A Strange Occurrence


Yesterday I decided I'd better get out and get some groceries, pick up prescriptions at the pharmacy, and get gas before it goes up too much. 

First I went to the pharmacy. There was a Honda in front of me. But the car wasn't in the drive-thru lane. It was up right to it, but not in the lane. I couldn't get around it. What to do?

I sat there for a few minutes, debating my choices. Was someone hurt inside the car? I couldn't see anything from behind. 

Was there something strange going on? Like maybe a robbery? And they were blocking anyone getting to the window? (I have a vivid imagination I suppose.)

Should I get out and see if whoever it was needed help?

 
I got out of my car and approached the driver's door, albeit a bit hesitantly. You never know if someone is carrying a gun and you might get shot for your effort. 

Yet what if someone had had a heart attack or something and was slumped down in the seat?

I had to knock on the window, as the woman was turned the other way. Then I saw that she was on her phone. What the heck?

She put a finger up, as if to say "just a minute."

After a short time she ended the call and rolled down the window. "I was on an important phone call," she said. 

I stood there kind of in shock. I was having to switch from scared mode to irritated-as-heck mode fast.

She didn't want anyone to get ahead of her in the drive-thru lane, it appeared, but she wasn't ready to go through it. So she thought it was okay to block the lane to others and sit there on the phone?


People never fail to surprise me anymore. 

I said: "I thought you might be hurt and I came to help."

No, she was just on the phone, she said. She didn't see me behind her.

She wasn't looking.

Why didn't she pull into a parking space to conduct her important phone call? I wanted to ask her. But I didn't. I kept my mouth shut and walked back to my car.


I don't go out much. I hadn't been out in a week. 

I don't like traffic. I don't like crowds. 

And I can't stand rude people.

I had gotten out of my vehicle to help her and that's all she had to say? Had she been raised in a barn?

What would you have done?

I am so happy to see strangers helping one another in Texas however. All manner of wonderfully heartwarming deeds of kindness.


It does my heart good to see all the folks rescuing animals too. I'm so, so grateful to them. 

Just goes to show you that there is still immense good in this world.


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  1. Oh, my word you were way too nice not to say something to her. I think I would have let her have it!! Yes, so good to see those pets rescued.

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    1. Then when she pulled into the space to get her medicine, she sat there talking to the guy inside for some time. I finally honked at her. She'd taken enough of our time.

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    2. Glad you honked. I would have expressed my displeasure with the pharmacy as well. That was one RUDE woman. Who does she think she is? Their only customer?

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  2. It's amazing how people can get so caught up in their own worlds that they don't notice others! So annoying! But you did the right thing and I am impressed that you didn't say anything afterwards and walked back to your car. I don't know if I could have restrained myself from making a sarcastic remark! On a positive note, it is heartwarming to see all the rescues and all the people who are out there to help animals. Our local animal shelters are taking in a bunch from the shelters in Texas. I wish I could convince my husband to take one! Enjoy the rest of your week. Prayers for Texas!
    Shelley

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    1. There I was worried that whoever was inside was needing assistance. I probably should have driven away and come back. But I was concerned.

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  3. There is immense good in this world. That rude person was just caught up in her own world, of which she is supreme commander. Unfortunately you would have stooped to her raised-by-wolves level if you had said what you really thought. And you're right about not knowing if a person has a weapon. Glad it was only a self-absorbed person and you are okay.

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    1. In hindsight, I shouldn't have gone up to the car. Should have left. But then the person behind me would have had decisions to make.

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  4. Hi. You gave a good recounting of the incident. That driver was incredibly self-centered and thoughtless, and that is putting it mildly. Her call may have been important to her, but it was not important to you or any other customer of that store! I have to say I never would have gotten out of my car. I might have used my phone to call the pharmacy number, and report that their drive-through was blocked and ask them to send someone out to deal with it. But, I really don't think I would have done that much -- if I had the time, I would have driven away and came back later. It's because I have a checklist of things to look for and avoid when I pull up to a drug store or convenience store, and a vehicle sitting in a weird way is on the list. If I see a car idling or sitting in a weird way, I wonder if it could be a getaway car, so I keep going. Also, I don't go to a store that has its front windows covered over with ads or blinds or stacks of boxes inside. That looks like a place a robber might want to go to because it would be harder to see the robbery going on. If the windows are clear, I look inside as I approach to see if anything might be happening inside that doesn't seem right, so that I don't walk in on a robbery! I might sound paranoid, but, we have reports of robberies of convenience stores, drug stores and hotel clerks almost every day in our area, and I want to avoid being there when it happens!

