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Brenda has been writing since grade school. She attended journalism school where she majored in professional writing. She loves to decorate, garden, read and spend time with her Yorkies.

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Pretty Pansies & Social Media Whores



The pansies have really perked up since the weather cooled off. I just love all their pretty colors.


I'm trying to get laundry done and just had the dogs groomed. Trying to make sure everything is ready for my surgery at 7 a.m. tomorrow. 

I've mopped and cleaned and bought groceries and even already have my pain meds ready for when I get home. I like to be prepared.


I'll post something as soon as I'm aware enough and can think. Might be tomorrow. Might be a day or two. 

Me and the pupsters are ready for some rest. I have books ready to read. I've scooted a rolling table up next to my bed so I can eat and get to my laptop and all that stuff. 

I was going to buy some magazines. But have you seen the prices on those things lately? Even People magazine is $5 now. Hard to spend money on magazines when Pinterest is free. 

 
I've been hearing some hullabulloo about people being upset with not just Facebook for changing their policies, which I know nothing about since I don't really use it. 

But now the anger spotlight is focused on Pinterest. Seems the people in charge are now choosing what we view. Instead of the way it was. 

Why do they have to mess with a good thing? Money, I guess. It always comes down to money and greed. 

You know what I think? I think we should boycott social media entirely. I know some bloggers think we live and die by social media, but I don't agree. 

I use Pinterest for pleasure, so I'm not much affected by changes made to all the social media sites. But they have you by the throat if you're spending your day promoting, promoting, promoting on their sites. They can change the rules any time they like. And you're forced to go along. You don't get a choice.

I really think it might send a message to just stay off social media, concentrate on your blog and the content there. Think how much more time you'd have!

In the olden days, six or so years ago, we didn't use social media much. We wrote our blogs and visited one another and enjoyed blog parties. We were friends and we cheered one another on.

And then suddenly a new league of bloggers came along and it all changed. It was all about sponsors and ambassadorships and climbing up the blog world ladder. 

We didn't step all over one another trying to get ahead. We just did our own thing and made blogging friends all over the world and it was a grand old time. We commented on one another's blogs and it was a pretty level playing field.

Do any of you remember those days?

While I'm on this topic, have you gotten any comments on your posts by any of the so-called "big bloggers" lately? I haven't, so I've stopped visiting them. Occasionally they would drop me an email to thank me for my comment. What the hell is that about?

Who the heck do they think helped them get where they are? That they become so haughty that they expect you to comment, but they're not going to bother visiting your blog. 

Well, go jump in the lake, is what I say. I'll boycott them too while I'm at it. 

I refuse to be a "social media whore" and I refuse to cater to the "big bloggers" who've decided the world now revolves around their needs. I'm just flat fed up.

What do you guys think?

I believe you can make money blogging and not be what I've seen termed as "a social media whore." (Not my phrase, someone else's.)

Well, they're not going to have me by the ying-yang. That's not how I blog and I don't intend to change.

Food for thought. 

See ya after surgery.

Cozy Little House
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  1. I hope all goes well with the surgery, Brenda, and you're soon back to full health. Take it easy and look after yourself. Hugs, from one small time bloggy friend to another x

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    1. I'm a small town girl now living in a big city. But I'll be darned if I'll be a small-time blogger helping them climb the ladder by reading their blogs and promoting them. One day, I'll be a small town girl again, where I began.

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  2. I quit blogging for over a year, because those "big bloggers" were not interested in what I had to say. I don't have any special craft, my house is ordinary and nothing I would want to share pictures with anyone. I do enjoy "how to's" and inexpensive ideas to make my home more homey, like yours. I don't garden and I do not live for my house, tablescapes, or any of that. Yes, and I do get "thank you for visiting my blog" from the big guns once in a while, but they never REALLY comment on what I write. They can jump in a lake too!! However, I do enjoy your blog and I hope you recover quickly from your surgery! God bless you.

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    1. Just let them be. They'll wear themselves out jumping over one another to get to the next big gig. Just be yourself. I don't have a big fancy house either. And that's just fine by me. Guns, big or small, are not my style.

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  3. Praying for a good and fast recovery for you. Surgery is no picnic, as you well know. I do not blog, just an ordinary follower and truly enjoy you, Claudia, Judy and several others. I do not do Pinterest or Facebook. I don't need to so much "important" information. My life is fine without the latest Geegaw. Take care. God bless.

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    1. There are so many geegaws! And they're multiplying rapidly. I don't even know what Instagram is. I don't know how to text. I want to keep my life as simple as I can. How else can you enjoy it?

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  4. Good luck on your surgery. You seem to be well prepared for it. I know what you mean about the big bloggers. When I was blogging, it took me a while to realize that blogging etiquette meant if you commented on my blog, then I should visit yours and comment on it. It didn't take me long to realize who the "big guns" were, although there were some pleasant surprises, too.

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    1. Sometimes there is the pleasant surprise, and I agree with you wholeheartedly. We all live and learn.

