Or they've said their goodbyes.
Dottie Angel closed her blog. I clicked on her name on someone's sidebar. Only to find that she'd said her farewells. She wrote her last post in March.
It was titled "The End", and even though I didn't read her on a regular basis, my stomach kind of made a dive like you feel when you're greatly surprised. She'd been blogging for eight years. She'd written a book.
I'm sure life just got in the way for these bloggers. Or it was just way too much commitment. But it's like a loss, you know. You won't have any idea what happened with them after that.
But I guess it's like all friendships.
People come in and out of the revolving door of our lives. Some are there from the get-go and intend to be there till the end.
We like to think everyone we care about will fit in that category. But deep down, we somehow know most won't.
Except for dogs, our beloved pupsters. They'll be there to lick your face when you cry.
And they'll be there faithfully guarding your body should you die.
Truly the most loyal and devoted of companions. You never have to worry about them hurting you. Or not loving you.
"A friendship that can cease has never been real" - St. Jerome
Do you believe that? That maybe some friendships were never real to begin with?
Men are one thing. But when a friend leaves you, somehow I kind of find that more devastating. You know?
Because girlfriend love is held to a higher standard. They share our gender. We bond on a whole different level. They could stand in our shoes.
Judy Holliday said: "Lovers have a right to betray you. Friends don't."
Folks just up and walking out of your life is just plain hard. Damn hard.
In life, things happen that at the time seem utterly inconceivable. You just don't see it coming. And wham! Someone you thought was there for you, just isn't.
You thought you knew them, but obviously you didn't.
I guess you never really know the depths of the river. Only how wide it appears.
But back to where I started...
For the bloggers that gave it their best shot, and just had to let it go, I'm sorry you're not part of our community anymore. I'm sorry that we lost you. I hope you're okay and that you're thriving, wherever you are. I wish the best in life for you and yours.
They came, they joined us, but for some reason they had to leave.
We hope their stay was a good one while it lasted.
And for the "friends" who turn and walk away, I can only hope the next person they take up with doesn't receive the same blow. That punch to the stomach you don't see coming. For I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
Have you had a "friend" in life who let you down?