The Stepford Bloggers

Lately I find there are less and less blogs I really want to read. It isn't that they can't write good content. Or have amazing photographs. It's that they crank out "stuff" faster than a conveyor belt. Some of them put together massive projects faster than I can make a grocery list. 

This phenomena is what I call "The Stepford Bloggers."


(And I don't mean the movie with Nicole Kidman. I am referring to the 1975 version, if you were even born then.)


When did we have to be perfect to be bloggers? When did we have to have new projects to show (or have the money to go buy it) on a continual basis? When did we have to style an entire room just to show a plate of food? 

This saddens me. 

I have a bee in my bonnet, so let me move along. I also have other irritants I'd like to mention. 

Who in the hell wants to attempt to read a blog when a big box asking you to subscribe to said blog pops up and obscures the rest of what you were reading? 

What makes bloggers think this is appealing? Because it is not. It is commercialism at its very worst. 

If I click on a blog and that happens, I immediately cross them off my list. That is my first impression, and that is what kills my interest in their blog. No matter what their content is. 

It is overkill. It is bad taste. Period. 

Please, take away the damned boxes.



Also, though this is much lower on my list, I hate it when blogs don't have dates on their posts. Why? Well, I like to spread the link love and when I do Six On Saturday posts, I look for what bloggers have been doing that particular week.  

But how am I going to know when they did what if there are no dates???

Thus I will have to always choose the ones with dates. I know this is nothing to flip your pancakes over, fellow bloggers. Or get your panties in a twist. 

But why?

Think about it. Newspapers have dates. Books say when they were published in the first pages. Magazines would be dead without dates. I thought that kind of set a precedent.

The sad thing is, where one blogger shall trod, the rest will follow. So these irritating little blips on the blogging radar screen spread like wildfire. 

Thus I have fewer and fewer blogs to read. 


(My word, she looks like she's just been brought home from the taxidermist.)

I think that bloggers have forgotten the point. Or maybe they're so new/young that they never understood the point. 

Or The Stepford Wife phenomena took over early on, and their blogging is simply robotic. 

Blogging is about the blogger. 

It isn't the fancy bells and whistles and how much you can spend to make it look like someone from The Washington Post staff styled it. 

It. Isn't. About. How. Much. Money. You. Have. 

It. Isn't. About. How. Ginormous. Your. House. Is.

It's all about you and your personality. 

Or at least it should be. 


(Heaven help me. Look at the wallpaper!)

I'm tired of hearing about the scheduling of social media. I'm tired of new trends that are just downright irritating and in bad taste. I'm tired of having the bar set so high that it would take Superwoman (or a dyed-in-the-wool Stepford Blogger) to jump it. 

I read a blog post yesterday that gave me pause. Made me think that there is hope somewhere on the horizon. Please let it be so.

Stepford bloggers, get real. You'd be far more appealing without all that "perfection."

188 comments

  1. Brenda for a long time your blog came daily. The last two days it has not come at all. I had to search for it.

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    1. I just sent them an email letting them know. I'll get it figured out for you. Thanks for letting me know.

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  2. I hate the blogs where you are reading them and up pops a ad video in the middle of the post - sidebar is ok, but not in the middle of the post and this one in particular that I use to read and quit has have of the screen on top in ads, then you get to her post and a darn ad video pops up - annoying to say the least - I used to like the blog and read it - after those ad videos starting popping up I took her off my feedly

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    1. My rule of thumb is: If I can't stand it on another blog, it is not going on mine.

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  3. Some blogs are money makers.
    and we all know money makes the world go round. It could be just like you said, Brenda. Maybe they're new and don't know about the 'good ol days' of blogging.
    Maybe they don't know its ok to show a DIY project-- while still in the progress of making over the window with the air conditioner stuck in it! Hahahaha!
    Perhaps...they don't have to confidence to just be themselves.
    That is sad...
    I hope you find some simple bloggers you enjoy reading... I know there has to be some still left, in the nooks and crannies of the WEB. ;)

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    1. Oh yes! I have all my blogging buddies from the past. Old fuddy duddies like me!

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  4. absolutely agree with you! i post what i think about, i attempt various projects (with varying degrees of success) but i vary rarely go out and buy new stuff for them, i use what i have in the house, or if i find it in a charity shop, and if that house is a tip in the background of the photo it means i have had fun whilst doing it! To be honest my house is a tip pretty much all of the time! haha! That's mostly what my blog is about, attempting to make my home look pretty with no money haha :D

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  5. Amen! It seems like pretentious blogging is all the rage... I'd rather not blog at all, if I can't be myself.

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    1. Just like they say you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear, you just can't paint over "fake."

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  6. HA! I knew I was going to crack up when I saw the title and you did not disappoint.
    Taxidermist, eh? LOL!
    I thought for sure that your link would be sending me over to Common Ground as she was just lamenting the fact that in the old days a simple post about simple things was enough and how much blogging has changed lately.
    I think you summed it all up when you asked since when did people have to style an entire room to show a plate of food. Well, some like to do that I suppose and I suppose some readers like to see it. As to me when I visit a blog and everything looks fake every single time I just get turned off. Outdoor areas that are so lavish....wait....they don't have wind or rain there? LOL c'mon!!!!

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    1. As a matter-of-fact, it was Common Grounds' post that got me frothing at the mouth. We emailed back and forth over it. And as I am wont to do, I got a wee bit stirred up.

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    2. Debra has always had lovely posts so if SHE feels she's not fancy enough or can't keep up it's pretty bad. But the thing is, she's real which is why i visit there. I was so happy to see her feeling better and better as time went on and she always kept us up to date as to how she was doing and what was going on with her health last year.

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    3. I totally agree. I looked each day to see how she was doing. We have to look out for one another, don't we? She has some beautiful things and I love looking at them for sure.

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    4. I like common ground a lot, but she has popups all over her pictures. So it struck me a little funny. I visited and responded during her difficult days and really do like her a lot. Just saying...

