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Java Talk: How We Treat Ourselves Kindly


It's Wednesday and I thought we'd have another Java Talk discussion. 


Today let's talk about how we take care of ourselves. I don't mean get a flu shot or things of that nature. 
I'm talking more about how we treat ourselves, emphasis on the "treat" as in small gifts we give ourselves. 
I often head over to McDonald's for a caramel iced coffee. It's cheap and I just love it. 

When I'm lacking in inspiration or just feeling a bit blah, I head to my favorite antique mall. Now that I think about it, I haven't been there since I found my red cupboard for the kitchen wall. I'm due a trip!

Sometimes I head over to Barnes & Noble and treat myself to a few clearance books. 

Some of you have asked why I don't utilize the library. 

Well, it's a "treat" myself kind of thing. When I was a child, I never owned a book, or recall being read to. 

So when I grew up, it became important to me to see books on my bookshelves.) A small extravagance. I could go to a movie, which I will never do due to the noise, or I could get a few bargain books. Which I will then trade with my daughter.

If I consider the book a "keeper", I will ask for it back once she's finished reading it.

I don't often seek outside entertainment, or travel, or go out to a restaurant but maybe twice a year with my daughter. So this is my "gift" to myself that is a symbol I suppose, of what I wanted when I was a child and didn't get.

It is also something my daughter and I can share, which I feel is important.

So I hope that finally answers that question. Yes, I'm frugal. But I pick and choose what I can splurge on in a small way.

Okay, do you go get a massage, a pedicure, have your hair done? What do you do as a little "pick me up?"

Your turn...
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  1. I think it is so important to treat ourselves. My treats are going to the vintage mall and buying myself something I 'want' but don't 'need'. I also love going out to eat with my family. I use the library but also enjoy buying a book for myself to keep! Good Java talk!

    Linda

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    1. I've pretty much come to the point that I really have to think before I buy a thing. Too much "stuff" in my closets because I can't use everything at once!

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  2. I have too many family responsibilities as the one of the middle of the generations to "treat" very often. But I do think we all need that feeling of being spoiled once in a while. My treats are food or drink - brewing a specialty tea I once bought in a tea room or a cup of special recipe coffee ground at my local coffee shop. A small purchased bakery treat to go with it. In the summer I treat myself to a fancy salad to take home for lunch on my grocery shopping day. Books aren't a treat - they are a necessity!!!

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    1. Those all sound good to me! Sorry I've been away from the computer for a bit. Had a haital hernia flare-up and I have to walk and walk to calm it down.

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  3. Good Morning Brenda,
    I like this discussion. I believe that purchasing a bouquet of flowers or a new beautiful blooming plant is one of the highlights of a day week or month for me.
    It is important for us to take good care of ourselves and whatever little treat encourages us or lifts our spirits is a really good thing.
    xo
    Jemma

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    1. Oh, me too! I will buy myself some fresh flowers or get a live plant.

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  4. I treat myself to a haircut abour every five weeks or so. The new fellow who cuts my hair (and my daughter's) gives me a hug when I get in the salon and another hug when I leave. That's always nice !
    I also like to go "goodwill hunting" and to the Salvation Army once in a while. Haven't been lately........need to go.
    I treated myself to a half gallon of ice cream this week. Haven't had any for a long time. I eat it whenever I want it.......sometimes after breakfast. Just plain vanilla this time. Next time it may be butter pecan.
    I also look for special magazines......gardening, cross stitch, decorating, etc. and have two subscriptions to primitive and country decorating ones.
    As soon as the weather gets warmer and plants are at Lowes, I'll be shopping for some of my favorites.
    I've been opening two of my windows to let fresh air in.......that's always a treat because I can hear the birds singing and the rain falling. Doesn't cost a dime either.
    I hope you're treating yourself this week, Brenda. I know your visit with your Grandchildren is always a treat.
    Charlotte

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    1. It was a great treat to see all three of my grands! I've gotten hooked on Pepperidge Farm's frozen cakes in a box. At night after supper, I'll take it out of the freezer and slice off one little slice of cake for a treat, since I don't do dessert after meals. Love that stuff!

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  5. Yes it is very important to treat ourselves! I try to get a pedicure about every 8 weeks, I make them last as long as possible! A cup of coffee in my favorite tea cup with a good magazine, book or movie is always a treat!

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    1. A magazine or book is always a treat. I have never had a pedicure, but you know me and all the sensory problems. Don't like people touching me. When I get a haircut, I won't even let them wash my hair or dry it. Just want the cut and to get out!

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  6. I love to make myself a hot,foamy latte...and have a piece of Scottish shortbread along with it. And a trip to the thrift store is always fun.

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    1. Linda, I have never had a latte. Do you have a special machine to make them?

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    2. Lattes are just coffees with hot milk. I put about 1" of half and half in the bottom of my mug,and heat it up in the microwave for 30 seconds...then I have a little battery operated coffee whip (a few dollars at IKEA) and foam the cream. Then I slowly add the hot coffee. I like the foam and it seems to last through the whole cup.

