that those who disagree with us are not our enemies. We attack when we feel threatened, even if vicariously threatened.
To me, the issue is how to keep these horrendous things from happening, children killed and injured in schools and out, the mentally ill from harming themselves and others. I have no solutions. I wish I did. In the meantime, I will continue to try to encourage those who hurt.
May your heart receive peace.
To quote you, you are questioning “why we even have free speech.” We have it because countless people have sacrificed their lives so we may freely express ourselves. Until you said that, I used to enjoy reading your blog. Now, I am no longer interested in anything you may write, as you apparently have no appreciation for what has been done on your behalf. Whether or not you continue to write your blog does not matter-it is your choice, and the world will not stop turning if you stop writing. I am grateful for the right to exercise my freedom to use my “Delete” key, and eliminate your blog fom my list.
I have never made a comment to a blog before, but I am going to jump in here and say that this is Brenda’s blog and she has a right to post her opinions and you have a right to disagree and if you don’t like the post simply DON’T read it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We all grieve differently and that is our right! She wasn’t recommending that everyone do the same thing! She was just sharing how SHE was dealing with her grief over this unspeakable tradgedy!!! That has shaken everyone to the core. I no longer have a child in school to worry about his safety, but I have been an Instructional Assistant in Grades l-6 for the past 18 years and wonder how we would protect our students. It has always been a concern even before Sandy Hook. I hope that Brenda will continue the blog for those of us who enjoy it….
Wow! I can’t believe what I am reading! I’ve never seen a blog cause such a discussion or stir up such vitriol. I am deeply sorry that people have left cruel, caustic remarks and hurt you. Whether people agree with you or not, there is no excuse to make hurtful comments. If they don’t agree with you, they can still express their opinions or just quit reading your blog, but they have no cause to be rude or mean. Having travelled to a number of countries, I understand what you meant about not being proud to be an American because it was an American who killed these innocents and we hate to think of one of our own people doing something so heinous. We are often seen by those in other countries as being rude, arrogant, pushy–and obsessed with guns. At one time, I was convinced that all automatic weapons should be banned for the very reasons you mentioned. However, over time I have given this considerable thought and believe that it is necessary to have the right to these weapons as well as hunting rifles, shotguns, and even handguns. No, these weapons are not used for hunting, which was one of the reasons I opposed them. As time has passed, though, I believe we need to have access even to htese guns because the right to bear arms was carefully thought out by our forefathers, who realized that government can becom tyrannical and that citizens need to be able to protect themselves if that were to happen.
Yes, what happened was a tragedy. It happened because a mentally ill person was able to obtain a weapon. It seems to me that if we were to make sure that those with mental illness are not able to obtain weapons most of these incidents could be prevented. Think back at other situations like this: nearly every one, if not all of them, were done by people who were mentally unbalanced.
The thing about writing a blog is that you can write whatever you want. This conversation about patriotism (or lack of) reminds me of the flack Michelle Obama got in for saying that thing about being proud of her country for the first time. If you are so outraged and disgusted by Brenda’s remark, just quit reading her blog. The nasty remarks and holier than thou attitude isn’t necessary. To love our country sometimes means that we have to admit we’ve been wrong about something. And change.
So well said…
Brenda.. I cannot even begin to grasp all this bickering going on here. I am deeply disturbed at some of the comments you have received. This is YOUR blog. You have ever right to state how you are feeling. HOW DARE these people attack your FEELINGS!!! And what is up with the arguments going on between the people through the comments? I am just dumbfounded. FOR THE LOVE GOD!!!!! Will all of you who are arguing between yourselves STOP????????????????? I dont come to Brendas blog to read YOUR arguments between a few of you. I will read each comment you have left for BRENDA but to have an argument going on between a few of you is INSANE!!!! And what do a few of you EXPECT from CLAUDIA???????????? Her and BRENDA are great friends. OF course Claudia is going to support her good friend. Thats what good friends do. For those of you wondering who the heck I am…. I am an avid reader of a lot of blogs. I dont have blog so dont look for me. I have been reading Brenda and Claudias blog for quite sometime now. One thing I have taken away from these two ladies is their sincere hearts. Yes I like their decorating… but more importantly I gravitate to their sincere hearts. Brenda has had a rough time in the last few years. For those of you who are sending abrupt and harsh comments I am asking you to STOP. Back off Please. It IS Christmas time. WE ARE ALL STRUGGLING with what took place DEC 14th. PLEASE PLEASE be quiet and STOP lashing out at Brenda and Claudia. You ( and you know who YOU are) should be deeply ashamed of yourselves. IF you dont like Brendas “post” on a particular day then MOVE ON!!!! It is 5 am and I am furious. We have 26 innocent children and adults DEAD 11 days before Christmas and some of you decide to turn into ” blog BULLIES??????????? REALLY?????????? And we wonder why the USA is such a mess???? It all starts within each of our own hearts.
Brenda…. I LOVE your blog. PLEASE dont quit. PLEASE!!!!!
MJ
this is what I wanted and should have said….thanks MJ. I too am ‘blog-less’ and very much enjoy both Brenda’s and Claudia’s blogs Mostly for the heart I feel from them.
Dear Brenda,
I’ve read most of the posts on the original blog and I have my opinions but don’t feel the need to air them.
What I do need to say is that I completely understand your choice to remove the decorations. It took me a couple of days to get back ‘with it’ myself this week but I felt I had to do it. You see, my house has gone undecorated for two years now because of emotional events. The loss of a loved one and my home being broken into in mid-December.
I understand. You will appreciate decorating for Christmas more when you once again feel ready.
My best to you and wishes for a peaceful world for us all. (I’m sorry if that sounds like I’m running for Miss America.)
Sami Pat
well.
quite some debate here.
Just to add some gasoline to the fire-
I stand in solidarity with Brenda when I say that I am also deeply ashamed to be an American in the midst of a gun culture so ingrained that there is now a veritable run on Bushmaster assault rifles. Hello?
And don’t call me unpatriotic- every generation of my family has served in this country’s military from the King Phillips War (before we even were a country) to the present day conflicts in Afganistan
Questioning where our country is heading and being ashamed to be a part of it on a day when innocent children are being slaughtered is not unpatriotic- IMHO, it is much much more patriotic than the chest- thumping, holier-than- thou, empty rhetoric of some of the comments left in the past few days on Brenda’s blog.
I was also shocked and appalled that the Sunday after the shootings, Mass being held at the Catholic Church is Newtowne was shut down due to twitter and internet death threats.
Another form of cyber bullying. And while not as extreme, similar to the pile on that I am seeing here.
Brenda if you want to shut it down, or just delete the other day’s blog- I would completely understand. No one deserves this kind of vitriol for publishing a well expressed opinion.
But I hope you don’t. I like to see a gutsy, well written blog post every once in a while. It can’t be about roses and shabby chic all the time.
Your post was compeletly appropriate in light of the events of that horrible day.