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  5. Brenda, first of all, my best wishes for your surgery and recovery.
    Secondly, well said! I am a new blogger. I started as a hobby to fill my time with something I love. I'm not fancy, & I don't have a fancy camera. I'm just doing what I would be doing anyway.
    The "older" bloggers such a s yourself, have been nothing but gracious and supportive. The "big" bloggers are way too intense for me. It causes me stress to try and compare myself to them, so I stopped looking at their stuff altogether.
    Your post made me feel much better :) thanks!
    Karen

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    1. You are quite welcome. You know, it's not a party if no one shows up. They should remind themselves of that.

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  6. Amen Sister! You and I both have been around a long time. It's about connections and friendships and common interests.

    I hope everything goes well with your surgery. I know you are well prepared and that will pay off.

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    1. Yes, you and I have been around for quite awhile. As things started getting "out of hand" with the blogging world, I felt uneasy and uncertain of how to handle it. I realize you handle it by just not participating in things we're not fully comfortable with. Easy as that. I think people like you and me can take it back where it was, at least for our blogging group. And we all know who our friends are. Just drop out of "their world" and drop back into ours. It was fun back then, wasn't it?

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    2. It was. And one of the "Biggies" recently told me that "Blogging is not like it used to be. It's not as ..." I said "Friendly?" She said "Yes, exactly. Friendly."

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  7. Good luck with the surgery and I'll be looking for your next update! I agree about Social Media, I don't do much of it but many others use it extensively. I love blogging but don't visit many of the big bloggers at all. First of all they don't know me at all and don't care and their content seems very repetitive to me. All for their bottom line. So it's the friends I've made in blogland that count to me! Glad you are so prepared for surgery. Big Hugs!
    Linda

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    1. And I just hate those "come view our homes" situations where there's twenty bloggers involved. Just overwhelms me!

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  8. Brenda, good luck with your surgery. I wish I was closer so I could help you and the pupsters. Take good care of yourself.

    This morning I was having a discussion with a friend about social media i.e. Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram. I have a serious love/hate relationship with all three. I've been blogging for over 8 years, however my blog has been on hiatus most of this year. I don't know why I can't get back to it but I've lost my happy spirit for it. I could go on and on but I digress. :-)

    Take care, Brenda

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    1. If you want to ever get back to it, summon up those feelings of why you started it in the first place. Relive those days in your mind. Are they happy memories? We don't have to compete with these "big" bloggers. They are on a whole different track than we are. Just be yourself. Email me if you want to have further discussion.

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  9. I'm not on any social media, I just read a bunch of blogs that I've come to enjoy over the years. I do not have a blog of my own, I comment here and there. I love that you say what you feel LOVE IT! I think everyone should, that way you never have to guess, what someone's thinking or feeling. Life would be much easier. I'm praying your surgery goes well, quick and that your recovery time is minimal. I wish I were closer and could help. God bless, Toni Anne ;->

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    1. Thank you. I thank you all for your well wishes. I'll be glad to get it behind me. I don't know how to be any other way but straightforward. I've never been able to play games. I'm just not good at it.

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  10. Sending healing thoughts to you.

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    1. And I know they will help! Will be wanting to get home and hopefully feel like having my coffee!

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  11. LOL Brenda !
    I will add that there are many people who never visit and they are not even 'big' bloggers. Now, I am not saying that a person is expected to re-visit a person every time a comment is made but I run into situations where I am joined up to a link party, visit and comment on a person's site or post TIME and TIME again and never get a reciprocal visit. After about 5 or 6 or 7 times of that, guess who I scroll right over in a link party! C'mon! So it's not only the 'big bloggers' ...it's people who...what? I don't know how to describe / I just avoid them after awhile. Not enough time for that :) You are so organized and prepared...all will be well for you I am sure :)

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    1. I usually give a blogger a few chances to reciprocate. After that I move on. Too many fish in the sea.

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  12. I hope your surgery goes well and you heal quickly, Brenda! I enjoy Pinterest...so much inspiration for anything you want to do! On my blog Facebook page...nobody hardly sees what I put on there anyway...

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    1. I really don't have anything against Facebook. I think they're great for people to keep up with family and friends. But bloggers have made it so much more than that. It's just not my thing. Like you and many others, I enjoy Pinterest because magazines are too darned expensive to buy. But if they start choosing what content I see and I don't like it, I'm outta there!

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  13. Well wishes on your surgery tomorrow Brenda...hope you have a quick recovery!! If I lived closer I would have looked after your little pupsters for you:-) Another well written post!!!

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    1. With all of you behind me, how could it not be successful? I treasure you all.

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  14. I'm praying your surgery goes well and you heal up quickly. Sweet hugs my friend, Diane

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    1. And sweet hugs back. We've been in this blogging thing a long time now, huh?

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  15. wrapping you in healing light and sending best wishes for a smooth surgery and quick recovery.