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    1. She could easily have taken her call out of the lane. She just didn't want anyone to get ahead of her I suppose.

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  5. Oh my goodness, Brenda, she must have felt she was more important than anyone else. I'm sure you handled it best by walking away, but I can think of many things that she needed to hear. LOL I've been watching Texas on the news almost nonstop. I wish I could be there to help. Continuing to pray!

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    1. I've been watching it too. It seems to get more amazing every day. Who could have imagined this much water?

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  6. I would have been shocked and walked back to the car just as you did. She was rude...she'll figure that out at some point.

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    1. The next person might not be so accommodating.

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  7. Good Morning Brenda: I am like you, I don't enjoy going out in crowds because some people just make it an awful experience. BUT, and I know this isn't related to your post today, BUT, I was watching reruns of Law and Order last night and there on the wall of this lady's home WAS YOUR FLOWER PAINTING. Oh my gosh. I was so excited that I just had to tell you. See you have excellent taste.

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    1. Wow! That's amazing. I'd never seen that painting before I saw it on Wayfair.com

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  8. I would have done exactly the same as you did Brenda to that rude, self centered woman but then on refection as I always do, I think of so many things I could have said to point out her rudeness, and then I get annoyed with myself for not speaking up!
    On Texas, it is so sad to see the plight of so many people. I do hope they get the government help they need and soon. It is heartening to see how many animals people are rescuing but why were so many left behind?

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    1. I thought back on that woman and that stunt the rest of the day.

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  9. Brenda I probably would have done just as you did, then got back in my car and stewed over the whole thing a good part of the day thinking of all the things I should have said!! People never cease to amaze me in their uncaring of others.

    But on the other hand we have all the wonderful, thoughtful, caring people who have come to the aid of the people effected by this terrible storm in Texas. I live in East Texas and we have been having rain almost continually for days. It has been dark and dreary but I can't complain at least we do not have the terrible flooding (not yet anyway). We are under a flood warning this morning and there is quite a bit of water out there as I look out in my yard this morning. I have family in Houston and they have experienced flooding but they are safe. I commend all those who are helping in whatever way they can. It will take Houston and all the effected areas a long time to recover from this.

    On a positive note - I finally found a quilt pattern like your wall hanging that is like the Twin Sisters block and I have been working on it over all these days of rain, I am almost finished. I am going to call it "The Hurricane Harvey Wallhanging"!

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    1. I did. I stewed over it for hours! The Hurricane Harvey Wall hanging. Sounds good. I heard on the news that at least one baby born during all this has been named Harvey.

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  10. That would have irritated me to no end and I'm not so sure I would have been as nice as you were. Such selfishness.

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    1. If I hadn't been so surprised, I might have reacted!

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  11. THERE'S ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF SMART/CELL PHONE ABUSE (abuse to others that is).What if you had plowed into her because you weren't paying attention.Happened to me at my pharmacy.They were on the phone.She wasn't even concerned about her own safety, all consumed with the PHONE in her hand.
    Fortunate for you that there was no real DANGER. I would not have been so kind and understanding, I would have told her how rude she was for blocking access to the pharmacy.
    THANK GOODNESS, Kindness and concern for others still abounds, especially in times of need.

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    1. I thought to myself: Just get the errands done and get home where things are calm and normal.

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  12. And it's exactly situations like that that make me so happy I no longer live in a city - I swear people are just NICER in the country! More considerate of others, for sure! I would have let that woman have it!!

