Why Abuse Victims Don't Leave

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Your life may never have been touched by this. But you owe it to a woman you may know in the future, or a woman you know right now, to watch and listen.

When you see this woman, you will automatically think: This doesn't happen to women like her. Listen to why it does. And why she wrote a book called "Crazy Love." 

Why Domestic Violence Victims Don't Leave
Leslie Morgan Steiner

Please take 16 minutes out of your day to listen to this woman tell you why domestic violence victims don't leave. Please listen to her story here. 

Because she might be your sister, mother, aunt, best friend, daughter. Or you.

Just 16 minutes. And it may tell you more than you've learned in a lifetime.


  1. Oh- That is so so sad. It is really awful to feel so helpless and have a life that looks "normal" to the outside world..and yet be stuck in a scary place that no one can reach ... and you cannot get free because of the fear..xo Diana

  2. Wonderful video! I've had some experience with friends in this situation. I've been a victim of psychological abuse myself. It is so hard to get away, but it can be done. Thanks for sharing this!


  3. Chilling story, Brenda. Thanks for sharing it.

  4. Great video, and very interesting how she described his next steps descending even farther into this crazy behavior. I really liked her comment about how abuse thrives in darkness and not being shared. The isolation is also interesting, but a story I've heard over and over.

  5. Thank you Brenda for sharing. I thank God everyday that the man I married is loving and kind. I was 19 when we married, he was 26. I had no idea what I wanted or even what I deserved. I am so lucky that he is the kind of man that I do want and deserve. The real point of the video is that women can get away from abuse by lighting that spotlight, and go on to have a good life.

  6. Very enlightening video, thanks for sharing it.
    Abuse must be brought out into the light and TOLD to as many as the victim can reach.

    the flip side of her story is:::

    So many women are so desperate for companionship that even with prior knowledge that the man is an abuser, they will scoop the bastard right up because they are deluded enough to believe " They can cure Him" "He wont be that way with Me" or "He's just soooooo misunderstood"
    No amount of previous behavior on his part , gets through to those women. I have seen this happen several times and each time it sickens me. YES Ladies, if he did it to Her, He WILL do it to you~!

  7. My daughter has been married to an abuser for over 30 years. When I found out about the abuse about 20 years ago, I was so mad I told everybody I knew - family, friends, co-workers, you name it. I didn't know I was doing the right thing but was driven by anger. I told her to tell him I was doing it, too; and everybody would know what a sorry piece he was and if I found out it happened again I would call his boss. He had a very good job he didn't want to lose. She told his mother and she said, "Well, you just need to not do anything to upset him." I wanted to knock a knot on her head. I found out later she had been abused by his father so she thought it was "normal." Long story short, as far as I know the abuse stopped. It was good to hear the lady in the video say that getting it out in the light was the right thing to do.

  8. As you have all seen on the news, the story of Ray Rice and his fiancé (who later married him), who punched her so hard in the face he knocked her out and dragged her off the elevator into the hallway and dropped her there. It is sickening to watch, more sickening to know she later married him, and even more sickening to watch them sitting side by side swearing they are gonna show us all "what real love is".
    I grew up in a home where my father repeated beat my mother. Often times my sister and I watched her "taunt" him, knowing what was coming next. (DO NOT EVER READ INTO THIS THAT SHE IN SOME MANNER DESERVED WHAT HE DID TO HER!) What so many people fail to recognize, and I have only heard this mentioned once on the news, that a man who would beat his girlfriend, or beat his wife, will also BEAT HIS CHILDREN! And my father did! So to all the women out there who is dating an abuser, if you can't get out for yourself, do it for your future children! They should not have to pay the price for this dysfunctional mess. I thank the Lord that I married a very good, kind and gentle man who would never raise a hand to me. But in reading this post, and I am 66 years old, I can still hear in my head the sounds coming from my mother as my father, the one who promised to love and protect us all from harm and danger, slap, punch, kick and choke her. Sickening, just sickening.........

  9. I worked for a time at our local sheriff's office, and the stories I heard about this very topic were enough to make a person's skin crawl. The message must be spread! Thank you, Brenda, for sharing this.


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