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  7. I agree that the pop ups are super annoying, and there are many, many blogs that the word 'fake' just doesn't even begin to describe it. With millions of blogs out there though, there's something for everyone and I for one feel I'm not missing out by not reading the content on the 'annoying, fake' blogs. I gravitate toward the blogs where I either like the blogger, or the content is excellent, and if I'm lucky, both...like your's Brenda :).

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    1. I hate it when a blogger "hides" behind projects. I want to know who she is, what she likes in her coffee, if she's a morning or night person.

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    2. That just comes easily to you Brenda! I struggle with "sharing" myself because of my abusive childhood...but I am trying to put myself out there more and more. But I love to decorate and want to share my joy of that too.

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    3. Share yourself in whatever way you feel comfortable. Just be yourself as you share your lovely home and gardens, and that is all anyone can ask for.

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  8. I am not a blogger and don't have ambitions to be one, but at one time I really looked forward to reading a long list of blogs. I have almost given up after being exposed to way too many "stepford bloggers." I don't like fake anything (uh oh, I do have a few fake flowers in my house). I'm also turned off by those who lament about how busy and how tired they are. I DON'T CARE! If you are that busy or that tired, don't blog - it's just that simple. Just speak from the heart and be real. Oh well, it saves me from wasting time I once spent reading drivel.

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  9. Hi Brenda. from one old blogging friend to another. I love your flowers, your pupsters, your painting changes, your quilts, your garden pots, your kitchen changes and just Brenda stuff. Now I am going to read what Debra (Common Ground) wrote.

    Just read her last two posts. Totally agree with both of you.

    Hugs,
    Joy

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    1. As I get older, I find more things that saddens me about society at large. Maybe it's a "getting older" thing. Seems to me this all started once they began all these blogging conventions where you could "learn how to blog the right way."

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  10. AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! Hate the pop-ups, Hate the blogs with no dates. Sick and tired of seeing what well-to-do women have done with their homes, kids, cars, etc. WRITE ON, (pun intended), Brenda! You are the blog purist that I wish to read about; down-to-earth, caring, gutsy, honest and on a real budget. I love you, girl!

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    1. I do tend to stick my foot in my mouth a tad bit too much. I am not even a bit subtle. But by golly, if I can't tell it like it is, I'm not gonna tell it at all!

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  11. I hate those pop up boxes as well... I believe if the blog is interesting enough, readers will take the time to find the "suscribe box" on the sidebar, won't they? I'm always surprised at the number of projects some bloggers can do each month when I've been working on my tiny dining nook for months... But I've also noticed that bloggers who have perfect homes and lots of traffic are not necessarily the ones with many comments. This is how I measure "success" on a blog: if people comment, it means they are interested and that's all that matters to me.

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    1. I think you're right about that. I look at some of the biggest blogs around, and lo and behold they have nary a comment. It's as if they're writing to themselves.

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  12. Absolutely agree. Second worst offense in my book besides the obnoxious pop-up SUBSCRIBE (ditto Brenda on that and when that happens to me I also never visit that blog again) is that the descriptions of the bloggers almost always start out with "I'm a wife, mother, Christian..." Okay, that is your thing, but in reality I want to know who you are, not what your labels are. I'm not just a label, and neither should any of you be. I have some favorite blogs, one of which refuses commercialization, some others that have ads but not the pop-up kind. I'm reading for content, I don't "follow," (I don't own a cell phone, for one thing) nor do I care about what you are doing on instagram or your latest posts to Hometalk, Pinterest, Facebook, etc. It doesn't bother me if you only post once every six months if it's an actual thing you worked on, or you are pondering the inequities in society while painting out your basement bathroom. I'm reading your blog because I feel a kinship with you. That's much more important to me than all the projects that, if I really want to know how to do something, I'll find an online video to show me how to. Sorry for the rant. Great post, Brenda. I

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    1. Oh, I love the feedback! If I read one more "I'm a wife, mother, and married to my very best friend I will surely puke. Now that may be sour grapes because I've been married and divorced not once, not twice, but THREE times! But I truly think a gal needs a "nother" best friend besides her spouse. Just so she has some variety.

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    3. I actually thought about writing a post on that very thing, but changed my mind.

      "I'm married to my best friend and perfect husband and I have 5 perfect beautiful children"

      OH COME ON..... God knows I love my man and I love my kids, but NO ONE is perfect and no one really believes that. I know damn well that everyone fights and kids can be a huge pain in the butt. I realize that people don't want to advertise their issues, but don't lie about how perfect your life is.

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    4. Reminds me of the bumper stickers that say "my kid is an honour student at such and such a school". I always think about getting a sticker that says "my kid is a mediocre B- student..." lol. I can't stand pretentious people.

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  13. Brenda, I agree with all you said! I avoid blogs with ads across the screen and those that appear pretentious. Thanks for yours posts!

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    1. And I thank you for joining this discussion. I like to know what people think.

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  14. Bahaha!!! No one has ever accused me of being a Stepford anything and I agree with you. For goodness sakes at least put a date on your blog. You are fooling no one when you trot out the same posts over and over and try to pass them off as new. If you don't have anything to say then don't say it. And frankly I get tired of seeing the same things over and over in someone's ginormous house. I like bloggers who are real. They get my read any day. xo Laura

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    1. Oh, and Laura, not only that! But the very same things "moved" all over the house.

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  15. I really miss the good ol' days of blogging. There are plenty of us who've been around for awhile and some new friends too who don't just churn out project after project. I guess it's ok for those who want to do that but it' not real life. Truthfully, if the words How To are in a title I'm probably not going to read it.

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    1. We ought to form some sort of club. Us oldies but goodies. Why, we pretty much started this merry go round. Or were there pretty darn quick anyway. Oh, how I miss the old days!

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  16. Love your comparison -- Stepford Blggers! I just checked, and I do have a date on my blog. Actually, I didn't know that was an option. I am posting less and less these days because the whole thing has gotten so dreary. I just read an article this a.m. which said that some people are making SEVEN FIGURES a year with a blog. This blows my mind. No doubt they are the ones we all hate with all the effing ads popping up in the front of post. Some of my favorite bloggers from years ago have just gone away, and I have written several posts about this over the last few years. That "subscribe" thing that that pops up is very annoying since I do see it on some I do already subscribe to. As long as you write and keep telling it like it is, I will keep reading.

