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Crazy Neighbors & Rent Realities


This morning, I typed a letter to the man who lives behind me, whose name I've learned is Tony, explaining that the dogs he's "apparently hearing" at 3 a.m. barking for hours are not my dogs. 

I have gone around to talk to him in person a number of times, but he's never home.



Volare told me this morning that he goes into the management office all the time and complains there as well as calling security in the middle of the night (or I guess I should say morning.)


I've been told by other neighbors that there are two dogs living directly across from him that bark, and they are bigger dogs. 

But this man has told management he knows for certain it is my pupsters, and that he plans on taping them barking to show them all. 

I don't know if this man is mentally ill, and have no idea why he has targeted me and my dogs. I live a very quiet life and don't bother anyone. I am seldom out to even speak to anyone, except for when I'm walking to the trash dumpster. 



On my way over there, I encountered a woman walking her dog who has lived here for 12 years. We chatted for a bit. She told me that every time it rains, her place has 3 inches of water standing in it. 

I was astounded. She said she has been on management for three months, and all they do is send a company to suck out the water. And now they have told her it is costing them too much to have the company come suck out the water, so she is just stuck. 

Her name is Ramona, and she has epilepsy. She moved here at a time when you could use rent vouchers to help pay your rent. She said the mess has now turned to black mold, and her husband has been in the hospital twice in the past three months. 

She has called the health department, and they tell her it is a health hazard. But still, the cogs of the wheel must turn slowly, because she is still waiting on something to happen. 

She is to the point that she told the corporate office that owns this complex that she is going to call a local news affiliate and tell them her story. 



She said their response was to tell her they will move her to another apartment. However, she has to wait for Section 8, or whatever it is called now, to do all the paperwork. So they are in a waiting game. 

Apparently this is due to a tree planted in a place that is causing problems. She said the roots are coming up through the cement. 

I know the roots here going under the apartment will do the same thing at any time. Because I see them under there, and I know that tree roots grow bigger instead of smaller. So it's going to be a problem here as well, at some point. 

A tree is smack in the middle of the fence that is between me and the man who keeps harassing me. I have been telling them for over a year that the fence is falling over, and that I have stuff stacked there in front of it, but eventually the tree is going to make the fence section fall all the way over. 



I watch the pupsters carefully. For if Charlie sees a cat or squirrel, he will try to scale the falling down fence. And if he ends up in Tony's yard, I don't know what he will do to him. As he seems a bit unbalanced and hates dogs. My goodness, Charlie tells me he is afraid of his Sammy on a leash and he is a poodle.

All this falls on deaf ears. And because they had to put up an electric gate at the entrance this past year, our rent had to go up to pay for it. 

I asked Ramona, who obviously knows more about this town than I do, what the deal is. She says it's the high crime rate in this city. Before they put up the gate, there were hold ups and car bashings. 

Because there is an unsavory element of people living in the complex across the street, they would come over here, before the gate was put up, to do their drug deals. 



So I suppose for all intents and purposes, Tulsans pay high rent because of the high crime rate. Isn't that something? The crime element wreaks havoc on this city, the gangs are in pockets all over the city. And thus to live here, you have to pay high rent to pay for their tearing things up.

I find this all so sad. Ramona and her husband should not have to live with standing water in their carpeted apartment. (Thank goodness I asked for vinyl flooring before I moved in, as they were tearing out the old carpet, and agreed to not put in more carpet.)

The past four years are the only time I've lived in Tulsa. But the majority of my 58 years, I have lived in central Oklahoma. And I know something has changed since I last lived in Oklahoma. The crime rates have sky rocketed. And I don't know why. 

I have tried to make a real home here for the pupsters and me. I am the type to fix things up and make things cozy. Yet I know the majority of the tenants are not that way. At least according to Volare. I know I walk around here and am often surprised at the way people live. 



So much of it is the fault of the owners of this complex. And much of it is due to the negligence of the tenants living here.

So back to this man I'm told is named Tony living behind me. I hope my letter is enough to back him down some. I taped it on his door with enough tape that it couldn't possibly come off, and the door is under a small porch roof. 

