Old-Fashioned Life


Last week when the entire apartment complex had a power outage, I decided I had to break down and get a cell phone.

The woman next door is on oxygen full-time, and when I knocked on the door that evening to ask if their power was out, her husband was in the back room. So she had to answer the door.

I didn't realize all the aggravation she had to go to until I was leaving and she got up to see me out. She has to carry that rubber tubing of oxygen around while watching that she doesn't trip over it.

Their little dog, meanwhile, is barking and weaving in and out of her legs about to trip her if she's not careful. 


So I called the place I used a few years ago, Consumer Cellular, and ordered a simple flip phone and a $10 plan.

It's an old folks' type phone and an old folks' type cell phone company. But that's what I wanted. 

I didn't want bells and whistles. I didn't want complicated. Because I will only use it if I have to. Like maybe call the number on my insurance card for car assistance if I happen to have car trouble.

Otherwise the power will be turned off.
 


Just a plain old phone that has an emergency number in case "I've-fallen-and-I-can't-get-up." And nice big numbers as you can see.


When I go out, I want to remain unplugged. I'm what you'd call "old school". 

I think it's the epitome of rudeness when someone is on their phone while a store clerk is checking them out. Where are their manners?

Sometimes I apologize for them once they've taken themselves and their purchase and their phone conversation on out the door. 

The response is always: "Yeah, happens all the time."

Well in my book it shouldn't happen. That person standing on their feet, maybe making minimum wage, deserves a little respect. And maybe a "hi, how are you today?"
 
One of you made a comment about "instant everything" recently. I forget who it was. And that phrase stuck with me.

Maybe there's just too much instant everything. Maybe we need to think more instead of having technology thinking for us.


I don't want instant communication when I go out. 

If it makes me an old fuddy-duddy to carry a flip phone, so be it. 

If I stand out like a sore thumb because I'm one of the few people not staring at a phone, then I'm proud to be that person.

Instant is not always better. 

Sometimes there's something to be said for being "old-fashioned."


Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we're too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone. Steven Spielberg
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Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we're too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone. Steven Spielberg
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59 comments

  1. I am with you all the way Brenda! No phone here either. It drives me crazy when I am with a friend and their cell phone rings and they stop our conversation to answer it. Most of the time it is nothing important.
    Take care.
    Robin

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    1. I don't see what could be deemed important all the time.

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  2. I don't answer mine when I go out unless it is my husband. Everyone else will leave a message and I can get back to them.

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    1. I think that's a level-headed way to approach this.

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  3. Brenda, you must be reading my mind this morning. I used to laugh at people who couldn't live without their phones nearby and recently I realized I have become one of those people. Yet, every time it alerts me, I have a surge in anxiety. My anxiety level has been through the roof lately and I have decided to cut some of the phone issues out.

    I deleted facebook and messanger from my phone. That has helped a lot. I changed the sounds of my notifications to something more soothing. That seems to help. I would LOve to go out without my phone, but I have this fear that my daddy may need me. But it's rarely him that calls when I'm out and about. I Have seriously been thinking of going back to an old fashioned 'non smart' phone too. The one thing I would miss the most is the GPS on my phone when I'm traveling.

    I actually googled 'anxiety' and 'cell phones' and yep,, there it was... studies and proof that my phone was adding to my anxiety! What is wrong with us? I know this, but can't let it go!!

    I was in the nail salon a couple weeks ago and it was not a very busy time. This place has lots of employees. I was watching the room while my toes were being pampered and I noticed that EVERYONE in the place was glued to their phone. It made me laugh but made me sad at the same time!!

    My head needs a little 'quiet' from time to time. Let's go back to old fashioned!

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    1. I have all my notifications turned off because of anxiety. I couldn't deal with the constant text messages and notifications that were definitely not an emergency.
      Now I check the phone when I want to and don't give out the number unless needed. Much reduced anxiety.
      What makes me sad is all the parents on their cell phones constantly instead of interacting with their children. Wonder what their generation will be doing.

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    2. I agree Barbara. The blaring of the phone makes everything feel like an emergency!

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  4. I'm glad you got a phone in case of an emergency while you're out. I know we've visited this subject before...I never talk on my phone while shopping unless I'm waiting for a call from a doctor's office or my husband or son (which has only happened maybe once or twice). I can't tell you how many times I've seen people on their phones while checking out, too. Totally ignoring the clerk. Like you said, it's very rude. And yes, the clerks say it happens all the time. Sad commentary on our society.

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  5. I am like you. Can't understand cell pone usage. Only use mine when I would have an need for help.

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  6. I love my smart phone but I was a very late adopter. I didn't get one until last year. It is such a convenience but I am with you completely about putting the phone down when you are at a store. I don't want to hear your conversation and I'm sure the clerk doesn't either! You hear people sharing the most intimate details...I don't think they realize how loud they are on the phone.