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    1. Frankly, I just don't have it in me to tell it any other way, Ellen. Seven figures. Heavens. I suppose that's how they afford those ginormous houses.

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  17. I couldn't agree more with all you have said here. I unsubscribed to a few blogs recently that have that big "sign up with me" pop up blocking the screen. I read less and less when all I see are people fretting over which shade of grey to paint a room or anything else. I don't care if there is one more thing to be made out of burlap either!

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    1. Burlap makes me sneeze, so you wouldn't find it in my humble little abode. I think we've about been "grayed" to death.

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  18. Hi Brenda! First of all, I kinda love the first "Stepford Wives". I love a little bit of spooky sometimes. Well, I totally agree with you about the pop ups and ads. It's like fighting a battle and I'm too old to mess with this any more and just don't visit those blogs any more. I've found some blogs have so much going on that I can't even get passed the first snap that just keeps popping up to the top of the page! I'm an old time blogger and so agree, things aren't the same any more. I just don't feel like joining all of the parties any more and don't. The 'realness' is not there like it used to be. Poop! You are always real and that's why everyone love you and your blog. I'll just continue to be silly me and folks can come to visit my blog because I'm me. I'm getting a little bit tired of those Stepford Bloggers too.
    Be a sweetie,
    Shelia ;)

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    1. Shelia, we've known one another a long time. I can spot you by reading one sentence, because I know how you write and talk and we become very real to one another. I say just get rid of all the promoting nonsense and write your blog.

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  19. Had to laugh at all the comments... that's what makes a blog enjoyable sometimes... is reading all the comments! I don't like a blog where everything they post is something new they bought to match something new they just bought last week.... or every post is something from some store that is a certain color scheme... or the crafty ones where a person uses so many trinkets and doo dads to make a card that it probably cost them $10 just to make the card (or more). Or I don't like al the "blog hops" where everyone makes something using a product from some online shop, etc. It just gets so tedious. I'm getting more and more where I just like to read someone who talking about their normal day, and maybe a little project now and then... simple, easy and not costly. And I do like your blog for those reasons Brenda.... like everyone else said. You are down to earth and not afraid to speak your mind. I must admit I don't like posts too much, about certain TV series when someone has a passion for that show... but I just pass it on by when that happens... everyone to their own tastes and I know there are alot of like minded people out there who like such posts, if they are avid about that particular show. That's OK. I have a choice whether to read that particular post or not. I love the titles you give your blogs!

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    1. I profess to loving The Blacklist TV show. And when I stopped writing about it, I got emails asking why I wasn't talking about it. So on those odd occasions now when I do write about it, I make sure to write another post for that day for those who don't watch the show.

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  20. Brenda, I think each person's blog can be exactly what they want it to be, and it isn't up to anyone else to decide that whether they have ads, or a pop-up subscribe box is wrong. To me, that's like saying because I don't like a "welcome" mat in front of my house, I don't think anyone else should have one either. To each his own, but I don't think we need to judge each other...that's far more sad to me than any pop-up box.

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    1. I understand your objection, Angie. Point taken. I just thought these bloggers might want to know what many readers think of the subscribe boxes, because it might impact their readership. Seems to me it isn't going over very well. So it's up to them to decide, of course, whether they want pop-up subscribe to my blog irritants. And to each their own. But as you can see, it's a complete turn-off to a lot of people. I'd rather see them put up a big ad on the highway than have it obscure what I'm trying to read.

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  21. Great post, Brenda! This is why...

    ...I don't have any ads on my blog
    ...I don't show a list of 'followers'
    ...I don't have social media buttons
    ...I haven't 'monetized' my blog (what the hell does that mean, anyways???)
    ...I don't subscribe to any blogs ~ I've got blogger set up so that if you post, you go to the head of the list in my blog roll.

    My blog is to share art projects I've done, and to share my thoughts on things that matter to me occasionally.
    Period.

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    1. Simplicity is a word I truly love. I wish I didn't need ads on my blog, but I have to feed the pupsters their special tummy food and it isn't cheap.

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    2. But your ads aren't annoying, Brenda!

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  22. I don't mind the fancy blogs; a person shouldn't be excluded from blogging just because they have the time and money for elaborate projects and live in a home that is more than most can afford, and lots of wealthy ladies enjoy the same kinds of things we do, and like to share it. One of my favorite blogs is called Romancing the Home, and her home is the stuff my dreams are made of; I'd never be able to see anything like what she has if not for her blog! And she isn't at all braggy or pretentious. Another blog I like is October Farm; hers is mostly cooking, but she clearly has a gorgeous home and I love getting to see it, and her amazing gardens.

    But lawsy, how I hate those big boxes you mention! Especially when I have already subscribed! Once, okay fine, they want as many regular readers as they can get, fair enough...but every time I go to the blog?! Ugh. I have an older laptop and those pop-ups really freeze it up!

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    1. Oh, I love to see beautiful things as much as the next blogger. That's why I love Pinterest so much. And I truly admire an elaborate project that I wouldn't be able to begin to do. We all have dreams and blogs are wonderful eye candy. Carolyn over at Aiken House & Gardens has one of the prettiest home and gardens you could ever hope to gaze at.

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  24. I'm not a blogger, just a reader. I agree with everything you wrote. My blog reading list used to be 50 or more. It now stands at 9.

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    1. I'd say you've got some high standards! I figure if something irritates me, it is surely going to irritate a possible reader.

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  25. I'm right there with Sandy, I used to read a lot more and now it's a small amount with you being at the top of my list! It's hat makes the world go round though, our varied and different interests, ages, dreams and desires. I also need something I can relate to, not gray or beige walls. Have you ever snuggled with a burlap pillow? Not too cuddly. Well, I'm off to go play with my Morkie! Keep up the good work Brenda, love all of your different topics!

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    1. I think I'd rather snuggle up with a cactus, Annette!