Have you had to deal with neighbors that made your life miserable? I'm all ears. Do tell.
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  1. Good Luck Brenda. He does sound like he has a few loose screws. I think it takes a pretty evil kind of person to be that kind of landlord. I work with a charity locally and we see that all the time. Families with small children who are dealing with mold issues. Families who move to a unit only to find it is infested with bedbugs; who talk to neighbors and find out that the management knew that was why the previous tenants moved out. In my town it is cheaper to buy a house and have a house payment then to pay rent. On my street you can buy a house and then rent it for double your payment. And because young families and families that have had unemployment have credit or money problems, they are forced to rent instead of buy. You can never catch up. We deal with so many families (both single people and those with children, your household is your family) who were one pay check away from homelessness and then something happened. A sick child, a bout of pneumonia, an expensive car repair. Maybe a leak in a toilet that results in a water bill of over $200. And these families are then facing eviction. The housing situation in this country is a real tragedy.

    When I worked for the county, I was the secretary for the agency that helped administer federal CHIP grants. Applications are "scored" and those are the ones who get help. Being elderly gave you extra points. Many of the applicants were elderly widows and widowers who were living in 1900's family homes, 2-3 story, multi bedroom and needed wiring, windows or a furnace. I could not understand why they did not just downsize to a home to fit their needs. We would end up spending all the government funds on those houses which reverted to the families in just a few years. In my mind, the ladies could sell their home and purchase a small, one floor residence that they could handle. They could sell these homes to families with children or an extended family with generations who could fill those bedrooms. The funds could be used to help rehab for them. The money was a "loan" with 20% forgiven each year the resident remained in the home. Therefore it was forgiven in 5 years. It was a wonderful program, I just had issues with the regulations.

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    1. Where I live not is not for seniors or those over 55. It's all ages. If I was 62, I would have more opportunities. For I do not want to live around all ages anymore. This guy is young.

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    2. The elderly people described by Miss Merry may stay in their rundown houses because they can't afford a smaller home in better condition in the same area.

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  2. Tony does sound like a nut job. He really should tape the dogs because if they are the bigger dogs that live in front of him, they will sound very different that yorkies would.

    As for rent, it's really cheap there compared to east coast standards. In my area, you can't rent an apartment for under $1200 and the average house rental costs $1800-$2400 a month. I'm lucky that I have owned my house in a nice middle class neighborhood for more than 20 years so my mortgage is about $900. It was $600 when we bought it but the taxes have gone up over the years. I haven't had any issues with any of my neighbors, knock on wood.

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    1. I'm paying $625. And that's considered cheap around here. I know it isn't like the east coast. I couldn't begin to live there I imagine. The average house to rent is more in the numbers you mentioned. You MIGHT find one side of a duplex for $1000. But houses not in bad territory are $1500 and upwards.

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  3. I am sorry you have to deal with a neighbor like that, Brenda. He does sound unbalanced and then, you have to wonder, is he dangerous, too? That is too bad about the environment you are living in. Too bad you didn't know all that before you moved in--it might have caused you to make a different decision. Just crazy what is going on around us sometimes.

    We have lived next door to kids that are juvenile delinquents and their parents did nothing about it. Two houses had that problem..and I was glad to leave them both.

    Hope thing smooth out for you and the guy READS the letter! xo Diana

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    1. I don't know much about him, just that he appears to be in his thirties. I would feel better if he was an old codger in terms of being dangerous!

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  4. I lived in an area heavy with seniors and yes, they do become unbalanced. I was threatened with death. I filed a police report and the police sort of laughed it off because of the age of the person who made the threat.
    But the story remains the same. Why are the quiet, rule abiding homeowners/ tenants made to suffer for the unbalanced. My happy ending came when the crazy attacked a woman with a garden hoe for supposedly allowing her dog to poop on the nut cases property. The woman who was attacked did not have a dog . She had never had a dog.

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    1. Oh, this man is not elderly at all. I hear he's in his thirties.

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  5. If you lived in a smaller community, I don't think your rent would be as costly as it is in the larger places. As far as Tony taping, is he just taping the barking noise, not taking pics? Maybe you should set your clock for 2 am, go outside on the patio, and listen to see if you hear the barking also. And if you have a recorder you could prove its not yours dogs.

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    1. I want to live in a small community. But the ones within 30 miles of here are usually worse in terms of high rent. Because people want their kids to go to better schools than apparently Tulsa has. Or so I'm told. I don't care if I'm out in the boon docks as long as I can get internet.

