Reflections & Family


Sometimes when I'm blog-hopping, I find that I have more in common with European bloggers. 


Most of them don't seem to have the sprawling homes that many American bloggers have. 

Many of them live in apartments, as I do. They seem to follow the loose dictates of "simple living."

Of course there are exceptions. But I feel more in tune with these bloggers, actually. Because I can identify with them more. 


I didn't always live in a small apartment. I've had my fair share of big houses and all the trimmings. But that feels like another life. 

One that entailed a lot of spending and the acquisition of material things. 

I find now that I don't want many things. I keep purging what I do have. If I was to start over with nothing, I would have far less than I do now. 

Some fundamentals of my life:

...Morning coffee
...Pupsters beside me
...Colorful patchwork quilts 
...Books
...Gardens

And now I also spend time learning more about my sister, Marietta, who is nine years younger than I am.


I send her photos on to my daughter. She says that she can see bits of her in Andrew. That we have similar eyes. 

I called her on my birthday, in the late afternoon, and we talked for hours. So much of life to catch up on!

She is very much an animal lover. She has two dogs and three cats. And is fiercely protective of them.

Her needs are simple. 

She loves solitude.

She does not need a man in her life to feel complete.
 
She loves gardening. 

  Marietta has had a difficult life. But then, most of our mother's children have that in common. 

We don't talk every day. Or even every week. But the thread of her story intertwined in my life is slowly unfolding. 

Some people just click together like puzzle pieces. And some don't.

It is nice to have someone in my life that "talks my language." We are both wordsmiths, and love the vast landscape of the English language.

If not for a test you purchase to find out your ancestry, she would not have found me in my little corner of the world. 

And I would only know her by a couple of childhood photos before she was adopted.

Just goes to show you that you never know what life has in store for you.  


26 comments

  1. Wow. My best friend found out she had an older sister when an aunt had too much to drink and spilled the secret at a family gathering. My friend and her siblings put an ad on a Web site for people looking for birth families, and the older sister happened to have just started looking for her birth family on the death of her adopted parents. The timing was incredible.
    I am glad you managed to find your sister and hope that the ties help you both.
    PS, you are right about European houses. The average size in France is 1,206 square feet, vs. 2,164 square feet in the U.S. See: https://francetaste.wordpress.com/2017/01/30/let-them-eat-cake
    It means less stuff and also more time for the things that really count: family and friends.

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  2. In the first picture, I immediately noticed her eyes and how similar they are to yours. I assume the second photo is a more recent one? It's funny, but I prefer her 'look' in that one. Maybe because she looks older and I can relate on a higher level.

    Life is full of surprises. That's what makes it interesting.

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  3. I think it's awsome you 2 found each other.

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  4. I love Marietta. And you, of course.

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  5. I am so happy for you that you found your sister, sounds like a real connection is developing.

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  6. It's a blessing that you found your sister and that you are communicating. As an only child, I have always known the void of no siblings and especially now that both my parents and beloved aunt have passed. Sometimes I think that I fill that void with material things, which is a sad commentary. The really important things in life don't have price tags. Focus on what you love and those you love, which you apparently are doing quite well.

    Big Texas Hugs,
    Susan and Bentley

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  7. It is wonderful that you have connected with your sister. Is there any chance that you'll be able to get together & meet each other. I don't know how far apart that you live from each other. You probably mentioned, but I forgot.

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  8. I'm so happy you found your sister and the connection has been a blessing to you!

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  9. Beautiful post, Brenda! I'm with you re: the large homes filled with "stuff". Been there, done that and I must say that this time of my life is very different. I, too, live in an apt and I can't even tell you how many "things" I've given away or donated. I feel like others may be blessed by what I'm not using. Your sister is very attractive! Did you do the DNA test or did she? I'd so love to do it.

    Have a relaxing day!
    xo
    Pat

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  10. Brenda, I am so happy that you have connected with your sister. You deserve happiness!

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  11. I always soak up stories of reunited families. I'm so glad you found each other and have to much in common. I'm a bit confused about how she found you through an ancestry test. I thought those tests only told you your varied ethnicities. I didn't know they could lead you to individuals. I would love to know how that works. I'd be interested in doing it myself. Can you give more information about how she found you?

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  12. This is such a wonderful thing to happen to you Brenda.

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  13. I am so happy for you to have been able to find your sister. She is beautiful. You are blessed.

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  14. I'm so happy for you and Marietta that you have found each other. Her eyes are indeed like Andrew's! Is she a gardener too? I hope you all get to meet someday.

    I really enjoy the blogs you share on small homes and apartments, whether in this country or elsewhere in the world, because we are now in a house under 900 square feet. I've been pecking away on clutter reduction, a little bit at a time, and it is creating more breathing room and helping my attitude.

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  15. Brenda, you have quite a story and now you can add the pictures to the faces you have been writing about. We just found my nephew after 32 years of wondering where he was, if he was okay, so many questions went unanswered. I am guilty of always thinking his birth mother provided a great life for him only to find out he was raised amongst gangs and violence. He survived and became a Marine serving his country at the White House. I am so proud of him and happy htat he is healthy and happy. Now our story begins...

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  16. I'm so glad that you are developing a relationship with your sister, what a gift that is! She's lovely, I can see the resemblance!!

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  17. This is so awesome that you and your sister have connected. I must have missed this, where does she live? is there a chance that you will get to see her one day?

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  18. Oh I loved seeing the photos of her ! I know that you have been touching base with each other but how nice to see her now as well :)

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  19. Marietta is such a pretty lady and I love her name too. It's wonderful that the two of you are getting to know one another and so amazing how much you have in common!

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  20. I'm happy for you that you and your sister have been reunited. I see a resemblance especially in the eyes. It sounds like you two have much in common, too. Enjoy your phone visits and hopefully you'll meet in person soon!

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  21. I am so happy for you that you found your sister. My sister and I do not speak everyday but I know she is always there for me as I am for her. There is that "connection". I would also like to say how much I enjoy your blog -- I discovered it by looking at an old magazine that had done a story about you. It was when you lived in a small house -- I enjoy looking at the pictures inside your homes. Your ideas in decorating are much like mine and I love my little house, I have lived here for 43 years!

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  22. she is very beautiful. she looks Italian to me! such warm expressive eyes and smile.
    but in the second picture I see more happiness.
    what a true blessing that you've found each other and are so much alike! that makes it all the more sweeter.
    and living in 525 square feet... I totally understand what you said about small spaces. I wouldn't want more really!

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  23. That is such a great gift Brenda. To have found a sister that you lost many years ago. These are the treasures of life. I am an only child and don't know how that feels but to make up for it I went and had four of my own. Family is truly the greatest blessing.

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  24. How wonderful that you've connected with your sister! It's kind of a new beginning for both of you.

    I often feel disconnected from our blog world, too, Brenda. I have a house, but I don't have the resources or inclination to change everything at the drop of a hat. It can be overwhelming to view the homes with all new....everything, but I realize this is just a small sampling of homes in our country and there are many more like me who make do with what they have.

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  25. One of my Mother's favorite sayings comes to mind: "Blood is thicker than water"! I love your comment about European bloggers. I have had the same feeling many times. I also appreciate that their homes are not styled as far as the eye can see. They look lived in.

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  26. This is such a happy story Brenda...I wish you both so much joy..Mariette is so pretty does look very French..the two of you look quite a bit alike and it sounds like you think alike too...Best of luck getting to know each other..

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Author Bio

Brenda has been writing since grade school. She majored in professional writing/journalism in college, where she won awards for her feature writing. She loves to decorate, garden, enjoy nature, read and spend time with her Yorkies.
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