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  26. I'm with you 100% on this one! I hope I keep my blog real and really me!
    hugs,
    Linda

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    1. You surely do, Linda! And I consider you a friend as well.

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  27. Wow. And to think I thought I was alone with the same opinions.

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    1. That's why I think discussion is important, Carla. I know I ruffle some feathers and cause some hens to cluck-cluck. But I've gathered some eggs in my time in my little girl dress and I know my way around the hen house.

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  28. Oh, Brenda, this post just made my day! Taxidermist...wallpaper...not to mention that little kerchief thing she had going on there. Ha! I do love to look at some of the beautiful homes that some of the Stepfords live in, but I'm always left thinking, "If my home looked like THAT, I don't think I'd be painting furniture/moving furniture/painting rooms to get new furniture. I'd be relaxing and enjoying that gorgeous house!"

    For my everyday blog reading, I enjoy reading posts written by people I can relate to and who have common goals and interests....if they have a sense of humor, that's just frosting on the cake!

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    1. Yeah, me too. I truly enjoy reading what someone cooked or made for lunch or picked in the garden or about their pets. Just ordinary everyday stuff.

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  29. Brenda, Brenda! Wow, your post is one that speaks to me. When I started blogging in 2009, I was as green as I could be! Frankly, I'm still that way! I'm not in any way wanting to be in competition for comments, if so, I would have quit a long time ago! I love to write, love to take pictures and I love blogging. What you are talking about is really spot on. I post about what I want to post about and on a day and time when I want. That's the way it is and I'm glad you are bringing it to the forefront like some other bloggers seem to be doing.
    Way to go!

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    1. I started this blog in 2009. But I had a couple others before this one. This one stuck.

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  30. I enjoy my own blog...sounds funny but it's about who I am and what I love to do. I write about what I enjoy in life and hope that comes across cause I sure am working on it. I have stopped reading so many big blogs, not because they are big, but I can't relate to someone living in a huge home, what would I have in common with them, I'm in less than 1200 sq. ft so I want someone I can relate to . I now gravitate to someone who I feel is like me, and enjoys the same things but I don't like to "share" my deep inner feelings. doesn't make me a bad blogger just being true to myself, after all isn't that what we should do!

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  31. That's exactly what we should do! Be true to yourself in any and every way.

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  32. Hi Brenda, I started reading blogs a few years ago starting with The Pioneer Woman. My daughter started reading about how she met her husband and then introduced me with her cooking. Through her I read other bloggers and well, down the rabbit hole I went. Some of my favorites have grown and yes with the pop ups and such. I read what speaks to me and! You Brenda introduced me to me to several of my favorites. In fact a few commented on this post. You're feisty and you remind me of a very good friend who loves plants, colors and little pupsters. I always look forward to your blog. Kathleen in Az

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    1. Feisty! I don't know if I've ever been called feisty. I like it!

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  33. I have a nice list of lovely bloggers that I read, and I don't think they have pop ups, but they may or may not have ads. I think people can live lovely at any level, though I do tend to enjoy the genre of smaller homes and older fixer uppers. I enjoy taking photos, because I am more visual and that reflects in how I blog. xoxo Su

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    1. You take lovely photos too. And your gardens! Oh my word! I try to make my ads unobtrusive.

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  34. Brenda, I have read your blog for several years and once again you inspire me. I haven't blogged in a long long time and was concerned where to begin again but thanks to you, I will begin........ I'm one of those that have to think my grammar and sentences should be perfect, but that really isn't me... so I will begin... Thanks, I enjoy your blog....

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    1. When at a loss for how to begin, I come up with one word. Then I add another one to it. And before I know it, I have a whole sentence. Begin, my friend!

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  35. Brenda, you have just reminded me of a blog that I read that has gotten a bit hoity-toity to suit me ..... one just can't be that driven to be perfect ..... And I think I will delete it right now. Thanks, gal!

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    1. I don't like to see anyone lose readers. I think sometimes we forget about the reader, and write for other bloggers. And that is okay if those bloggers are your readers. I always say: Listen to what your readers have to say. That's the direction you should look toward, I think.

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  36. Thanks for keeping things real. I hate pop up banners that ask me to subcribe when I already DO!

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    1. If somehow the popup had a meter, and registered that it had already popped up on you before. And then not pop up on you again!

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  37. I've felt like this for quite a while. I went from following many blogs to about three. its incredible that we now have cyber clicks. It used to be about cupcake recipes.

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  38. Oh Amen- and Amen and Amen, Sister. This is a lot like my pet peeves blog and I didn't check your comments but I had a few "blasts". Maybe I am out of the "hot seat" now and you can sit in it for a while.
    I HATE those pop up boxes AND blogs with NO DATES....and blogs with such tiny print I can't read it.
    Good post, Brenda---oh- and to me blogging is about getting to know the BLOGGER herself/himself. I can find THINGS and STUFF anywhere. xo Diana

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    1. Yeah, I think I'm in the hot seat now. I've often been in it, so I'm accustomed to how high the temperature can get. I wear glasses and I STILL can't always read the content!

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  39. Brenda this post is very timely as I spent part of this week unsubscribing from many blogs I have followed for a long time due to these reasons. Even today one had a video advertiser! I do appreciate that some are making a good living off their blogs and I applaud their success as long as they remain real. To many are Step ford bloggers and using advertisers to a outlandish degree. Its gotten so when you click on it, is it a blog or a ad/ The readers have lost interest in those and I am one of them. . One long time blogger is pushing how to make money with a blog, take my classes, buy fancy equipment. Nothing interesting about that. A long time loved blog today had not only ad pop ups, but a ridiculous amount of advertising popping up every two minutes. I have no need to waste further time online dealing with their advertisers.
    I love your blog and its at the top of my list as a reader. its smart, honest and your true to yourself. I am also a senior and as such I gravitate toward older sensible people that are independent single women and successful as you are. I really admire what you do here and read it religiously.
    I have no desire to see big homes with expensive furnishings, its so boring and I do not relate. Any trophy wife can do post after post reflects lack of intelligence or personal thought in their homes. I find nothing interesting about a woman who things excessive spending is interesting.
    . Its the people like yourself that make such a lovely home with creativity and love that matter to me. You have a great understanding of nurturing we the reader. You speak your mind and do not suffer fools.. Your also frugal and sensible, that is what appeals to me. Keep up the great work.