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  6. Brenda,
    This is really sad that you are having to deal with this guy behind you that does sound very unstable. I hope by you posting the note on his door does not cause him to do more to you. You never know with these kinds of situations what will escalate. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Your other neighbors with the standing water should not have to live like that. I think you all should call the TV station to investigate these issues. Just because they have government subsidized living does not mean these people do not have rights. The government helps pay the rent so they should know about what these tenants are living with. I hope you can get the investigative reporter from your news station to come out and investigate. The news stations usually love when it involves government subsidized living and how people are being treated by the owners of the building. Hope you can get them to come out. Sorry to hear all of this today. So sad.
    Kris

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    1. Well, I'm not calling them, because I haven't seen it. Only know her in passing. I'll already have this Tony person on me. I don't want to get tossed out because of calling the news. I just had to sign a new lease. And they wouldn't hesitate to use this Tony's complaints for their own reasons. I would think the health department would have done something. Wouldn't you?

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  7. I can't imagine you ever letting your dogs bark in the middle of the night. Maybe if Tony taped them, he'd just get your pretty plants and no dogs! He does sound a bit unstable. Your landlord sounds like a slum lord. There are so many health issues there with the mold. Rents out here in So Cal are outrageous. I couldn't find anything I'd want to live in for under $2,000 if I had to rent. I once lived next to a couple in an apt in Santa Monica that would start fighting around 1 or 2 am and it would escalate and the next thing you know you'd hear dishes flying and breaking. My bedroom window bordered their living room, kitchen. Fortunately they moved!

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    1. He could only tape their barks. The manager said she asked him how he knows they're my dogs. And he said he knows the sound of their barks. It's a privacy fence. He's never even seen my dogs. But I gave him fair warning. I won't put up with this anymore. It's gone on for far too long. I'm sure he won't be pleased to read my letter.

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  8. Hopefully the letter will diffuse things with Tony - or at least make him understand it is not your pups barking. The old saying "good fences make good neighbors" is an old saying b/c of situations like Tony. When we were younger, we lived in a nice area, but the ppl across the street fought all the time and it was sometimes outside when she would throw his clothes out the door! And they had 3 kids who just roamed around night and day -it was so crazy!

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    1. I guess I've been spoiled in recent years. Except for my own crazed ex-husband out in the yard drunk and naked and the police asking him to cover himself, I haven't had what you describe.

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  9. I think you should definitely call the TV station. Mold is a serious health threat. As for your crazy neighbor, be careful. He may escalate. I have been driven out of apartments ny crazies. It is very frustrating when you are just trying to live a quiet life. xo Laura

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    1. I am probably the quietest person here. I don't have a radio. I don't turn on my TV except at night, and I can't take it very loud. I don't even turn the radio on in my car! I rarely have a visitor. And I don't have my windows open because the dogs have allergies. I looked at his neighbor's place when taking the letter there, and they had a round hole in their screen, apparently to let the cat in and out. No wonder Charlie sees all these cats!

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  10. Brenda,
    We live in a different time, don't we? People just don't care about minding their own business being good neighbors, being respectful and kind. I say, be careful of this character, he does sound like an odd individual looking for trouble.
    Jemma


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    1. I was hoping to talk to him in person, but he never seems to be home. I'm trying to watch and make sure he doesn't retaliate by throwing something over the fence that would hurt my pupsters.

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  11. I know. But he's been doing this for a year! And they have to pay security to come knock on my door and wake me up. You'd think corporate headquarters would be sick of paying for the calls out here.

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  12. Tony is a certifiable nut job. You should go out and make your own recording to give to the apartment complex management.
    I had a landlord that seemed to think it was perfectly alright to come into my house any time day or night. Several I woke up in the middle of the night to find her going through my kitchen cupboards. Once I came home from work early and she was going through my closet. I had a years lease so I was there that long. A nightmare.

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    1. Wow! I've never heard of any landlord having that much nerve!

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    2. Once you occupy a rental, it is against the law for anyone to enter without your permission.