    One bit blogger who has remained true to her friends is Marty of A Stroll Thru Life.. You and she are always faithful to leave kind comments when I make a post and I appreciate that..
    as for social media- I'm not part of that and until you mentioned it I had no idea Pinterest had changed its original way of doing business..
    Truth be told I have a good life and tend to come online to enjoy the blogs and sites I like and leave the rest to go their merry way.
    I wish us all peace and happiness and lots and lots of Laughter..

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    1. I didn't know this about Pinterest until yesterday. I was skipping across the internet and landed on a blogger who was lamenting this change. She said you can't blog and not do social media, that you can't survive. I emailed her and told her that I disagreed. You are your own person. You don't have to be a "social media whore" as she referred to it. No one makes you participate in all that. I don't live in that world.

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    2. that should have said Big Blogger not bit... I can spell I just dont type well.

      anyway, I meant You and Marty are the 2 that visit my posts and leave kind comments..

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    3. I knew what you meant. Yes, Marty is a real sweetheart.

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  16. Oh Brenda I'm wishing you much luck with your surgery. I also wish I lived closer too.

    I agree with everything you said....big bloggers are changing the blog world and not for the better. I rarely get a visit from a large blogger. I use to party with the larger bloggers too, but not once did they return the favor and party with me. Now I know they couldn't party with everyone..but once in a while they could extend the courtesy.

    Big bloggers are also "monopolizing" the blog world.. Each fighting to be "the one" everyone wants to go to, you know for the perfect bow, or pie pastry, or perfect looking McMansions or a new book! It's also like they think they are the "it" girls, and only let a "few" others in. OK, you've got me going on this topic....It drives me crazy with all the "home tours" some are even showing their holiday decor already up. As if we couldn't come up with our own ideas or that our lives just couldn't move forward until we see theirs.

    I admit I use to follow, now I turn to others blog like me, creating their homes with their idea and creativity and friendship. I feel larger blogs are out of touch with their base.

    One more thing I don't like seeing...bloggers aren't giving credit to other bloggers who inspire them. I had one of the largest blogger "copy" an idea from me...you might ask how I know that...because I check my stats everyone morning and I never seen this blogger come to my site before. I checked the landing page and geez, guess what, not more than a week or two later she came up with this "idea" all by herself.

    It's become all so stressful and no longer fun to be a part of....which is why I love you...you keep it real, how refreshing!

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    1. Brenda, I think I said too much.....but I've had a very stressful day....and my computer is dieing, my space bar is hardly working...my j, k and z keypads are missing. Ugh!

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    2. No worries. You said what you felt. Finally someone says what they feel! The world isn't going to end. I commend you for your honesty, and I'm sorry about your day. We help promote these blogs by visiting them and putting them on our blog rolls. I say we stop. They're not promoting us. I am taking everyone off my blog roll who has never visited my blog. Purging, if you will!

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    3. I just did it. Took just a minute. And it felt good!

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  17. Brenda,
    I will be thinking of your tomorrow and wish you all the best with your surgery and recovery. Take care of yourself and get lots of rest! xo

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    1. I think having this surgery is the only way I'm going to be able to rest. I keep thinking of more things I need to do first!

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  18. First, let me say this: may you have a successful surgery, a healthy recovery and plenty of loving from your pupsters. Now, I have noticed these bloggers and it bothers me it has become a "business". Not thinking of the readers, only thinking of themselves. Big bloggers have become slimy politicians in my book. Some bloggers only want other bloggers to comment on their blogs. I don't play that game. It is bullshit. By the way, I am going to plant my bulbs this weekend and purchase some pansies and out with the old and in with the new. Keep it real Brenda. You are authentic. I sure wish I lived near you. Hugs.

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    1. I wish you lived near me, or more aptly, I wish I lived near you! Yes, it does remind me of politicians. With their blog conferences and classes and virtual assistants and all that. But I've just told myself: Hey, they don't need me. So I don't need them. Easy-peasy. Those that suck up to them make me feel very very sad.

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  19. PS....most of those big bloggers are fake. Their entire lives are fake. They live in a fantasy world. Thanks for keeping it real, thanks for telling it like it is and thanks for cutting your own hair into "mange" and telling us about it.
    Hugs.

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  20. Prayers for a quick recovery from your surgery. Funny you wrote about this topic today because just yesterday I looked at one of the "big" bloggers and saw something I had seen on another "big" bloggers page a few days before. Hmmmm! Made me wonder that both of them would have the identical "idea" the same week. Have written them both off - don't have time for copycats. Stay real!!

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  21. Hey Brenda! I'm sorry I have not visited in a few weeks and was unaware you were having surgery. I hope all goes well and hope we hear from you soon. I'm not sure who the big bloggers and I'm sure they don't know me either. I have all of 16 followers. I'm more or less blogging for myself. LOL

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  22. Well, you have a new reader. Thanks for the well wishes!

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  23. I'll be thinking about you in the morning Brenda! And sending a prayer up for you. I know you are going to do great! Hope your able to post a progress report to us real soon! Best Wishes my friend!

