Four Hot Flashes

The other day I was in Braums (they were once places where you got ice cream and burgers; now they have small markets), picking up milk and yogurt. 

I paused in front of the meat. Many times at night I will have boiled eggs (that I make in a little machine reader Charlotte sent me), and bacon along with a piece of toast. 

I asked the woman clerk, if they had turkey bacon. "No," she said, "but the pork tastes much better."

Hm. I've been buying turkey bacon for years and am accustomed to the taste. I don't like new tastes or possibly textures very much. But, I picked up a package anyway. 

While she checked out my items, we got to talking about the miserable heat and humidity, the kind that fogs up all the glass. 

Somehow we got on the topic of menopause, which women of a certain age often do. 

She said: "I had all of four hot flashes (lucky, lucky woman)." She scanned a few more items and put them in a sack. "And then," she said, and paused, "I lost my mind."

She didn't look up or smile as though this was said in jest. 

When I got home, I opened the fridge door to put away the food. Right there in plain sight were two unopened packages of turkey bacon. 

I don't think I'm losing my mind. I think it's already gone. I have the memory of a gnat. 

Several times lately when I walk into the kitchen, I see that I've left the water running. I feel a jolt of fear, wondering how long it's been running. How much will my bill be? When was I last in here?

Also, at this age, that is another of your constant concerns. How much will the bill be about everything. 

I remember hearing people say that when I was young, and it seemed so silly. I was a kid. What did I know?

I make sure I never have more than one lamp on at any one time. No light is ever left on once I leave the room. If my daughter happens to be here, I follow her around turning off lights. Heck, I do the same thing at her house!

In my bathroom, when you turn on the overhead light, the fan also comes on. I worry that that's too much electricity. So I won't use it. I put a lamp in there and use the lamp.

The world changes as you grow older. Or you grow older and your view of it has changed.

Four hot flashes! Can you imagine having so few you actually could count them on one hand?


  1. Do you shop from a grocery list? Perhaps that would help so as not to buy two or three of the same item. And as for the water running.... treat it as though it were a lamp that needed to be turned off when you leave the room. Might take a bit of re-training your brain, but give it a try and see if that helps. Water bills can get high VERY quickly. xo... I'll be right over for a turkey bacon sandwich. LOL

  2. My mother lost her mind for awhile afterwards, but she's recovered completely. At 64, her mind's as sharp as a tack, which is great since we have alzheimers in our family.

    I'm on the verge of menopause, so it'll be interesting to see what happens to me. I'm looking forward to not having a period though. That will be fantastic! lol

    I have every light on in my house at night, because my dad was such a stickler for turning off lights when I was a kid. It's the little bit of rebel still in me. I do make sure not to use too much water though.


  3. I too am used to turkey bacon. If I get a package of pork bacon, because it's on sale, I always find it too greasy and salty, at least to me. I also follow my mom around turning off lights. I remember as a kid my parents harping on that, and now it's me, because I pay the bills. I have to say, I had more than 4 hot flashes, but not many more. I really don't think it's changed my memory or mind. I do find my patience not at good now though. I find it harder to suffer fools gladly.

    1. I am writing your statement down...."I find it harder to suffer fools gladly." Well said.

    2. I am writing your statement down...."I find it harder to suffer fools gladly." Well said.

  4. I didn't have many hot flashes, but they were always bad at work, like anxiety attacks,and I would have been thrilled to NEVER have a period!!!
    One thing I notice as I have gotten into my late 50's, is that I just say what I am thinking, and to hell with people's reaction. I do feel a little bad after, sometimes...but, most of the time, it just comes out...I guess since I spend most of my time alone, my "think before speaking" button is missing!

  5. Brenda, I am 44 years old. I have a number of health issues but two of my diagnosis are Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. Along with those two comes the wonderful side symptom of "fog". Most call it Fibro Fog but I've noticed it when I'm having a bad spell with my Chronic Fatigue as well.

    I have a terrible time with my memory. I too have left the water running in the kitchen only to be found later. I've left the oven on or a burner. I've paid bills twice some months and forgotten to pay some bills on some months. I am an avid reader and always have been. I began to notice about two years ago that with some things that I'm reading I just can't grasp what the writer is trying to say. Therefore having to read some pages two to three times. The list goes on and on for me.

    Now I am fortunate in that this is not something that happens on a daily basis. It all depends on if I am having a flare with the Fibromyalgia, CFS or am under a lot of stress. I've had to make adjustments to my life but fortunately it has been a big help. I make lists all of the time of things I need to buy. I leave myself notes all over the place reminding me if I need to do something. Even something as simple as cooking chicken for my pupster. My bathroom mirror has MANY notes on it. I have what seems like a million alerts on my phone to remind me of all sorts of things daily that I need to do. Some of them being the simplest things to most people but without the reminder I would never remember to do them. I have to keep a notepad filled with things such as passwords, logins, account numbers, etc. And I've began using the bill paying system with my bank. On the first day of every month I set up the bills that need to be paid for the entire month with their due date. That has saved me so many times!