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  13. I am so thankful we live on a quiet dead end street in a house I inherited. I know that eventually it will change, but right now everyone around us is retired,or close to retirement age with the exception of across the street. They are young but the owner came over to introduce himself the day we moved and he was extremely polite. My mother in law lived in her house for over 40 years until most of her neighbors passed away or moved. Then most of the houses became rental property and it wasn't such a great neighborhood any more. People just didn't take care of the property and some shady goings on started up. So she moved to an apartment where she feels safe. It's in a building owned by a church organization where only older people live, and their rent is based on their income. It's not great, but it works for her needs. Our daughter and her family rent a 3 bedroom house for $700 and that is about the average cost here in northwest Tennessee. I sure hope your letter gets this guy's attention and he stops harassing you and the pups!

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    1. Well, you sure wouldn't get any kind of house here for $700 a month. I'm obviously in the wrong state. I'd like to find a place that bases your rent on your income. But I'm either not old enough (most here you have to be 62), or they don't allow dogs. Or they only allow one dog. Can't do that.

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  14. Brenda, I am so sorry that you and your decent neighbors are having to deal with all of this. It is a horrible situation when your hands are tied and you have to wait on the bureaucratic red tape for things to improve in life. We lived in a loft in downtown Dallas and had to deal with a neighbor who constantly kept his TV surround sound to a level that vibrated our floors and walls. I don't know why some people cannot be considerate and decent and realize that there are others around them and that everyone has to work together, not against each other. It is so difficult to deal with the disrespect of others!!

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    1. I was married to a man who could not figure out that you didn't have to have the TV sound way up. I never want to hear another football game in my life! I've found that those 40 and under just don't have the respect we were taught.

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  15. That is terrible that he keeps reporting you. I would think your owners would rather have you there than him. I have had my share of dealing with renters and neighbors. I would see how he takes the letter. If things get worse you might have to do something. Let's hope it helps. As far as the mold problem. If they don't get that in control it could spread to other units. A condo that we looked at recenty had a big ign outside that had a big warning about the mold. The carpet was damp and visable mold everywhere. I didn't see black mold but it was probably there. It's still for sale and they keep reducing the price. Meanwhile the other condos are in danger. We need to get you in that tiny house. The rent in our town is high if you can find something. Just a couple miles away is where my don's condo is. Wish you could rent it. Yes, we still haven't rented it. But, our son is probably moving back in. You wouldn't be able to handle the only bathroom and bedroom are up a flight of steps. Pupsters, either. I know, you could rent our downstairs and we could stay here. It's so hard not knowing what to do. If we were all wealthy it would help. ((((HUGS))))

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    1. I couldn't handle the stairs, but I only have one bathroom here. So I don't care about that. I know you guys have really been through it trying to sell a place and find another. It's so stressful.

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  16. I am lucky that I now live in a pretty quiet duplex neighborhood. I pay $650 a mo for my 2bdrm 2ba apt. It includes a washer/dryer inside the apt. I am really happy here. All one floor and easy to take care of. I'm lucky that the apt manager has become a friend of mine so I know she is taking care of things the best she can. I have lived in some bad apts with some rowdy neighbors but right now I'm lucky. I wish you could get this thing setteled with Tony, it can't be a good thing to keep having security come by and your dogs aren't barking at all. He does sound like a nut job. Fingers crossed for you.

    Linda

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    1. That and the fact that now I don't feel comfortable out on my patio anymore because I don't know if he's out there just feet away listening.

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  17. I have lived in large cities where it was really a crap shoot as to who would move in next to you and some scared me to death and the crime rate was off the charts to very small towns. Right now, we live in a small village in Ohio. i love my neighbors. Actually, there are only a few close. One, a young family that I have watched there children grow and feel like we're related to an older lady that is closer to my age. When she moved in she inforned me that she doesn't associate with neighbors as they get her into trouble and besides that she noticed my dog lived in the house with us and she didn't like that. Soooo, as she went about using her sweeper on her front sidewalk, I told her it was nice to meet her and went on my way. That's been about six years ago now and the only place I have seen her is out sweeping her patio. But she never bothers anyone. We have pretty much no crime here. There were some kids that broke into a soda machine lae one night but the caught them. I guess there was a few drug busts some place in the village but not sure where. So all in all it's a very nice place to live as well as good people. Maybe it's because we are so small that it makes a difference, but I'm so glad to be here.