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  24. Hope everything goes well with your surgery! I am sure it is hard to have surgery again, but it will be worth it when you are able to walk and have less pain.
    I don't really follow any big bloggers except for moneysavingmom. I do enjoy your blog, and I hope that you don't change.

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    1. I don't think I could change. Judy says my straightforward dialogue is my lack of having "filters." So I guess this is what I'll always be!

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  25. Praying for your surgery Brenda, smart of you to be prepared with the pain meds, etc
    . Once again you have said what many of us have been thinking for a long time now about the 'big bloggers.
    I've pretty much stopped blogging for the time being, just got too stressful and time consuming. My mother passed away last week three days after my birthday and it just really put some things in perspective for me but I really enjoy visiting other blogs still, especially yours.

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    1. Well, I'll be reading if you come back. And sure won't forget you. So sorry about your mother. So sorry for the timing too.

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  26. First of all - and most importantly - I hope your surgery goes well tomorrow. You will have lots of thoughts and prayers from your blogger friends! I am totally with you on the big bloggers and agree with all the thoughts from the comments above. I have a "personal" FB page, not one for my blog. I like to keep up with friends and family this way. Wasn't aware of the Pinterest thing you mentioned, though I'm not on the actual site very often - maybe once or twice/week. Again, not a social media outlet that I use to promote my blog.

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    1. It's those that depend on these outlets to promote their blog and ambassadorships and such that they depend on that feel so threatened. We'll just be in our own little blogging world, doing what we've always done. Not sweating all that stuff. People don't put refrigerators at my door, so I don't have to worry about the big box stores awaiting my Facebook touts. Blogging doesn't have to be like that. They created a monster. We'll just promote our friends and be able to live sensibly without finding virtual assistants and maids for McMansions.

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  27. Brenda, sending you warm thoughts, and prayers for a successful surgery, I hope that it all goes smoothly, and that you have someone there to help you out when you get home.

    Jen

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    1. I'm fine. I sent my friend Kay home. I think I was wearing her out with watching me bounce around indoors and outdoors on my scooter. Still haven't gotten tired or sleepy yet. Not too much pain. So glad it's over. Thank you for your well wishes, Jen!

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  28. Sending you good healing thoughts and big hugs. I don't have a blog but for years have enjoyed visiting and the inspiration I have acquired from different blogs. I enjoy yours very much because you not only keep it real but you use and enjoy color. This trend of white drives me nuts. But I guess to each his own. Take care I wish we lived closer so that at least a pot of soup I could bring your way :)
    Lucy

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    1. My fridge is filled with food. And Kay will bring me what I need. I sure thank you for your sweet offer of a pot of soup. (I would ask for potato...)

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  29. I had to giggle because you said "hell" in your post :) I don't know if I've heard that from you before! I'll be praying for a speedy recovering tomorrow. Hope the surgery goes well and you get back home to the pupsters ASAP.

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    1. I'm back and bouncing off the walls. I think the anesthetic had the opposite affect on me once I woke up. Not too much pain. Doing fine. I plan to say "hell" quite a lot. Because that's how I talk, so how much more "authentic" could I be???

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  30. You will be in my thoughts tomorrow. I'll be sending healing thoughts your way. That is smart thinking to get everything that you can think of done ahead of time.

    I have never done Facebook, or even Pinterest. I thought I was the only person who doesn't text. I really don't like the idea of texting. It took me a long time to decide to dive in and start blogging. I started by reading other's blogs and then couldn't stand just lurking around, and decided that I had to start leaving comments to let people know how great I thought their blogs were. I admire everyone who blogs on a regular schedule. I haven't been able to buckle down and do that. There are a lot of days that there just isn't anything going on in my life that would be interesting for anyone else to read about. I don't follow any big huge bloggers. Often their sites just feel too "processed" to me. I like reading about real life things, not necessarily fancy things or perfect things. I like reading about what normal people do in their day, about their pets, gardens, creative ideas. Many of the huge bloggers just seem too "slick" to me.

    I am hoping you heal quickly and bounce back from the surgery very soon. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Take care. Don't try to do too much too soon, but I am sure that everyone is looking forward to seeing your post op posts as soon as you are up to it.

    Susie D.

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    1. Remember the term "Slick Willies?" Your post reminded me of that. I refuse to learn to text. If someone can't write an email with real words, I don't want to know what they have to say. I was a journalism student and they have now butchered the English language.

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  31. Brenda, I'll be sending you good thoughts and prayers tomorrow and during your recovery. I agree with much of what you said about the big bloggers. I'm trimming my Bloglovin feed tomorrow, and only keep the ones that speak to me, like your blog does.

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    1. It felt good to "purge" the ones who were too good to visit me. I realized I was promoting their blogs, and they didn't need me!

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  32. Will be praying for you in the morning. Praying for a successful surgery, quick recovery and minimal pain.

    Judy

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    1. I know this is late, that I've just gotten to this comment, and that John is now gone. You are in my heart.