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  13. Those of us who were raised to be polite are at such a disadvantage in today's world. But I won't change and be like them. Glad you are in our Polite Camp. :-)

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    1. You're right. And I thought about that.

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  14. Thank you for this, Brenda! Every. single. time! I run across a ninkempoop like the lady blocking traffic (which sad to say Debbie -Mountain Mama does also happen out here in the country!) I need to be especially!!! reminded of all the good persons out there!

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    1. I know that lady is in the minority. But she was so aggravatingly obtuse!

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  15. Brenda,
    You were much nicer than I would have ever been to someone like that, especially after her saying "Hold on for a minute". Some people are SO caught up in their own selfish world and so many also have no regard for other people, that it makes me crazy. What in the world did this woman do before she had a cell phone? I am just sorry that it wasn't a policeman who was behind her.
    You were very gracious and I commend you on your patience. I need to learn from you, my friend.
    Thank you for the beautiful photo of the rose. You know they are my absolute favorites. Keep praying for us here in Houston. Good news however, the sun was out a little yesterday and again today. God is wonderful.

    Jackie
    blueoctober834@gmail.com

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  16. I am trying to remind myself to remember the positive encounters I've had rather than the negative ones. It isn't easy and I'm not always successful, but I am tryimg. Some times I want to give them a good kick in the pants.

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    1. I chewed on what happened the rest of the time I was out. Gotta learn to let it go.

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  17. You keep doing the right thing. We can't let the ignorant turn all apples to bad. Next time? Beep.

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  18. Ugh, how irritating! I probably would've done the same thing as you - gotten out of the car to check and see if the person was OK. Today was one of those rare days where both the customers and the cashier at the grocery store were pleasant. Unfortunately, people in general are very crabby when I'm out in public. I had a pleasant exchange with another customer in the grocery store today as well as a chatty conversation with the cashier (I was the only customer in line). I always try to spread kindness, friendliness and courtesy wherever I go. This is the best we can do - perhaps our moods will rub off on someone who is having a bad day and/or is crabby. Don't let the turkeys drag you down!

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    1. I wouldn't have forgiven myself if that person was in trouble and I didn't try to help.

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  19. How rude and selfish she was.

    You are right about Texas right now. I've been watching news stories online and when push comes to shove and disaster hits, everyone forgets their own little world, religion, race, politics, etc.

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  20. I think that lady would not have understood if you had told her that she was holding up other people. I had a similar incident with a woman in a parking lot. She had noticed my severely retarded child and came up to me and said "I hope your other children are okay" so I said "oh, they are gifted" which apparently she could not believe was true. She just shook her head violently and went off shaking her head.

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  21. Brenda, there are so many rude and self-centered people in this world. Thank God there are still kind people that are coming from far and wide to offer help to the suffering people in Texas.

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  22. I really don't know if I would be so nice to that woman. You handled the situation in the sweetest way, Brenda. It's so nice to see the animals being rescued too :)

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  23. I'm not usually a honker, but after a short wait, I would have given a little quick tap on the horn, no response, then a little bigger tap on the horn. Then I would have blasted them with the horn. She needed to start paying attention to what was going on around her. If she still hadn't moved forward I would have driven past her car to see if someone needed help.

    I would not ever have gotten out of my car and came near a stranger's car if I was alone like you were. Wouldn't be safe around here. You did very well to keep your composure like you did.

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  24. The rudeness does get to me after a while too. It is tragic to see the events along the Gulf but seeing the heroic rescue effort lightens the heart. Did gas go up? I haven't checked yet.

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  25. Yes, it is heartwarming to see how people can come forth to help others in a crisis. But there are a few that seem to be oblivious to others' rights or needs or just their convenience. Good gracious, that woman holding up the line at the pharmacy--what a twit! I might not have been as nice as you were, but I commend you for your politeness. People like that seem to just be oblivious to others around them, just so overly focussed on themselves and their own agenda.

    I think you did the right thing--the brave thing, too--to approach the person to see if they needed help. It could have easily been a different scenario if the person was having a heart attack or other emergency. Then you would have known you did the right thing, for sure.

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