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    1. I would love to live in a small town. I get lost in this big city. Boy, she had some nerve telling you what she thought about your having your dog in the house. My dogs sleep with me! My vet, last time I was there with Abi, told me her mother used to live here and really liked it. But one day she went to visit her mother and was held up. So she moved her mother into a small house.

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  18. Brenda, you have created a beautiful haven for yourself and the pups. I thoroughly enjoyed your photos. I hope your neighbor leaves you alone. (I've had some doozies, myself, and they can make life unbearable.) Sending good thoughts to you and the precious pups.

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    1. Thank you, Michael. I learned he has two jobs and is rarely home. Maybe the two jobs makes him terribly irritable. But he's making me terribly irritable!

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  20. Too bad you can't move from Oklahoma. When I hear about it on the radio, it sound dangerous...over 500 earthquakes in a year would spook me.Not to mention tornadoes.
    I see $400 rents advertised in this area, but have never investigated them. There is subsidized housing and the rent is based on your income. You do have to get on a list, but from what I hear it usually doesn't take long. I have seen some non-govt operated complexes I wouldn't want to live in, but in NC people seem to self-select in or out of certain locations. Not a whole lot of crime here in the mountains, overall. But you'd pay plenty more in Boone, Asheville, or any other university town. So maybe, if you want to stay in OK, you might look at smaller towns???? Meantime, I understand your trepidation at the situation(s) you face. And wish you well in the solving of the problems.

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    1. You know I've thought more than once about N. Carolina. I have a dear blogging friend there. I would love to live near mountains. So when I'm looking online, I always look out for N. Carolina possibilities.

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  21. HI Brenda, Sorry you are having to deal with crazy neighbors and crime in your neighborhood. I live in Oklahoma City and yes we are seeing a spike in crime here too. I wanted to tell you there are over 55 senior living facilities at several of the Baptist Villages...my mother lived at the one here in OKC, but there is also one near Tulsa. The apartments/patio homes were well cared for and the rates were very reasonable and included some utilities. She even had covered parking for her car. There is a waiting list and you don't have to be Baptist to live in one of the units. Mom had a lovely garden and patio and you can have pets (or at least when she lived there) Best of all they had security and all kinds of services in the community that didn't cost anything. They even have a rent assistance program depending on income. The maintenance is exceptional and the people all very nice and friendly. Just thought I give you some information since you may not know about the Baptist Villages throughout Oklahoma...they have a great website. Hope things work out for you and that neighbor!

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    1. I called them, and they said you have to "buy in." I don't have that kind of money.

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  22. So sorry you're having to deal with this crazy Tony neighbor. We have crazy neighbors, too - the lady who lives next door on the south side of our house and then the guy across the street. We have lived here 25 years and both these people have done nothing but cause trouble not only for us, but other neighbors as well. The guy across the street is so evil and paranoid that he even ripped his mailbox out of the ground and got a PO box because "he doesn't want ANYONE near his house, not even the post office person" (his words). That's just for starters. I could write a novel about him and the lady next door. And what a surprise - they're friends! Rent is very high here in the Chicago suburbs - even way out here in the boonies where we're 50 miles away from the city. You'd be lucky to find a one bedroom place for $800 - $900.

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    1. Well, I'm stuck for the time being. I'll just watch out for him best I can.

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  23. I'm so sorry to hear that you're still dealing with that guy trying to blame your dogs for the noise he's hearing. I've heard that OK has a high crime rate and lots of gangs. That is troubling for sure! Hopefully that neighbor will stop blaming your dogs. I once had neighbors next door to us that were truly the neighbors from hell! But, as life would have it, karma fixed that problem and they were forced to move. Now our neighbor troubles are over!

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    1. I don't know what spiked the crime rate, but something sure did, since I lived in OK last, which was about 2003.

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  24. We had older neighbors that seemed to watch everything we did. They would trim shrubs in our yard and once they cut off a tree limb in a tree on our property that our daughter loved to climb. He would mow his lawn and if the kids were out in our yard playing, he would run the mower close enough to spray grass on them. After he did that, my husband said enough was enough and built a big fence between us and the saying is true. Good fences make good neighbors. We never had to deal with them again. Although when she became very old, she made one last dig at us and called the fire department on us for having a fire pit which is legal here. The firemen acted kind of embarrassed that they were called and told us to just get a screen cover for it and they would not be back. So we had a fire in our fire pit every night that week and she couldn't do a thing about it.

