Blissful Sleep & What We Have

Finally a decent night's sleep. I have decided I just cannot take the Hydrocodone. Makes me crazier than a junkyard dog. And sleep elusive.

Last night I took a muscle relaxer and slept. Oh, heavenly sleep.

Sleep. Such a simple thing to ask for. But sometimes it is elusive.

We are promised nothing in this world. We are here right now, but in a flash it can all be gone. No matter how strong your moorings, the concrete of your foundation can shift and crack at any time. 

Which is why all the little moments in life are so important to enjoy. That first sip of coffee in the morning. The spring bulbs pushing up through the dirt at winter's end. 

From trees budding, to the changing of seasons.

Ebb and flow.  

Time and tide waits for no man.

Enjoy them all. Sit and stare out your window and take time to reflect on what you have this very minute. What you cherish and hold dearest. 

Knowing nothing is permanent. But everything in between is precious.


  1. That is why it is so important to live in the here and now. I am so glad you were able to get some sleep, Brenda. Great post. xo Laura

  2. I admire a long marriage. A devoted marriage. An admired marriage. My folks' marriage....(53 years).
    SO glad you got some sleep! Bulb planting this weekend and it will be nearly 80 degrees. My thoughts on 80 degrees: I hate it. I want rain so bad. Have a wonderful weekend. Hugs.

  3. I am just catching up sad to hear about John, and am thinking of Judy. I am glad your surgery went well, and that you finally had a nice sleep. I hope you keep on getting better, take care Brenda. Sending love.
    Helen xox

  4. Your words are so true Brenda..I can only imagine the kind of love they have had for each other..till death do us part..such beautiful words..

  5. You wouldn't be overdoing it would you? I'm glad you did get some rest. It's crucial now you do rest. Judy is in my thoughts, such a difficult time.

  6. So glad the change in meds worked and you got a good sleep. My Mom couldn't take the hydrocodone either. Hugs.

  7. Little things like my Miss Bella snoring on the couch next to me!

  8. Brenda, I am glad you got some need it to heal. You know Brenda, I have been thinking of Judy and John all week.... when you wrote what he said to her about not knowing her but knowing he loved her. ... that just touched my heart so much. God will have a special place for John. Live can be so short, we are not promised all the days we we better make them all count. Find , like you said,. A simple joy in each day. Bless you , xoxo,Susie

  9. Darn straight, Brenda. Nothing like the death of a loved one to make you realize how precious every moment of life is.

  10. May all Judy's family and friends comfort her and may the wonderful memories surround her. Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with Judy and with all John's friends and family <3

  11. I'm glad you got some rest. It's good to hear that Judy is hanging in there. I know it will hit her later. John sounds like such a special man, I am glad we got to know him even a little through her blog and yours.

  12. After being so sick last year I know how fragile life really! It's moment by moment....I hope that Judy has her family to lean on. Glad you got a good nights sleep.

  13. Glad you were able to get some good rest. Judy is still in my thoughts and prayers.

  14. The older I get, the more I realize how fleeting time is. Somehow, I think no matter how old we live, it's never long enough. I look at all of nature's gifts, especially this time of year, and I think 'how can anything be more beautiful than this'. Nope, if heaven doesn't have these things, I'm staying put.

  15. You are so right...I just went to a class, where everyone had to go around the room and say something they were grateful for, that may, at first glance, seem insignificant. The lesson was, that no matter how small, if you're grateful for it, it's not insignificant.

  16. I'm glad you've been able to get some sleep, makes a world of difference. My thoughts have been with Judy, too. When my father passed away 6 months ago, my parents had been married 60 years. It is such a change to suddenly be on your own and to miss your other half so terribly...

  17. I hope you're healing well, Brenda, and glad you were able to sleep. There are some pain meds I can't take either; they make me jittery.

    Thanks for the news about Judy. I'm keeping her in my prayers.

  18. Nothing as restorative as a good night's sleep. I don't do well with narcotics either. Terrible nausea and spinning head.

  19. What wonderfully wise words. We should be grateful for every day we're given, even if things don't always go the way we want. Thank you for Judy's address. I sent a card yesterday morning. Blessings

  20. Glad you got some sleep last night, sleep is so important. Judy is such a good friend and life has some very difficult moments.

  21. My heart skipped a beat when I read about John and Judy. The link between two souls is priceless.....
    There is an absolute stillness when the soul leaves the body as it passes between this world and the next. If you happen to be with the person when it happens, you feel it silence...........
    I hold Judy in my prayers and in my heart. Blessings...... Nanny

  22. You are so right about things changing in a flash, and appreciating what you do have. We certainly have experienced that following my husband's job layoff. After two years of challenges, we have been set back financially, but we have received other blessings along the way. My biggest gains are that I no longer fret as much about mistakes in the past, or worry as much about the future. I have really have had to focus on getting by in the present. It has been a great lesson. I think reading this blog and hearing about your challenges and Judy's has been a big help in terms of learning about dealing with adversity. Thanks!

  23. I'm so glad you got some good sleep Brenda. Sleep is healing.

    My heart goes out to Judy for her loss. I lost my dear husband 23 months ago tomorrow. We were married 43 years. My life changed drastically from what it was, the grief is not as raw as in the beginning, but I miss my love every single day and tears can happen at the drop of a hat. We will be reunited one day, until then, I trust in God to be my strength with each day that I am blessed with. I am thankful for my many blessings big and small, and for the love we had. My love for him continues to grow with each new day, even though he is no longer here.

    Judy is in my prayers as she starts on this journey of widowhood.

    Love and hugs to you and a speedy recovery too ~ FlowerLady

  24. Beautifully said Brenda. Judy remains in my prayers constantly!
    So glad you got some restful sleep. Wishing you a prompt recovery!

  25. Beautiful post!
    Thank you for sharing you thoughts with us. Our lives can change so quickly.
    Hope that you feel better each day.

  26. Yes, well said. Life is fleeting, we must enjoy it moment by moment.

  27. I really love your last line. It can be so hard to live in the moment...there are so many distractions. Sometimes I feel like I'm a hamster on a wheel. I have plenty of down time, that's a sure thing, but I always have plans and ideas and "To Do's" going through my head. That's why I can't sleep.

    This was such a nice post, I am glad knowing that Judy has a large family. With her happy personality, she probably has a lot of friends. She will need a lot of time to grieve alone but I think...and I only say this as I imagine it to be true, that when you lose a spouse, you suddenly have to learn navigate alone, and that's important. But that loneliness can lead to relentless grief instead of moving on. Just my thoughts. Thanks for keeping us posted.

    And good for you for getting some sleep. I have Naproxen for my back and sometimes when I am tense and can't sleep, I ache all over. The relaxation I get from this helps me a lot. If you are still in a lot of pain, there are alternatives to Hydrocodone.

    Sending a hug, I hope you get that shut eye again tonight. And hey, I'm home! Milo and Layla have not left my side...I think they are worried I'm going to disappear again! :)

    Jane x

    Jane xx

  28. Thank you for a beautiful post. I am glad you are on the way to recovery. Judy is in my thoughts, I am touched by the depth of feeling she and John shared and his statement to her about loving her in spite of not knowing who she is. That makes me wonder about the where and how our feelings come from. Are our feelings separate from our ability to express such feelings? Thank you for sharing your story, I am touched by the depth of feeling in your posts.

  29. Oh sleep can be so wonderful. I do thoses silly quizzes on facebook. When they list several things that you wish for and sleep is mentioned, that's the one I check. I am doing better in that department.
    So glad you spoke to Judy. Praying for her.
    Hugs for you.


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