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  8. Without fail, I get my hair colored and trimmed every four weeks or I would go insane and I would look 85 instead of 49. I started going gray in my late twenties! I also treat myself to a once a month pedicure during the spring and summer months. I was treating myself way too much at the antique shops lately, so I have put myself on restriction. I travel once a year for an all girls getaway with my cousins and I look forward to it every year! Flying is very expensive, so that is my big yearly treat!

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    1. Getting together with your cousins sounds like a fun yearly treat! I didn't start going gray at all till 50, and still have mostly brown hair at 59. Won't get my hair colored. Those chemicals aggravate my asthma.

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    2. There is now natural hair color with no chemicals.

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  9. It is so important to treat ourselves. My guess is that most ladies do not or they do it in a way that is not meaningful. Such as ordering an expensive dress, shoes, jewelry, etc but not really stopping to pause, breath deeply and say "yes, I am important to those in my world." When we never get off of the treadmill be burn out.

    I enjoy going to the local flea market - by myself. It can be a treat just to be alone for a few minutes. My husband and I are frugal but enjoy a pot of coffee every morning. It is imported and somewhat expensive but smells and tastes great. It makes us feel special.

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    1. You should always make yourselves feel special.

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  10. My treat to myself is to visit the clearance shelves/area at any store I happen to stop at for needed items. Could be the grocery, Target, pharmacy, department store, etc. It's like a treasure hunt for me. I also visit the Goodwill on occasion as I, too, don't need more "stuff" to store or maintain. I find small items to indulge myself, but sometimes score bigger items at tremendous savings. I got a beautiful embroidered throw pillow with birds & flowers at Target for $5, originally $35 recently. We are moving to a condo soon and I have found throw rugs and other household goods that I need at a great savings. This is my way of pampering myself; it feels good and serves a good purpose in acquiring things I would spend much more for otherwise. I so enjoy your blog, Brenda. I feel we are kindred spirits!

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  11. My go-to treat is definitely magazines about home decor or creativity. I love to "window" shop through all the pages.

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    1. I just HAD to have a magazine on Flea Market Gardening last week.

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  12. Brenda, I treat myself in the afternoon by making a latte or cappuccino and enjoying it with one square of dark chocolate with sea salt. It is amazing how much I look forward to 3 p.m. I do treat myself to fresh flowers when I go to the grocery store! I agree with another commenter, books are a necessity and I usually buy at discounted price!

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    1. If you get the books at B&N on those bargain aisles, it's about as much as a burger at McDonalds. And I like veggie burgers at home. Dark chocolate is good for your blood pressure. And I have one little piece pretty much every day.

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  13. To me, books are as important as breathing and I could never give them up! I treat myself to a cappuccino on my days off....to a glass of wine or a cocktail when I get home from work...and I was just thinking it would be nice to treat myself to a proper manicure some day soon since my nails are starting to look like I chew on them! I treat myself to a luxurious bath in my jacuzzi tub when I've outdone myself in the garden or stacking wood. And sometimes to a little purchase from Decor Steals!

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    1. I had to unsubscribe from Decor Steals or me and the pupsters wouldn't eat!

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  14. I'd have to say books are a treat here too...usually I am looking for something older and get used ones on amazon for the most part / joined PRIME this year which made sense for me in regards to movies and free shipping on items.

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    1. I thought about getting Prime, but I don't watch movies, and I don't mind waiting for the free shipping option. And if I'm in a hurry, I just let me daughter who has Prime get it.

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  15. Because I don't eat any sugar at all during the week, come Saturday afternoon, I treat myself to a little bag of M&Ms that I buy at the convenience store. It really does hit the spot. ~ Mary Beth

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  16. I like plants so visiting the garden dept at Home Depot or Wal-Mart is fun. I try to get a pedicure at the beginning of summer. Sometimes I shop for an inexpensive pair of earrings. They take up very little space,but make me feel good.

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    1. It's always the little things that perk me right up.

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  18. I go to the library about 3 times a week for books and rent DVDs. I do buy a book
    at least every other month at our independent bookstore. Then I buy a smoothie at
    "Smoothie King".

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    1. Oh, it's suppertime around here! A smoothie sounds good.

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  19. When it's just me (or me and the baby now) if hubby has a work thing or guys night, I'll always order pad Thai for myself, pour a glass of (cheap) wine and watch a chick flick! Or I'll splurge on decent nail polish and give myself a manicure...never have I gotten a real mani/pedi!

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    1. That sounds like fun! Just you and the baby, some Thai and wine.

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  20. I've gone back to getting a perm every few months. I have baby fine hair and it helps so much. I've been gray for a long time and I enjoy it, so no coloring for me. We do treat ourselves to books. No movies for us. I think they've become ridiculously expensive.

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    1. Not to mention loud. I haven't been to a movie in at least ten years, but I recall them being quite loud.

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  21. I personally love the library. No cost. No obligation. Almost endless choice. Second to that would be buying books at Goodwill or Salvation Army. Next, I guess I would consider eating breakfast in the cafeteria at work my splurge. Gotta have a good breakfast or I cannot think straight...