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  25. I feel really bad...you really have to take some action against this man. And stand up to the management about the damage to the other apartments and the fear of what may happen to yours. And check the newspapers for small towns and the rent costs. I think you are definitely in the wrong town and should make a move soon.

    Jane x

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    1. I have been checking all the small towns since before I moved in here. They're all high priced too. I'd have to move out to the boonies, which I may have to eventually do. I've talked to the management over and over again. They're not going to do anything. I've got termite damage almost halfway up the wall in back, and the boards have terrible damage. But they don't want to do anything about it.

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    2. It may not matter a lick, but have you called the corporate office of the management company? Sometimes the locals ignore everything the tenants have to say and respond only to their corporate bosses. It would certainly be worth it for that elderly couple who is living with black mold.

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  26. Oh, I hope that they get the water out of that poor lady's apartment, uproot the tree and fix the pipes or drainage or whatever the problem is. That man most likely does not know much about dogs as bigger dog's barks don't sound the same as little ones...there are dogs all over my neighborhood and you can easily tell if it's the little ones barking ! :)

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  27. I lived in a patio apartment for years - had it fixed just the way I liked it - had my little garden/patio area perfected. The elderly couple who'd next door for the 6 years I'd been there were moved to a senior care center and the unit was rented to a man who worked as a guard at the county prison and his wife?girlfriend?significant other? I waited a week before knocking and introducing myself. Told them welcome to the neighborhood and offered them a loaf of banana bread I'd baked that morning. So far, so good. The next weekend, he got drunk and started hitting her. I called the police who came and took her somewhere else (I thought I heard her say she wanted to go to her mother's house). She was back by noon the next day. This became the weekend routine for several weekends until I got fed up and DIDN'T call the police. It took the neighbor on the other side considerably longer to call the police. I went to our mutual landlord and explained that I no longer felt safe in my home knowing this man was right next door. I expected that the landlord would step in and do something but the leasing company ignored it. I ended up having to leave my perfect apartment and start over somewhere else. I thought 6 years of being a perfect tenant would be worth something but it was not. It took me a long time to find another place that made me as happy as that one did. I'm in the Florida panhandle now and LOVE where I live. I have 2 dogs that have space to play and vegetable and flower gardens. That situation turned out to be the worst best thing that ever happened to me. I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope you have a happy outcome as well.

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    1. I'm so sorry. Seems the same thing is happening here. At least my neighbors, Charlie and Linda, are retired and very quiet. I'm the end unit. So the alley behind a shopping center is beyond me.

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  28. I have to say... you might of opened up a bigger can of worm's than you wanted. This man has some sort of vengeance out for you, for no reason !! I think the letter might make him snap with the way he's acted already. I hate to say, but I'd almost be afraid, he has some sort of anger or mental issue's.
    Big corporate companies don't care that you've made your apartment into a beautiful living space inside and out. They just want their money !!! How long has he lived there, do you know ?
    I've been lucky as far as neighbor's, rented an apartment when I was 19 and going to college, next to the owner's son. Since then was married , alway's had a house. Divorced now, rented the same little bungalow in Ohio for $650.00 a month. It need's a lot of updates, wiring, plumbing, carpeting and a new furnace, mine is oil. This is the only rental my landlord own's , so she mow's and usually take's care of the basic's and let's me do whatever I want as far as painting decorating etc. Plus I have my little dog.
    After reading your horror story , I'm staying where I am for a few more year's even if I have to make sacrifice's.
    I'll keep my finger's crossed about the neighbor, but the letter might have stirred the pot more , WACKO. Sending you some positive energy, T

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    1. I know. But I didn't know what else to do. Management won't deal with it.

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  29. Get yourself a lawyer and file a harrassment order!

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    1. Lawyers cost money. But that's what I threatened him with in my letter I taped on his door.

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  30. I have been pretty lucky with neighbors whereever I have lived Brenda..I hate the fact that you have to put up with this kind of BS when I know that you are a quite person that doesn't bother anybody...Obviously this guy has a problem if he can't tell a big dogs bark from that of a tiny Yorkie..I don't know what you can do but I do hate the fact that so many good people are forced to move in these situations and the bad neighbors are left there to annoy and intimidate the next person who moves in..I really do not understand the landlords in these situations..letting the good tenants get away and keeping the bad ones..Good luck Brenda..I wish I could help more..I really like you and I hate knowing that you have to go through more crap in your life...