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    1. Well, I do believe I'm blushing at the compliments! You're right about one thing, and I have said it often. I don't suffer fools willingly or for long. Yet I have been divorced THREE times! Who's the fool there? Well, they say everything happens in threes. Still, that's pretty weak, isn't it? Let's just say I'm a fool when it comes to men. And I shall remain single for the remainder of my life. THAT will make an honest woman out of me.

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    2. We strong women are all been had by men at one time or another. But look at us now, ,standing tall . Never say your a fool . Its those men that took advantage of our good hearts that are the fools. Look where you are today! Happy healthy and successful.

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  40. People are all different and have their own style. I can't blog everyday. Frankly my life isn't all that interesting that people would want to read it every day. But I would not put anyones blog down. We are all different, If I don't like what is happening I just don't read it. I just opened a new blog this month and I will build my followers with people who want to be there. I can see your points though. I love your blog.

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    1. I looked for your blog, but your name takes me to Google+, and I can't figure a thing out with that. So what's your blog?

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    2. Gardensandcamera.blogspot.com

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    3. http://gardensandcamera.blogspot.com/ Put this in your search box on your computer. When I did it (just now) it was the first thing to pop up. Then just click on it like you do whenever you do a search. I hope you can find it.

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  41. Wow. What a post. Another think that is furstrating is not having people comment.
    I read your blog alot. Do you read mine? I don't have any ads. or anything you mentioned. I even took my subscribe by email off awhile back. I love you blog you do a great job.

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  42. I can't and won't fuel this fire for you, Brenda. I think it is important that we - each of us - just allow bloggers to be bloggers. If the pop-up boxes and any content may offend, simply walk away. No need to fret, just allow - there's room for everyone.

    Every one of us is on his/her own path. I think it is very important to understand and be tolerant of everyone's different needs.....and allow for differences without ever taking it too personally. Just be ourselves. Just breathe in peaceful thoughts. Just live our days as best we can and not spoil this precious gift of life we have with negative emotions.

    Nurturing negative energy is a true joy-zapper. Every moment we spend in ugly complaining thoughts we rob ourselves (and often others) - of pure and simple joy.

    My advice is to look away and find your joy when and where and how you are able, promote it and nurture it and grow it. We are each responsible for how pleasant we wish our days to be. Please choose joy for yourself, Brenda!

    Life is so short, and each day such a precious gift!

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    This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

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    1. I do look away. It does not at all steal my joy. Just is aggravating to visit so many blogs and have that pop up over the content.

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    2. Good reply to this Brenda. Using Bible quotes is offensive and very inappropriate to this conversation . this is Brenda's blog, we need to respect that.

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    3. I kind of wanted to say that, but I'm in the hot seat, clearly, already. Thank you for saying it for me.

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    4. Lexie, Michele was being "who she is". I hate this choosing who to support. Let's all support each other. If Michele had left out the Bible quote and used a quote from Shakespeare would that have been easier to read? Gayle

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    5. I'm not Lexie. But Shakespeare? Yes.

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    6. “I wish you all the joy that you can wish.”

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    7. Oh Lexie, now who is stirring the pot? A Bible verse is offensive.....really? Are Christians allowed to read your blog or do they offend you?

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  43. Let's just design out blogs the way we want-for whatever purpose it serves us. It's no use to criticize the ones we don't care for----who are we to bash the blogs that don't fit our criteria or creativeness? I don't mean this in a mean way..I don't like pop ups. I really hate going to blogs where the title makes me think I'm going to learn or see something interesting only to find it's a deal with Home Depot or Depends Panty Liners. But-whatever. Click. Click.

    Love ya...you know that. I just don't need drama on a pastime I use to relax.

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  44. Very interesting post, Brenda! I just came across a blog without dates a little bit ago and wondered what was up with that? I'm not understanding that one. And I quite agree that the popup ads are very annoying. I always enjoy your blog...keep up the good work!

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  45. I am not a blogger. I ALWAYS look for a date on blog posts. If I don't see one, I click off.

    And I can't stand two things...1) the pop-up that asks if I would like to subscribe to the blog's posts as I am trying to read the one on my screen, and 2) the video ads that come on full blast (e.g., Home Depot) and since I can't mute them or turn them off, I click off the blog altogether.

    One of my all time favorite, down-to-earth, and very popular blogs that I follow has this video ad on her blog and I had to stop following her blog. Yikes! It puts me in a really bad mood almost immediately. It's like 'nails on a chalkboard' irritating to me.

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  46. agree with this - great post! you always say how it is Brenda!

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  47. I could not agree more. And I include bloggers who want to earn a living at it. I realize anyone can earn a living any legal way they can muster, but something about blogs for hire irritates me. To me blogs should be like 21st century diaries. Those are the kinds I like, and frequent. Not the money makers.

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  48. This was awesome! Brenda, I'm a long-time lurker and a not-so-diligent-hobby-blogger. I don't think it is just "getting older" as you say. I'm a young mom who originally got hooked on shelter/diy blogs almost 10 years ago. I am starting to dislike the bloggers my age more and more. I'm just not interested in so many blogs I used to read. Not only for the commercial aspect but the bloggers tend to try to portray a "media image" which separates them into genres that don't feel authentic. Their writing starts to feel redundant. And the DIY's are getting stranger and stranger! Anyways, I'm on board with the "Stepford Blogger" label! Great post!