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  33. Boy, you hit a nerve with me and the "Big Dog" bloggers. Nowadays, I no longer enter any kind of giveaways. Have you noticed the winner is usually someone who will highlight all their lovely gifts in their OWN beautiful home? Why would a blogger these days give something away if they didn't receive something in return? (free publicity.) And I don't even have a blog, so I don't have a chance. In the "old" days of blogging, the blogger often put a name in a hat, drew it out and showed us all.

    I am not on any social media of any kind, and my life is still very pleasant. Best of wishes with our surgery, Brenda!

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    1. I can tell you that I wouldn't be able to even figure out how to enter these new-fangled giveaways. And I think you have to pay for that darn thing they use! Where you follow this and friend that and like this and do that. It's too confusing. Beyond me. I've always just picked a number out of a hat. Or let a child do it if one was around. I am TOTALLY against bloggers making a "deal" with you. You can enter their giveaway, but you must follow them and all that jazz. That's not a giveaway. That's striking a deal!

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  34. I think it's good you have gotten riled up. That energy will help you sail through your surgery! I don't have a blog and don't do any social media. It's enough for me to deal with texts from my kids! I will pray for you as you cope with your surgery and recuperation.

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    1. I'm now getting around to the comments. The surgery is long over. And I guess I got so riled up I haven't calmed down yet. I've had a narcotic pain pill and a bath and I'm still wide awake and energetic. Pain isn't bad. So relieved!

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  35. Brenda, I hope hyour surgery is boring, uneventful and successful. A speedy recovery for a strong woman. I will be thinking and praying for you, your surgeon and the pups.

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    1. It's over and we are all doing wonderfully! Thanks for your well wishes.

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  36. Wishing you a successful surgery and a quick recovery, Brenda. I hope you'll be tossing your boot in the trash and tip-toeing through the tulips soon!

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    1. Oh Laurel, me and you both! I'd love to be tip-toeing through that gorgeous old house of yours.

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  37. Hoping your surgery goes well and that you have a quick recovery! Things sure have changed since I started blogging several years ago.
    ~Cindy

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  38. I'll be thinking of you in the morning and praying that your surgery is a success! Take care.

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    1. It went great. Not in much pain. Doing fine. Thanks for your kind words.

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  39. Brenda, I'm sending prayers and good wishes for a very successful, uneventful surgery. I hope your recovery is speedy and pain free and you are able to get around better than you have in years.

    I love Pinterest and wasn't aware that they had made changes but all I do is pin decorating ideas and recipes. I do use facebook to stay in touch with my out of state family and friends and I post lots of pictures of my grandkids since I'm so bad about sending pictures to relatives! I don't have any idea how to text and that's okay by me!

    I'm lost when you talk about the "big bloggers" because I thought you must be a "big blogger"! I love your blog! I look forward to seeing all of your decorating ideas. Give me a real, honest, down to earth blogger any day. I've already decided to "unfollow" anyone who already has their Christmas decorations up. I think the only reason they do that is so they can say they were the first. I guess no one celebrates Thanksgiving anymore.

    Sending many blessings your way!!

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    1. I know! I was just shocked to see Xmas stuff already up! Lord, don't wish time away. The big bloggers are making six figures and have virtual assistants to do their social media and comments and they get expensive things like big appliances sent to them free of charge. That would not be me.

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  40. Brenda, I hope you are sound asleep. But I know sleeping before surgery can be difficult to say the least. Praying you have a magnificent surgeon and a speedy recovery.

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    1. I'm just reading comments, the surgery is over and I feel great. I haven't had one sleepy moment since coming home though, despite the anesthetic and hydrocodone! I think I'm just so happy it's over.

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  41. Hoping your surgery goes well. Praying you have a quick recovery.

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  42. Brenda so glad you raised this topic of the big bloggers. For a long time their blogs didint sit well with me, but I couldnt quite put my finger on what it was about them that was bothering me. I also thought I was the only one who thought this. So glad it turns out I'm not the only one. I love the "old" style bloggers who say real things and live real lives in real homes. Kudos to you for saying this so eloquently. Good luck with the surgery, and hope all goes well for you along with a very speedy recovery!

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    1. Guess I've never been known to keep quiet. Probably won't win me any popularity contests with many, but who the heck cares? Life is short. Say what you mean. Mean what you say, is my motto.

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  43. Hope all is well with the surgery and you recover quickly. Surely lots of prayers and good vibes sent your way. I agree I don't visit the biggies so much as I'm not even noticed. I do not try to make a living off my blog so can enjoy posting when I like and enjoying the friendships I've made over the years.

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    1. Well, I will freely admit that it is a good part of my income. And thank goodness. Don't know what I'd have done after the divorce without it. But I have to live a very frugal life. And right now I get an annuity I share with my ex. Unfortunately if he dies, I lose it. Guess I'll be living under a bridge then! Cause blogging income alone won't do it.