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    1. The landlords now are corporate companies, far up the chain of command. And they just want as little money spent as possible. They're in TX.

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  31. I know from your posts that you will have a hard time financially moving but it really sounds like you need to find another apartment - have you looked in to moving to a small town that is close to your daughter - I don't know what small towns are in your area - also I think you said you are 58? most senior apartment complexes are for 55 and older if the person under 62 has disabilities. I they are all different though and some might not take pets, most go according to income. Some have a lot of rules though about decorating - what you can and can not put on walls etc so you would really need to check that out. Good luck

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    1. I've checked into many. Not many around here are according to income. Most you have to be 62. I just called on one that said on the website it helped with rental assistance. But when I got someone on the phone, she said you had to "buy in."

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  32. Hi Brenda~
    I was reading about all of your hassles and looked on Craigslist. A place called Canyon Creek apartments was offering good deals on rents AND they allow pets! No idea as to location (not being from Tulsa) but thought you might like to go to Craigslist and see for yourself if it is worthwhile or not. If you called Legal Aid, you might get your lease broken since you have fence/neighbor disputes not of your making?? (Or threatened to let the local TV stations know about the conditions where you live) i.e. fence, mold, tree roots, etc., etc.
    Good luck!

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  33. We too had barking dogs next door years ago when we rented a little house. They were small dogs that barked and barked for hours. Their owners would do nothing. Finally, my husband doused them with a bucket of water through the chain link fence, and they stopped barking. He did that again several times before they got wise and ran into their doghouse to hide from him. Well, finally, he jumped the fence and doused them IN their doghouse, and we never heard those little rascals again!

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  34. Brenda, Be careful with the dogs being out. I know you are with them at all times but start checking your yard for anything suspicious. I had a nut neighbor who poisoned and killed my beloved Collie who was the love of my life He to blamed my dog for barking when it was the other dog on the block.. I think you should contact management and see what is involved in breaking your lease. You need to move. . You can also contact legal aid by phone to set up a phone consultation about breaking a lease when your no longer safe in your home Please look into moving and don't feel trapped by your lease, you can get out of that. As for the neighbors mold issue, they need to deal with their lives, not you. You have lot on your plate.

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  35. Brenda, I am so sorry for your troubles. There are small communities that are affordable and safe and I hope you can find one. I too had problems with landlords that wouldn't repair the apartment I was living in and decided to purchase a home and give up on renting. I found a lovely little town outside Pittsburgh Pa where I have a three bedroom home with a double lot (fenced in) that cost me $24,000. The community is safe enough I don't bother to even lock my doors when I run local errands. Across the street from me is another three bedroom house being rented for $450 a month. So you might want to look a bit further outside of town there. Of course our homes are cheaper because there aren't many things to do here. We have a small grocery store, library, pharmacy and only a couple of restaurants. But there is a lovely program that provides rides for those who are elderly, disabled or simply without a car which makes longer trips available. My best wishes to you.

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  36. Brenda, I am so sorry for your troubles. There are small communities that are affordable and safe and I hope you can find one. I too had problems with landlords that wouldn't repair the apartment I was living in and decided to purchase a home and give up on renting. I found a lovely little town outside Pittsburgh Pa where I have a three bedroom home with a double lot (fenced in) that cost me $24,000. The community is safe enough I don't bother to even lock my doors when I run local errands. Across the street from me is another three bedroom house being rented for $450 a month. So you might want to look a bit further outside of town there. Of course our homes are cheaper because there aren't many things to do here. We have a small grocery store, library, pharmacy and only a couple of restaurants. But there is a lovely program that provides rides for those who are elderly, disabled or simply without a car which makes longer trips available. My best wishes to you.

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  37. Brenda, it sounds like this neighbor is working two jobs and not getting any sleep! No wonder Tony is irritable. Maybe the letter will help! At least he knows now it is not your dogs doing the barking, Keep us informed on how this turns out. I once went over to my neighbors to complain about barking all night only to find out my neighbors had moved and the dogs barking were from a house down the street.

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