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    1. A point I want to bring up are the ubiquitous wood pallet projects. There are studies showing that these pallets are not safe for the following reasons:

      In the process of loading, transporting, and unloading, pallets often spend some time outdoors and are "exposed to water, all manner of vermin and insects, not to mention bird droppings and other nastiness."
      After last year's E. coli outbreak on romaine lettuce, the National Consumers League called for stricter safety standards for the "unregulated but crucial" pallets used to transport food throughout the United States. NCL tested pallets for foodborne pathogens and found that 10% tested positive for E.coli and 2.9% tested positive for Listeria, one of the most virulent foodborne pathogens with a 20% to 30% rate of mortality.
      You may remember that the year before that, McNeil Consumer Healthcare issued a recall of its Tylenol products based on customer complaints of "moldy, musty or mildew-like odor that was associated with nausea, stomach pain, vomiting and diarrhea." The odor was attributed to a chemical called 2,4,6-tribromoanisole (TBA), which is a byproduct of the fungicide used to treat the wooden pallets their products shipped on.
      If your wooden pallets contain low-grade engineered wood or cardboard, they may also contain formaldehyde and harbor all kinds of critters you don't want to know about.

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    2. The wood pallet projects have concerned me for awhile. I wonder if the diy-ers are aware of the danger lurking in those pallets.
      I have a post date on BPM, which is a blog that has kept me sane during some interesting times since early 2007. It may not be the cup of tea of everyone. That's okay. Over the past couple of months, we sold our home (had to utilize my power of attorney for that one), bought a new one (J was able to sign on that one), while my husband was hospitalized twice and I was very ill, in the midst of a downsizing much overdue, that began three years ago. J has serious health issues. My blog is not only a creative outlet, but an escape mechanism. I can always spot a reader who isn't a regular, by the comment left. Those are the ones who should walk a mile in my shoes. I will continue to produce one thing and another on the old back porch. It really is the real life of two 70 plus people who found each other when they were almost 40, just when they needed each other most! I don't share everything. It would be quite a story if I did. For now, I'll write about this little transition of ours. There is more to the story than paint color and light fixtures. I just choose not to write about every little detail...since, after all, as I mentioned, the blog is my escape mechanism. No ads or subscribe popups over there. If there is anything like that, I am blissfully unaware.

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  49. The boxes and any music or video that automatically plays - hate them. Once a blog starts looking too commercial to be a real person, it loses it's identity and I move on. It's sad sometimes, 'cause I liked the original type of blog or content. Also, if I notice that the majority of the posts are "sponsored by" - I might as well be reading a magazine ad. Pass.

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  50. I completely agree with everything you have said in this post. I don't mind ads in the side bar (and I've actually bought a couple things from them) but stuff thrown in my face when I click on a blog to read is a complete turn-off. I don't blog, although I gave it a try once but quit for lack of time. I may try it again but if I do it will certainly be one of those "plain Jane" ones because that's just me. I enjoy your blog and have been reading you for several years because you are real and keep your posts real. THANK YOU!!! Enjoy reading you every day.Thanks for sharing.

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    1. I deleted the post below because for some reason your comment was listed twice. Just want to say that if you want to start a blog, let me know. I'll be happy to help anyone start a blog.

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    2. Thanks for the offer, Brenda. I might just take you up on it this summer. Just like me to end up twice on your page; I'm bad about being all or nothing at all. Have a wonderful week.

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    3. I do have music on my blog, but it's because I love pretty songs and that's just me. I have never made money on my blog. It is not very popular. I write about my life and my thoughts and feelings. I am guilty of staging. Whenever there is clutter on the counter I quickly clean it up and put a vase of roses before I take the picture. Yeah, it's true. I miss Mable's House. I wish Liz would come back. :( She was my big inspiration. I am back...I think, after a three year sort of blog-cation. I am so happy that Rue is back! Hugs to all of you long-time bloggers. I met most of you through Kelli's house and "Show and Tell Friday," I think. Or maybe it was through Rue? Kathi

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  52. This is a hot button topic for sure! I agree with so many things said in your post and in the comments, mostly that yes, so many blogs look alike today. The projects are all the same and it's unbelievable to me that people redo their homes so many, many times. I have only been blogging two years and I have seen certain houses completely redone twice over in that time. That is just not real life. However, these people are clearly looking to make a living from their blogs, many, many do make full time salaries and have high profile sponsorship that require such do-overs for their livelihood. Posts like that draw an audience and get clicks and since that is what works right now, that is what has become the "stepford" standard. I guess the good thing is that as a reader, the choice is ours. If you like it great, if not, you move on...and while I do not have pop ups on my blog, but they must work, because so many people do and they swear by them. Very thoughtful post, Brenda! I love the diversity of content you cover...not THAT is what makes a blog interesting to me!

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    1. I did not mean to step on anyone's toes. There are no names or blogs listed. But if what I was doing was causing people to stop reading, I would read a post like this and take away ideas that I might want to implement if I want to keep my readers. I consider us all a community. We all have a voice. We are all in the same boat.

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    2. And since I clearly went off on a tangent and did not really refer to your comment, I will do that now. It is sad that people have to keep redoing their homes. But since blogs aren't magazines, they don't have the input and many writers to bring in content, So I feel for them. But surely there are other things to blog about. Things I personally would like to read, like about the person writing the blog, however mundane it might seem.

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  53. Brenda...I cannot understand why my free blogspot blog template will not show the date at the top of the page. Do you have any ideas? I have started inserting the date manually though. :-)
    I am going to take a new look at my blog based on the many suggestions. I am a woman of a certain age...but a newish (2years) blogger. I look up to you and other more established bloggers for ideas. Thanks. I have some Google Adsense ads on my blog and have little control of what they show...but I do have them labeled as ads. I make a few pennies if someone clicks to see....but since I joined Adsense in Nov have not seen a check. Ha! Still under the threshold! Ha! I began blogging as a way to create my own little magazine of sorts. A Walter Middy sort of dream. I would play with fonts, add pictures. Etc. and I am still playing magazine editor on my little blog. I love houses, interiors, taking photographs, and Kentucky. So...I write about it. Just my simple ky life...in a downsized house. Ha! Thanks for reading me...and I consider you a friend, though we have only chatted a few times. Sheila

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  54. Great post Brenda! I so agree about the boxes popping up !

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  55. The very reason I don't schedule posts. If my blog is about me then I need to be in the moment when I write. I can spot a scheduled post within the first few sentences and move along. Very few of the big blogs are worth reading any longer and I wonder how they keep their readers.