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  7. Brenda, My husband is just like you about his phone! The kids and I have tried to convince him he needs to upgrade, but he says his works and does what he needs it to do. I hate to tell you how old his is. I just got a new one and mentioned to our daughter about the cost of it. She told me to think of my iPhone as a computer that has a telephone, not that it's first a phone. But I really dislike people talking on theirs at such inappropriate times. I had a part time retail job once. A woman came to the counter to pay for her items, and was on the phone talking even before she came up. She was still talking on it when she left, and never said a word to me during the entire transaction!

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    1. My daughter doesn't keep a computer at home since she works with one at her job all the time, and uses her phone instead. I can sure understand that.

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  8. Hi Brenda,
    I totally agree. I have an old flip phone, pretty much just for emergency use. It seems these days it is more important for most people to talk on the phone to someone else rather than to the person in front of them. Makes me crazy really. I am an old fashioned fuddy-duddy and proud of it! :-) Have a nice day.

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    1. I guess I like peace and quiet more than feeling connected to others all the time.

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  9. I am so glad you have a cell phone in case of an emergency especially in your car. Happy Thursday have a great rest of the week.
    xoxo
    Kris

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    1. It was the only way I was going to pay for something like this, in case of emergency.

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  10. I say it all the time, Brenda, and definitely have those days when I try to unplug and just live in the moment. It's the best! Hope you're having a great week!

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    1. If we don't live in the moment, we lose the moment.

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  11. I still have a flip phone too. As an antique dealer, I often wish my phone was equipped to do a quick Internet search when I encounter a treasure that I am not sure of. Most of the time, however, I am happy with a phone that's there for emergencies.

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    1. I suppose, having lived during the time where we didn't have cell phones, I just don't see that we have to have them and be using them all the time like I see some folks doing.

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  12. Good for you!
    I ignore my phone if it rings when I'm in line at a store. How long does it take to pay for something and get out of the way and then call the person back?
    That said, I don't ignore it forever. I've been on the receiving end of too many calls. And the time somebody ran into me, I didn't have my phone and when I got the guy who hit me to let me use his phone to call my husband, my husband had detached himself from his phone to go out in the yard (very rare for him not to have phone in hand).
    That said, I don't use the phone to chat. It's for "pick up this while you're at the store" or "I'm sick, pick me up at school asap." I use about two minutes and pay a whopping €2 a month (the €2 plan has unlimited domestic calls and texts). I got rid of my eight-year-old Nokia "candy bar" phone last year and have a "smart" Samsung but I don't like it. The screen is hard to read. However, I am a podcast nut and it allows me to download podcasts and listen to them on my car's radio via Bluetooth, so I can tool around France while listening to Terry Gross, which is really a great combination.

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    1. I know there are all kinds of good reasons to have a smart phone, as in the case of your music. I don't listen to music, but I did when younger.

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  13. We have just changed from a very old phone to a smart phone but we don't like it. People ask us to text, I have to tell them I don't know how!
    The only good thing about it is that we can take a picture of anything anytime when we are out and about looking for furniture etc, but we have a small camera that would do just as well.

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    1. I know how to text. I'm just too stubborn to do it! My simple phone takes photos and you can text with it.

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  14. Don't forget to keep it charged! My mom, like you, carries one just for emergencies. I don't know how many times she's needed to use it, but couldn't, because it was dead.

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    1. They had a special the day I called to order mine. For $10 you could get a phone charger and phone case, and I got that. That was the problem I had last time. I always forgot to charge the thing!

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  15. I have a smart phone ONLY because my phone company said my basic flip phone was NOT compatible with their service (so I ask WHY did you sell IT to me ) AND the woman who helps me out around the apt got the newest expensive IPHONE and gave me her old one. It is so sad to see so many people with their phones CONSTANTLY in hand. They order food, eat it while not even looking at the people at the table or talking to each other. Driving and texting is dangerous and causes me to be afraid to drive anywhere, even in small town where I live. I am afraid of being hurt/killed and nobody home to take care of my yorkie, Cricket.

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    1. I wrote last year I think it was about texting and driving and how many people lose their lives due to it.

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  16. are you sure we're not twins? so much of things you say resonate with me!
    I have a land line and I will have it until they literally force me to have something else.
    I am on my niece and nephew's family plan through AT&T. I had turned down the phone upgrade for YEARS. finally earlier this year they sent a letter saying it will no longer work. I HAD to get a new phone. now it sits in a drawer here in the kitchen.
    I pay my niece $145 a year and I only used the old flip top about once every other month or so. I only had it for emergencies anyway.
    I like what you did. I will look into that. the cost is the same and the phone is better!

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    1. This phone takes photos and you can text. I just didn't want to pay for data usage. Maybe we are twins. I don't know a lot of my family history!

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    2. Brenda, hope all is well... got rid of my house phone because i rarely used it and Verizon charged $35 a month it was cheaper to get a cell for both my husband and me for $32 total a month..still don't talk much as I grew up my dad said phones were to be used for business and emergencies then get off boy was he right!!! never on more than 5 minutes and if you do get behind a gabby in the store, half of what they say is nonsense and just a waste time keep up your good work

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  17. I'm with you. My phone is for in my car in case of an emergency. I cannot stand how rude people can be with their phones. Sandy

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    1. Rude people on their phones is what soured me on the whole thing.