    I could get scared or embarrassed from all of these things. But the truth is that it's normal for my conditions. And making small changes with my daily routine has made all the difference. Making my life only better.

    I say don't fret over these things you've mentioned. It is what it is. Just figure out ways to avoid their happening again and work from that point forward. I know you've more than likely already done these things. I decided that worrying over these sort of things for me was only causing more stress and that is the last thing that I need.

    And as for the lights well it's so freaking hot here right now that I pull the shades after lunch every day and sit in the dark! Saving on electricity and staying cool. Even if it is only cooler in my mind!

    Take care and have a blessed day!

  6. I had way too many hot flashes and I forgot things. I still forget things but I try tricks to help me keep on track.

  7. Four hot flashes-good grief! I've had them for years and it doesn't look like they are going away anytime soon! This could explain a lot about my mind or lack thereof! :-)

  8. I'm in the hot flashes and forgetful phase too. But Brenda, I have to say, you're not old honey!! You've got a long way to go. :)

  9. I am in my mid 50's and had a hysterectomy 1 year ago. I had several hot flashes before surgery but have had none since my surgery.I am becoming more forgetful and it scares me because both my parents have dementia.

  10. I can have 4 hot flashes (or more) in one day!! I am also plagued with "Menopause Brain" and CRS syndrome (Can't Remember Sh*t)
    Help me Rhonda!!!

  11. I actually only had 1 hot flash during menopause. I was so worried about meopause because I had horrible PMS but actually it's been pretty easy. Other than having more trouble falling asleep and losing weight, I really haven't had many symptoms.
    I worked with a lady who lost her mind when she went through it.Before she had been so sweet but she actually attacked another woman (she got fired over it).

  12. So much to look forward to as a woman! ;) Looks like you'll be eating lots of BLTs. Ha! Take care, ~julie

  13. I really never had hot flashes before or after my hysterectomy. My mind, now there's a different story. And my weight, oh yeah, that's a big story. I never had to watch my weight- ever! Now I absolutely must. Also, Alzheimer's runs in my family so I know my mind is a goner. Concentrating on what I eat takes the focus away from my memory problems.

  14. You are right flashes are horrible. The worst thing is you get night sweats too. ARGH. But middle-aged gals, we always somehow go to that topic! There is nothing better than opening the fridge and freezer to cool down in summer temps! As for memory.... i really get worried if i dont remember something. I guess we have info overload -and YES as the old folks said "my memory is so bad" My grandma used to say that a lot.Actually as annoying as forgetting something goes - at least i think of our Granny :)

  15. Thankfully I have had less than 10 hot flashes. I actually think the count is 5 but I might be forgetting some as I am more forgetful now. :-) I'll think of something I need to do and five minutes later I've forgotten. My disposition is as sweet as ever but that may be due to the antidepressant I take.

  16. I had a hysterectomy when I was 33 so I didn't go thru hot flashes. My memory sure "ain't what it used to be" but blogging has helped me more than anything. Keeping my mind and hands busy has improved my memory...but I have to write myself a lot of notes. :)
    When I first pulled up your blog, I thought "what the heck..I got on someone elses blog" looked so different from your regular look.

  17. oh my life has been hot or flashes for the last decade / it's awful :(

  18. Hot flashes are behind me, thankfully, but I remember keeping frozen peas in a Playmate cooler next to my bed to deal with the misery. I hope I have an experience like Rue's mom!

  19. Oh goodness- I had hot flashes on top of hot flashes after having a complete hysterectomy in my 40's. With my previous cancer it was the best option for me. But I must say, that finally I am actually feeling better than I have in years! I don't agree with the world as much, but I've got my Get up and go back:)

  20. No. Simply I can NOT imagine.
    I don't have to imagine what it's like to lose one's mind. ;)
    I worked for Braum's a buh-gillion years ago... We had market. Small.
    Nothing like they are today. We did NOT sell Beef Steak, I know that much.
    have a good one!

  21. sheesh, IF we are gonna have memory issues- why cant we just forget the bad ones and keep the good ones:)

    I never had a hot flash but I have heard how extensive and awful they can be.. as for the loosing of the mind-- well that might have happened anyway lol.. My Memory is almost too good and always has been.

  22. I had a partial hysterectomy when I was 35. The Doctor feared if he took the ovaries, I would shoot right into menopause. No, that started ten years later and I have had hundreds of hot flashes, most of them at night. Now the memory is starting to short out. I find I am not as sharp minded as I used to be. And that has bothered me lately. My Doctor chalks it all up to menopause. She acted like it was no big deal and told me to go exersise and do puzzles. I didn't care for her answer.

  23. Sheesh...I have 4 hot flashes a minute! And yes, I feel like I'm losing my mind sometimes. I repeat everything, leave doors open, forget things in other rooms and can't remember some conversations! It's terrifying! I HATE menopause!!!

  24. I did the buying things twice, twice lately. I also left the water hose on a couple of times. Both are things I rarely ever do. I thought it was the heat. Maybe it fried a couple 'a dozen brain cells.


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