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  56. I totally agree..I quit blogging for that exact reason. I felt that I could no longer compete with these super women. My house is a house, not a set for a HGTV show. I craft somewhat, I decorate somewhat, but my blog is about my thoughts not about what I own, where I go, what my house looks like, and heaven forbid A Tablescape!!! Love your blog, Brenda!

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  57. I am glad you got on your soap box & spoke up! I totally agree with you on everything. I love reading the "old fashioned" bloggers. You "good ole girls" keep up the wonderful work!

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  58. I could say so much right now, but consider my mood today, I won't. I find myself flipping down the list an clicking on the ones I like. I like to know the blogger and there day to day activities. I think my biggest pet peeve is when you have been commenting on someone's blog forever and they never come to your blog or even send you a comment back. Hugs

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  59. Brenda, As usual, I totally agree! The pop up's are surefire way to get me to "turn the channel". I also wonder do these women spend money constantly? They must NEED to show off their perfectly decorated home and yard. Mine would never stay that way for very long anyway. I have too many projects or books, or whatever around. Guess I'm not cut out to be Martha Stewart, nor do I want to!! I enjoy your blog and several others that I can relate to. Keep up the good work! Bless you!

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  60. Yes, the clique group of big bloggers annoy me too. My guess is they annoy a lot more people than who will admit to it. However, their goal is to be the big girls and make money, not to have a circle of friends. Obviously, their goals are different than some of the smaller bloggers, so is the way they approach their blogs. If you don't like how they are doing it, just show them by not reading.

    You know what also bugs me? The hypocrites who complained at everyone else for having ads and later slapped them on her own blog when it was convenient for her.

    The same woman who complains about pop up ads and yet she has had them on her blog in the past and she continues to slap ads and sponsored posts all over the place.

    The person who writes posts for Better Homes and Garden and other companies week after week that look just like sponsored posts and yet they do not do the legal, ethical thing and label them as such.

    Don't forget the type of blogger who talks about people should just blog to blog and yet they slap that "Read More" button to get extra clicks and therefore more $$$$.

    Same thing with the fact when you click on a link to see what the heck they are talking about on someone else's blog, you are taken off the first blog and have to click back. That's more clicks and therefore more $$$ again. Said blogger is or has tried to sell their suggestions for how to blog so since she is copying those ideas from others, she is smart enough to find a tutorial that lets people click on a link yet stay on her page.

    The kind of blogger who uses other people's pictures and posts day after day as a stepping stone for their blog when they have no content of their own because they "have" to post so the money will keep rolling in. If you are blogging from the heart, you shouldn't have to resort to using Pinterest nor someone else's post and rewritte it to get your own views for $$$$.

    You know the type who writes one "woe is me" post after another complaining about one imaginary disease or illness either to herself or her pet or something broken in their home along with not so subtle hints day after day in hopes people will send them money or gifts.

    And the excuse for all the above is always "I'm divorced so I'm poor. I have to do this."

    You know, the economy in general is bad right now. My guess is if you took a poll, many people would admit to hard times, whether they be financial, physical or emotional. Nobody is immune to the bad stuff life throws our way.

    Yet not everyone resorts to the above things to make money. If you are doing it yourself, you really should get off your high horse and stop complaining because you are jealous that someone else has more money and attention and therefore more success as a money making blogger than you.

    As the old saying goes, those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones!

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    3. Whew. Truth is often so painful.

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    4. If someone wants to join the discussion, at least have a way for others to respond to you. Don't hide in the shadows behind "this blogger chooses to remain anonymous" bullshit.

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  61. Wow, a lot of what you say is the reason why I never started my own blog. Would I have enough interesting things to say and do...would anybody want to follow me..would I fit in? Too much pressure for me. Feels like high school all over again never part of the in crowd!
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  62. I could not agree more with this post, Brenda. About a month ago I had a super long post on my blog about much the same things. I find myself torn between wanting to obsessively watch my page views and number of followers and build a "business" and wanting to forget it all and blog from my heart. And you and I are definitely not alone. I want to believe that it is still possible for us to be successful, gain a following, and make a little money WITHOUT having to schedule our social media and have magazine quality posts everyday. Stay true to you and your goals!!! Jamie | anderson + grant

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  63. LOL. Well strangely enough those pop up subscription boxes seem to work! I don't have one but I know it's discussed frequently and the consensus is that although they may be annoying to some people, most people don't find them annoying and wind up using them to subscribe.

    Brenda, we all blog for different reasons. Not everyone blogs to share their life. I personally don't care what people had for breakfast or what they did over the weekend. I like blogs that I can learn something from - those are the ones I read. Other's may like something else - to each his own.

    What's the use of gripping about how other bloggers run their blogs? There are a million blogs out there...just move on and worry about yourself and your own blog!

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  64. If you look at the comments, Manuela, you will see that 99% hate the pop ups. I really thought the bloggers who are using them might like to have that input, so they could decide if they should stop using them.

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  65. Wow! You have hit a nerve...Pop-ups are annoying and now when I connect to some blogs I get another site. I love your blog.. I would like to make a little money with blogging, but I blog as a creative outlet and a journal for my family and friends. Thanks for the input.
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  66. Funny - I was just starting to think it was all me. I have stopped following SO many blogs for the very reason you mentioned. We must be hanging out in the same beehive. I now have whittled my reading list down to just those who are truly still "personal" bloggers - people like me who don't have their home perfectly styled in every photo, who share joys AND pains, who seem REAL and who don't have a gajillion paid or provided product reviews as well as pop-ups and all other manner of money-making gizmo on the planet. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy so many people are making money from it. But I'm just over it all and I'd rather connect with those who still do it just for fun.

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  67. Hi Brenda,
    I have read your blog on and off for a very long time and I really enjoy it. I have a blog but I am much more of a lurker/ reader than an active blogger. I love to write, but I find that my time is so limited anymore.