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  18. I agree with you Brenda. I find it very sad how everyone is so addicted to their cell phones they barely know what is going on around them. And what about the people who discuss the most intimate parts of their lives out in public as though the rest of us are not privy to their conversations.

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  19. I had a flip phone for years and years. Two years ago a smart phone was the only communication my brother had with the outside world due to his severe MS. And that is why I have a big shiny smart phone. So for those who snub their noses at smart phones, there are those that need it for their communication and their entertainment.

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    1. Oh, I understand that some DO truly need them! I'm not knocking that and I apologize if it seems like I am. What I'm upset about is people being on them to the detriment of others. People lose their lives due to people texting while driving, for instance.

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  20. I have a love/hate relationship with my cel. I do take it with me, in case of emergency (like the time a woman ran a red light and T boned me!).
    However... I hate it when I see folk and kids glued to their phones in the presence of others ~ how incredibly RUDE!!!

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    1. I hate what it says to kids. To me it says: It's okay to be rude.

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  21. I, too, have a flip phone--it cost $9.99 and I only want it if I have car problems when I'm driving alone. Even at $10, it has internet access (I've never figured out why I would want that); takes photos; takes videos; and many other things I don't even care about. Funny, people remind me of Pavlov's dog--when the phone rings, they must answer it. They are totally controlled by their phones, instead of the phone being a convenience for them. I would be ashamed to be one of them--without a life.

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    1. I think people miss out on so much staying glued to their cell phones. Some people act like it's another limb!

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  22. Having the phone for emergencies is a good idea. I have a smart phone and my husband has a flip phone. We are on a Consumer Cellular family plan. We have been with them for years and are totally satisfied with that company.

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    1. I had Consumer Cellular before. Simple plans. Then I had Verizon and everything was so complicated till I just canceled altogether and went without a cell phone for awhile.

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  23. I'm old school too. I share one cellphone with my husband and it is for emergencies only. We have a landline at home. We're both retired and share one car as well now, so this works for us.
    Brenda, be sure and keep your cellphone charged so it ready for use when you need it.

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    1. I got a car charger because I knew I'd forget to do that!

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  24. I am old school all the way. A few months back I bought a flip-phone with TracPhone for emergencies. Like you, I keep it off unless I need to use it. I hate phones and I no way want to be answering one when I'm out of the house. I don't want to be available 24/7 and no matter where I am.

    The phone I had before this one was a hand-me-down from my 93yo MIL! And that one was kept off unless I needed to use it, too.

    Just yesterday my doctor and I were talking about how people are too connected with their phones and texting and such and how it can't be good for you, especially young people whose brains are still developing. He said but for being a doctor and needing one for that, he wouldn't have a cell phone.

    I always wonder WHO are these people talking to all the time? Are they super popular? Can't shut up? Too insecure to be out and about alone so they have to be virtually with someone? Don't people want peace and quiet any more?

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    1. I find it confusing to be trying to shop or talk to clerks and multi task with a phone. Maybe it's part of aging.

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  25. You are a prolific reader ; as to an old-fashioned life, I don't recall which blogger but someone recommended a book awhile ago. Curious, I went on to Amazon and ordered a used copy. Once it arrived, I couldn't put it down :)

    “Secrets of the Sacred Earth” by Cliff Seruntine

    Check it out on Amazon, Brenda...See what you think :)

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  26. I have to laugh, thinking of how flip phones, that first came out about 15 years ago, are old-fashioned. Fifteen years! Why, that's back in the days of carrier pigeons! Just joking. It is amazing how fast technology changes. My "smart" phone is about four years old so it's ancient, but I like it.

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    1. If we showed children or teens the old-fashioned phones, they probably wouldn't know what they were! I like having a home phone. I very rarely use it. But it's quite cheap with my bundled cable plan. And I am just accustomed to having a home phone. Shoot, I used to have a wall phone!

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  27. What happened to the smart phone you bought last year? I have noticed that your new blog format is not super smart phone friendly. Very tiny font similar to plain text and the latest post does not appear at the top. Enjoying all your quilt posts!

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    1. I still have it. Kind of embarrassed to admit it, but it had so many things going that I couldn't quite figure it out. Because I so rarely used it, I'd forget what it was I learned! I asked a blogger to look at my blog from her smart phone and she sent me an attached photo. She has the same template I do, and she said hers is fine. Me, I don't really know for sure since I don't use one.

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  28. Brenda, I could not agree with you more. IT is rude to talk on the phone in a line at the store. Frankly when I am at the store I do not want to hear your conversation. Although I have a phone, I relish my time in the car because I rarely turn on my radio or look at my phone and it is relaxing.

    I hope that you have a relaxing weekend.

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