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  44. I didn't realize the day was here already. I will be thinking about you, my friend. I hope that all goes well. I'll email you. Take the time you need to recover. It is the most important thing right now. I have stopped visiting the "big blogs" too and have been removing them from my blog roll. I love my friendships in blog land. They are what is most important to me, xo Laura

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  45. I hope the surgery went well and you have a smooth and swift recovery, Brenda. I so agree with the rest of your post about those "big" bloggers. I stopped visiting them some time ago. They really have nothing in common with me. I am not a stay-at-home who has 24/7 and evidently unlimited funds (from the looks and size of their homes) to do whatever they want to do shopping and decorating-wise. I work full time, am single, and have done this home thing on my own close to 30 years. I relate to other people like me, who have limited funds, even more limited time, and struggle with how to juggle the budget to get necessary repairs, etc. done around the place. I marvel at the ingenuity of so many bloggers and enjoy their ideas on how to make do, how to turn a plain space into a lovely one, how to design a garden, and do it all on a dime, and am inspired by so many of them. I will never be a big blogger and don't aspire to be. I blog because I enjoy it, not because I'm in some kind of competition to be the "biggest" and, sadly, not the best. I've seen what used to be good blogs go downhill when they've gotten too commercialized. One more reason to stop visiting them. I like what you do, Brenda, promoting new blogs and helping people get their blogs off the ground, so to speak. It's nice to know there is a community of like minded people are there.

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    2. The ones I truly admire are the ones that work and blog and do it all. Like you. I take my hat off to you, for I don't think I could do it.

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  46. It is 7:40 a.m. and I pray your surgery is going smoothly and that your healing is swift and complete.

    'REAL' blogs about 'real, ordinary' people is where we learn, share, encourage, make real friends and enjoy so much.

    Thank you for your post on 'big blogs'.

    Looking forward to reading a post from you soon.

    FlowerLady

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  47. Praying for you this day. I know things will work out. I surely hope there is someone to come in and help a little bit the first few days.
    As for blogging whores, oops media whores I agree. They get so big. The houses are staged as if from house beautiful. How does anyone live like that, and why do they think we would believe they do? I like a bog the is a mish mash of everything the writer loves. Or hates.
    I have a blog. I don't post often. I guess because all of these BIG blogs have me intimidated. My blog wasn't big and it wasn't fancy, but I loved doing it. I did it because I have to write. I have to just as I have to breath. Now I feel like I can't.

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    2. Please don't let them intimidate you! We have this little community of bloggers from long ago. Let them strut their stuff. We're gonna go back to the way things were and to heck with them. Don't let them take something you love away. That would be so tragic.

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  48. You will be in my thoughts and prayers tommorow, Do not change your blog! You touch your readers hearts and make our day brighter! I look forward to my time at your cozy house! God Bless You

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  49. Hi Brenda, first I want to wish you all the best on your surgery tomorrow. Saying prayers for you and a prompt and full recovery.
    Well, you hit the nail right on the head with this post. I agree completely. I started reading blogs in 2006 and then opened mine to share a bit of my world in 2007. WOW has blogging changed since those good ole days.

    In the beginning bloggers used good blog etiquette. By that I mean, you visited your blog friends, commented and then that blogger came over to visit you and leave a comment too. Maybe we could not get to all posts but the back and forth visits became easy to manage. Now we are considered lucky if all we get is a reply through email and then fall over with a stroke if they ever take the time to really visit you too.

    I do not do facebook, twitter or other social sites except for Pinterest, which like you, I view for fun and share my shop. I really don't have time for it, but I do enjoy viewing the ideas. I belong to 2 cottage shop sites that promote our shops and blogs sites.

    For me, I still think being nice, and kind matters and when I visit a blog I don't expect anything in return, but a visit now and then shows they don't think they are better then you. Gosh I would never want to be a big blogger. It would be exhausting and take away from my creativity I think. But I have made so many wonderful blog friends who just "get it" and are not out to become a celebrity or the most popular blogger in blogland.
    Thank you for sharing this topic Brenda. I know many are thinking this but just not blogging about it.
    I guess I'll stay ole fashion and blog like I have from 2006. It worked then and it still works now if we let it~ and stay down to earth.
    Hugs and Prayers for you.
    Blessings

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  50. My prayers are with you for a fast and speedy recovery. I love what you said about "big bloggers" or blogs that are always "promoting" an item. I starting blogging for the reasons you mentioned. You visited each other, got to know each other, and created a support system with each other. When reading your posts, I always check out the blogger's sites who comments, because these are the people I would like to associate with.

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  51. Since I receive your blog via email...and a day late...this don't reach you u til after surgery. I sincerely hope everything went well...and that soon...you will be pain free. Hang in there Brenda....you have a lot of souls sending prayers and positive thoughts your way...me included! ;)

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  52. Sending healing thoughts your way.

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  53. Best wishes and prayers for a speedy and painless recovery!