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    1. A good breakfast starts the day off right, no doubt about that! I always have breakfast.

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  22. Enjoyed the chat.
    I love decorating magazines. I will splurge and buy one every couple months.They are really expensive, but I read them and re-read them over and over..So, I really get a lot of fun from them.
    I also visit the thrift stores occasionally.
    Hubby and I really don't eat out much.. Maybe every couple months.And occasion lunch at McDonalds ,when I grocery shop.
    Mostly, I enjoy watching HGTV shows on decorating. And reading blogs [like yours]/Have a great week.

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    1. I don't have HGTV anymore. But I only watch an hour or so of TV back in the bedroom at night. And then I read.

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  23. I love breakfast out but not too early. :)A hot cup of tea with a home-made muffin and my Gritt Magazine which is all about country living. I have a lot to learn.lol Shopping with my daughter at Home Decor shops is addictive and fun. And lastly, grooming my cats. I find that relaxing and it helps us bond. Yes...even Audrey.

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    1. Ah, I love your stories about your cats. Especially that Audrey! I wish my daughter wasn't so busy and we could do things together. But she works full time and has a toddler.

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  24. Little, inexpensive splurges once in awhile...a cup of coffee at a local, independent coffee shop; a little something at an antique shop; a book (most of them I get for free from paperbackswap.com or low cost on half.com; a magazine from B&N; a $3.99 bouquet of flowers from Trader Joes.

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    1. Sounds good to me! We should be seeing a Trader Joe's opening any time now! Can't wait.

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  25. I agree with so many who have commented already. A trip to the library is a treat. I come home with a huge stack of books, some decorating, some fiction, and plop on my sofa for an afternoon. It is heaven after a busy week.

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  26. Fabric and quilting are my perks. Most quilts are gifted. Pretty fabrics lift my spirits.

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    1. That once was mine. But now I have too much arthritis. I had stacks of fabric for many years. Now I have none.
      Brenda

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  27. A discounted book...a store bouquet of flowers...a specialty coffee...these are my favorite little splurges...

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  28. Enjoy shopping in antique stores, and thrift stores on half price days! Always a treat to see what others consider antiques...or vintage. Love our Friends of the library where books , many new, are very inexpensive. Enjoy watching PBS, and lots of sewing for charity. I splurge with coffee and bagels from Costco!

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  30. A lot of people have mentioned a bouquet of flowers. I enjoy those, too. In fact, on my quick visit to the grocery store with my husband last weekend, I decided flowers would be quite the pick-me-up. Lo and behold, the bouquets were all limp and bedraggled.

    Not at all what I wanted. Being housebound with this foot of mine these days, I really miss getting outdoors. We were also expecting a wallopping storm to hit us up here (the same storm that has hit so terribly hard in your South). Flowers were going to keep me from going crazy. Since the fresh 'cut' ones were abysmal, I turned to the plants and found a small potted primula.

    Yesterday's nasty weather is over and now nothing left but the clean up of ice and snow...and one pretty little plant that promises Spring in a couple more months. Makes me smile this morning!

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  31. My treat is to wander the thrift stores and let my imagination take hold. I really prefer to do this alone, and can get lost in the book section and household items for hours! My job is very stressful, and sometimes at lunch, I'll head out and get a "fix" in (but it is HARD because of the time pressure!), and it does help. Feeding my creativity is essential! I'm with you on the pedi/mani thing...I can't stand to have people touch me that don't know me, so I do those myself. I don't consider them a treat, just routine maintenance! LOL

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    1. I prefer to wander antique malls alone so I can concentrate.

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  32. I buy some nice fabric from the Quilt store!

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  33. I think the older I get, the more I treat myself, Brenda. I spent SO many years being frugal to the point of overdoing that. Now I know why it is important to allow ourselves treats...it's good for the soul :) My favorite treats are fancy lattes, summer pedicures, and occasional home décor magazines (the paper ones, not electronic.)

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  34. I have enjoyed reading this post, as well as all of the suggestions in comments! I enjoy listening to Pandora radio at home, with a nice cup of peppermint tea, and my Bible, or anything by Jan Karon, one of my favorite authors. The flower idea is definitely a nice treat! My husband surprised me with a lovely bouquet for Valentines Day, and it is still so pretty! I plan to go this afternoon for a pedicure, for which I am long overdue. We pulled the plug on our satellite service years ago, in an effort to trim our expenses, so now we occasionally rent a DVD from redbox, or watch something on Netflix.
    I have a booth at an antiques & vintage marketplace, so when I go to stock it, I enjoy looking around, also! Have a lovely weekend!

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  35. I always pop in to visit when you have a new post, Brenda. Late last week I took your advice. After running an errand I decided I need to be kind to myself. A quick drive through Sonic resulted in a RT44 Cherry Limeade. Thank you for the gentle reminder, Brenda!

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  36. I enjoy a good British mystery on DVD from Netflix. Something like Midsomer Murders. You never see the gore but have absolutely beautiful gardens to admire while they try to find out Whodunit. There are a few others like it but no other series has such beautiful gardens to admire.

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