    I do think you have a point, although I try not to judge the so-called Stepford bloggers too harshly. What bothers me the most when I look at blogs like that is that I compare myself to that standard and then think that I have to meet that. But really, that's more my problem than theirs. Comparing my blog to theirs is like comparing apples to oranges.

    I take comfort in the fact that we all start somewhere and develop and learn from there. And hopefully some day I will have more time to devote to blogging.

    And the pop-ups...I just don't even try...to much work to get to the post :)

    Happy day
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  68. What I hate the most is when they put out those sappy posts saying "oh thank you thank you for all your support, without you I'd be nothing, blah, blah, blah". But when you reach out and try and talk with them you get no response. I have a couple of blogs that I fell in love with in the beginning but after multiple comments on MY part and nothing in return I don't follow them anymore.

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    2. No, I don't get anything from them! I check back on the comment I left... especially if it's a question I had and get nothing! I'm a little disappointed in what used to be one of my favorite blogs, she used to talk back frequently and visited my blog sometimes too and comments but I've left her a few comments recently and gotten nothing in return. This time I asked a specific question and haven't gotten anything... I'm holding my breath hoping she's just busy. It's just sad to me that a blog gets too big and important for the people that made them big and important :o(

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  69. I agree about the evolution of blogging. I prefer knowing there is indeed a personal touch to a blog. I also bypass any blog or link from pinterest that requires me to subscribe. Take care, Annie

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  70. Oh Brenda, you said it so well! Another thing I HATE is not being able to see the WONDERFUL photos on the blogs because a darned ad pops up and covers the bottom portion of the photo! Why go to all the trouble if you're going to cover it with ads? Thanks for speaking for us!!

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  72. Brenda, I could have written this post. I cannot tell you how many times I wanted to email the blogger asking why I would want to fill up my email box with emails and newsletters from them. I follow all my blogs via Bloglovin because it is one stop shopping and I can quickly decide if the topic interests me. I am a relatively new and somewhat inconsistent blogger. Most of the push tactics these other bloggers are using is to add numbers to their media kit. Stepford wives indeed and I remember the original. Love your blog and your quality writing.

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  73. One other thing that bugs me ~ some bloggers will post 8 ever-so-slightly different pix of the same blasted thing! Yeah, it may be pretty, but there is such a thing as overload!

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  74. I recently tried to view a post from Stone Gables blog to no avail. Finally figured out that in order to read it, I had to subscribe to her blog in order to see any of her posts. My first thought was, what makes her blog so special??? Really? I think it is offensive. Love seeing sweet blogs like Little Farmstead with no bells and whistles to see a post. You go girl!

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  75. Brenda, I so agree with you. I was just thinking about that today. I am taking a break from my blog, but a few times I have gotten online to read some blogs and things are so different than they were just a few years ago. It seemed we were more of a family of blogs back than and now it is who can be more popular. Good to see you are the same and I know I can enjoy coming and reading your blog.

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  76. I am late to the party. One blogger I used to read only allows blogger feedback or comments. Like you had to be super special in order to comment on her blog...I am just a common reader and have no blog.

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  77. Thank you so much for your post and for linking to my blog post on being real. It's a challenge, isn't it? The competition is high and it constantly tempts us play the game, rather than just being who we are. It's a battle for me - but I find I am most fulfilled as a writer when I just write from my heart!

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  78. Well, you certainly started a sh*t storm, Brenda LOL

    It's funny to me that people got so upset about this post. Everyone who reads you knows that you write exactly how you feel and you rarely hold back. If they don't like it, then why are they here? Also, being cruel to someone for having an opinion is not okay. It's your blog and you should be able to voice your opinion and have it up for debate without a teardown of you personally. Some of the comments were unbelievably mean and I apologize for them, because I know they won't.

    As far as your post... I agree that the pop-ups are a pain in the butt, but obviously they don't care what we think. They're not here for us, they're trying to push themselves as a product. That's okay by me... whatever floats their boat. I just move along.

    I think the one thing that irritates me the most is when a blogger gets big, they stop talking to their friends that put them there. When I came back from my hiatus and started blogging again, I was completely ignored by a few of my old friends.... you know, when we were still a blogging family... I was really close to a couple of them too and it's really odd. I still read some of their blogs once in awhile, but I never comment anymore. There's no point when you're being ignored.

    Anyway, you keep being you and I'll keep reading, my friend.

    (((hugs)))
    rue

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    1. Yeah, I'm good at starting shit storms, even when I don't want to.

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  79. I hate undated blog posts. I look at some blogs and pity the kids that live in the homes represented. It would be so stressful living in a permanently staged home. life is not a neatly staged event. Great post.

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  80. I am one of the bloggers who no longer dates my posts. It's my take that #1. it's a great, clean look for a blog, and #2. if people subscribe to the blog they will receive a daily notice by email which should have a date on it. I guess I read other blogs because I love them and the date they wrote the entry is not important to me. Other people seem to have strong preferences in having them dated, but I don't have a lot of readers or subscribers and as of yet no one has complained on my blog.
    I stage the photos I take inside my home, but we are retired and there are no children being harmed by this. Once the photo is taken, life returns to a house of dust and dog hair. LOL

    Sometimes I think we bloggers make too much ado regarding the blogs of others and I'm trying to be a gentler and kinder person this year. I was a total snot last year and found it's not the way to be. Shit storm or no shit storm, I still drop by to read your blog... it's your blog and should be the way you want it to be... xox Great post!

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  81. Hi Brenda, this is such an interesting post. I love blogging for the relationships that I have developed. It's definitely more about my blog friends, having fun, and sharing the things I love. I do hate the pop ups. They are very annoying. I sure hope people don't think I am a Stepford blogger!
    hugs,
    Jann

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  82. Uh Oh... guilty!!! No dates on the posts with my new template. Frankly I was going to get rid of them before the change anyway. I don't look at reading my blog posts like the newspaper. The news is daily and current... Blog posts, mine at least, are project after project. I want them to all be just as important as the next one, like an encyclopedia of projects. I can see your point using dates with a blog like yours where you tell a story but one like mine that is just a collection of project tutorials I think I like it better with no dates. :)

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