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  54. I do hope your surgery went well! Wishing you all the best!
    As for commenting: when I switched to wordpress, I started to comment on my favourite blogger blogs using my google + account and I was soon told that I became a no reply blogger (It's a form of punishment from google when you stop using blogger as a blogging platform hahaha ;)) That's why I'm always writing my email address in the comments and I'm happy when someone takes the time to comment via e-mail.
    I think you should stick to your guts- if you feel that social media is for you- that's fine, if you feel like Christmas already- decorate your house, stay on a blog platform that suits you .
    Do whatever you please, it's your place in the blog world after all :)
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  55. I get your posts a day late, Brenda, so I hope all went well this morning. Please promise you will REST during your recovery and ask for help when it is needed. When you do too much during recovery it usually results in the outcome being delayed or poor. So take care, kiddo!
    I don't have a blog but love reading them and I do leave comments. I'm not sure I know who the Big Bloggers are, but I know that YHL recently went off-line for a variety of reasons. I miss them but understand completely their reasoning. I do know that some bloggers make me feel like they are the cool kids at the cool table and are laughing at the rest of us. Just like real life, I guess!!

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  56. I hope this surgery finally heals your poor ankle. It's been far too long to have to deal with the pain and wearing that boot. Couldn't agree more about all the social media. It all just bores me to tears. Facebook is a good way for people that don't see each other much to connect, and Pinterest is great to get ideas, but that's as far as the usefulness goes for me. I don't Facebook and don't even see Pinterest much. Sad that it keeps bloggers on a treadmill of trying to keep up constantly. What it all actually seems to do is having all the bigger bloggers just doing the same thing as each other. All houses start looking the same and projects doing the same things. Same colors, patterns, materials. I lose interest quickly. I've never been one to go with trends. Like you, I just do what I like and use things I like.

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  57. Hope your surgery goes well and you have a speedy recovery. I know what you mean about blogs.. it's hard to keep up with everything anymore, although I do love instagram. Its not the whole story like a blog is though.

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  58. Brenda,
    I am sending prayers and healing thoughts your way this morning. I hope everything goes smoothly in your recovery and you are back on your feet (literally!) soon. Hugs to you, my friend!

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  59. Good luck with your surgery, Brenda. I see you are more than well prepared. Hope it all goes smoothly, my friend. Sorry I couldn't extend these wishes yesterday, but I spent 10 hours in the emergency ward, as my husband, who has extreme high blood pressure and a heart condition, fainted, and was undergoing several tests to rule out stroke. He is stable right now and even went to work today, but needs to get more tests done asap.

    All the very best! Will check in with you in your next post!

    Poppy

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  60. Good luck with your surgery. Hope you will be up and around soon. It is good that you are well-prepared. I am the same way. I like everything to be in order. I concur about the big blogs. So many times I have commented on them and they never visit or comment to me. So I just stopped. Also I am not wealthy and cannot begin to keep up with all their decorating, tablescapes and improvements. Bah Humbug!

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  61. Brenda..your blog hit the spot today!!
    When I first started my blog I wanted to share some life information and "how too" survive some sad occurrences in life. What worked for me...what didn't. The most response I ever had was 6. Most days there was nothing. I decided to stop, because I had better things to do with my time if I could not help someone.
    I could have bragged about my beautiful home, but I felt that was shallow. Who cares how I live or what I have. I am burned out on almost all of the blogs I have read. I have found some of the bloggers have really marketed themselves and have a huge following, mostly the ones in Europe. I just don't get it.

    Your blog has given me permission to be me and to feel sad, happy, indifferent, and inspired. YOu have been honest and painful at times...but you just keep on keeping on. I like that in you.

    I wish you well with your surgery and hope to see you changin things around soon. The holidays are coming and I know you will have some good ideas. Hugs..

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  62. Brenda,
    I'm praying your surgery goes well and for a fast recovery. Well said about all these bloggers and social media addicts. Rather funny how so many of them are blogging about rest, quiet, saying "no".... Seems they would have a bit more of all they long for in that area if they weren't so concerned with out doing each other on social media. Oh well, just an observation, not my problem!

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  63. Prayers and hugs Brenda . . . hope you have a speedy recovery!

    I totally agree . . . I'm ready to boycott Pinterest. Facebook is a different situation . . . most of my friendships that span a decade of blogging and participating in various social media. My motivation to blog is all but gone after all these years.

    Thanks for an awesome post, as usual :)

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  64. Right on, Darlin'. I recently met a couple of Biggies. One was so "effusive" I was downright embarrassed for both of us because it was so phone-baloney. The other was too busy with with her adoring fans.

    Give me real people any day. All the best with the surgery. Wish I was close enough to bring you something tasty to sustain you.

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  65. Here I am, a day late and a dollar short. I hope all went well today and that you're resting comfortable right now.

    I'm not at all surprised your readers agree with you. You've created a tight knit community of like minded people here in this vast wasteland of the blog world. Bravo Brenda! That's what blogging should be about!

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  66. Good luck with the surgery. I'll think of you. No risk that I turn into a social media whore... No one is interested in sponsoring my little blog!!!

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  67. Brenda - it seems this topic has really struck a chord! I'm so glad you posted it - As a small blogger I know that I will never have the readership the big blogs do, but you are so right - I have commented and commented and never get any feedback of any kind, never mind a visit to my blog! I'm with you on this one!! Glad you hear your surgery went well. I am headed over to Judy's blog to send my condolences, thank you for keeping us posted!

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  68. I have been out of town, and way behind on reading your blog. Yours is and has always been my favorite, and the only one I comment on, which mostly I'm a lurker. I do not blog myself. I have gotten more inspiration from your blog than any other. Keep up the good work. You are awesomely cool in my book!

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  69. So I'm a little late and you are out of surgery and doing well, I am so relieved. Relax, keep that laptop on your lap and try not to move around too much. Okay, I'm bossy. I will be under the knife in few days. I hope you have someone to help you out.
    You are a "big" blogger ( and you are) and you do your best to visit back Some of the big decor bloggers never do, but I have seen some with 6000 followers. How could that be done? On the other hand, what about the newbies that just don't seem to know the etiquette? You visit and visit and they never visit back, just ramble on. I've written in my comments...come for a visit. Some do, some don't. Forget parties. It was a great way to meet people but no one visits each other anymore. It has evolved and I don't think we can look back anymore. It is what it is. Be happy you are where you are at. You are #1!!!

    Love to you and keep us updated on your progress.

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  70. Hi Brenda,
    I just ran across this post and wanted to respond. First, I want to say that I'm glad your surgery went well and that so far, no pain. I hope the following days are the same or better! When we live alone, it's a challenge at times.

    I really don't know who all the "big bloggers" are...I do have an idea of some. You're right...they don't visit or comment. I've been feeling like stopping my visits and just moving on to "real" blogs! I live alone except for my precious Shih Tzu buddy, am on a fixed income and I'm in an apt. I love to read blogs that are not copy cats of another..even the photos are all similar with the shoes/boots placed in front, a white furry throw and a disco ball. Oh well, it's late and I'm not going to get riled up!

    Thank you for sharing!
    Pat

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  71. Hoping your surgery is super simple and a quick recovery! I know it can take a toll, but hoping you zip through it. Let us know, if you can, how you are doing.

    Social media whores: Touchy subject. I'm one of those that follows the rules. I found the hard way about the "biggies". Get a load of this, I've followed them, and commented kindly on their posts only to be ignored. Kid you not. Two or three comments, mine included... the others get replies while I get skipped. No "thank you" or "glad you stopped". Just a complete ignore. Over and over. And, to top it off, they delete my link up posts on their parties. Even after I link up and comment. Bittersweet. Reminds me of when I was 6, new in town, the neighborhood girls tied me up to a tree and threw rocks at me. The ones that hit my face was noticeable to my mom. All heck broke loose when my mom contacted their moms, but only made matters worse because they got me in school for years. I despise social whores. They can be cruel. They want glory while sacrificing you. I simply delete my following and go about my own business. I'm far from being big, but I'll hang in there and earn my way.

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  72. Brenda, I don't often post on your blog but I stop by every few days to read it. I am glad that your surgery went well; hope the healing goes well too. You mentioned the cost of magazines being so high. I agree. When my library started offering digital magazines, I signed up. It wasn't hard to set up my account so that I could download magazines and read them online. I just followed the directions on my library's website. Maybe your local library offers the same thing?

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  73. Might consider that at some point. But I have lots of decorating and gardening magazines I've bought over the years and kept. And of course there's Pinterest. Thanks though for the tip.

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  74. Brenda, perhaps we have different definitions of "big blogger." I consider YOU to be a "big blogger." Those who write sincere, interesting content and attract a faithful, valued following meet the requirement for me!

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  75. I came over from deaniesstash blog because of the title of your post. I don't know who the big bloggers are. But I do agree wholeheartedly with you on the cost of magazines! I would spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars on magazines every year ever since I can remember. I think I may still have some Crafts magazines from the 70s. I love Stampington magazines, rubber stamping, beading, and the flea market style magazines too. I bought them at the craft stores - I preferred to pick a perfect magazine vs. getting them all mucked up in the mail. But the last straw came when the craft stores stopped taking coupons for magazines. Everything in the craft stores went on sale at one time or another so I used the coupons for the magazines. I REFUSE TO PAY $10 OR MORE FOR A MAGAZINE. I stopped three years ago and the magazine withdrawal has not been as hard as I thought it would be! I will flip through them at the stores and sometimes I get lucky and find current ones at yard sales in excellent condition SUPER CHEAP. And when you think about it, Pinterest is like getting a magazine without all the advertisements; although they are sneaking in! I would really like to know where all those unsold magazines go now. Back in the day, I worked for a bookstore and we would rip the covers off, send back to publishers and throw the rest in the garbage. What a terrible waste. Thanks for posting on the subject.

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