Bits Of News


I have been back here in my bedroom for so long now that I can't recall when I was last even in my living room. Well, it's really only been a few weeks but feels much longer.

I'm doing a bit better. I've been keeping the heating pad on my lower tummy much of the time, and that soothes me.

I look at blogs and Pinterest and I'm surprised at all the Christmas decorating already accomplished by many. I know many bloggers decorate early to accommodate events they're involved with.

Even if I felt better, it's just far too early for me to take that on. I'd be sick to death of it if I decorated for a holiday this soon.

What about you? When do you like to decorate?

Note: Comments were down yesterday. I got a lot of emails and contacted Blogger, who got it fixed by yesterday afternoon. Many bloggers on Blogger had their comments down for whatever problem that was occurring.
 

Scary and sad all the sexual assaults we are currently hearing about now, isn't it? It's good that these allegations/crimes are being brought to light.

Just goes to show you, it just takes one. 

And then there will be another and another and before long victims are lined up and supporting one another. And hopefully justice will prevail. 

What is wrong with people? Didn't anyone teach them growing up to keep their hands to themselves? Well, obviously they didn't listen.

Shame on them.


History was made on Tuesday with some 2017 elections. Transgendered Danica Roem, 33, won in the 13th district Virginia House of Delegates. 

She unseated Bob Marshall, who referred to himself as Virginia's "chief homophobe." He refused to publicly debate Danica. Now she's removed him from his 25 year seat. 

When asked about Bob Marshall, Danica Roem said: “I don't attack my constituents. Bob is my constituent now.” 
 
Makes me happy to see that people who bully and play dirty do not always win.

And Seattle elected its first lesbian mayor.

What I Think: There is room for all of us. Just because you may be different no longer means that you can't achieve your dream in this land of the free and home of the brave.

Women, go forth and make us proud.


37 comments

  1. Nice to see I can leave a comment today. I don't decorate for Christmas until after Thanksgiving. I like to give each holiday its due.

    It is sad what is coming out about all our stars and people in high profile jobs. I think there is a sense of entitlement and they feel they are above the rules that apply to everyone else. I worked for a man that I know was a sexual predator. I laughed him off and made a joke of it--but I know others were seduced by his power.

    I hope you feel better every day and are soon back in your living room on a daily basis. xo Diana

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    1. Today even more celebrities being named.

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  2. I always wait to decorate until after Thanksgiving. I can't imagine having to try to keep everything looking clean and festive for longer than that.

    Blessings~

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    1. That's what I usually do. Not sure this year I'm putting up a tree.

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  3. As you say, everybody keeps quiet because the victims are afraid of being blamed instead of the aggressor, but once that code of silence is broken, the dam breaks. Better late than never.
    Back in the day, complaining didn't help anyway. I worked with a guy who went on a rave in the lunchroom, stripping naked. He spent time in the hospital and came back, constantly harassing women colleagues. When I started working there, the women all told me not to give him a ride home because he was dangerous. I steered clear of him but couldn't make him shut up, and he was very insistent about saying horrible things, quite publicly. The bosses said they couldn't fire him because he had a family to support.

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  4. as a young widow I found myself alone on thanksgiving (my brother lived away and he was my only family) although like you... being alone has never bothered me.
    after the grief of losing my husband I have honestly come to enjoy just being with me.
    and now my brother is back closer in the same town and we usually go and eat together.
    I found that it was comforting to decorate for christmas on thanksgiving day. I remember one year I had 'leave it to beaver' re-runs going on some channel! lol.
    now it has become my own little ritual. to just enjoy the day.
    sometimes I watch the parades while decorating. what little decorating I do. I always had a tree. not sure I'll put one up this year though.

    and ... what a classy response from danica roem and yet point made! ...
    'When asked about Bob Marshall, Danica Roem said: “I don't attack my constituents. Bob is my constituent now.” 

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    1. I thought the same thing: classy response. Even after he acted as he did.

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  5. "I am woman,hear me roar"
    Im in your camp,sick of it to quickly,when my kids were tiny part of my hubbys family tradition was to do the tree and the gifts after bedtime,hated the hecticness of it and changed it as the kids grew up,tree was always gone the
    Glad you're feeling better!
    Thanksgiving is my favorite anyway:)

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  6. I can't start Christmas decorating until after Thanksgiving, no way! I usually decorate the weekend right after Thanksgiving, since I take that Friday off and have a long weekend to get a lot done. I'm looking forward to it now that we've had our first snow and there's nothing that looks like fall around here any more!

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  7. I hope you feel better soon. Since I'm going to be gone for Thanksgiving this year I'm tempted to start a little Christmas decor here and there!

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    1. I would be tempted too. I typically started right after Thanksgiving. Not sure this year.

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  8. Hope you feel better soon! xo. I'm one of those that likes to decorate early mostly because it takes me so darn long to finish and I want to enjoy it.

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    1. And you work during the day out of the home, don't you? Which means you have so much less time than many.

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  9. I never decorate for Christmas before Thanksgiving. These past few years, I haven't really wanted to do much at all except a little winter themed stuff like twigs, berries, candles, pillows and throws. Christmas trees just don't excite me. Much less all the other do dads people set around. I got rid of tons of that stuff at my daughters yard sale.

    All of the people finding their voices in regards to abuse is amazing. It needs to be openly talked about. I just hope that no innocent people are being publicly smeared. There is a line there. I do support the victims but I don't want innocent people to be victims too. Does that make sense? I hope you all understand.

    I'm so proud of the election results that I saw from Tuesday. It was encouraging. It gives me hope.

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    1. I agree. I don't want to see the pendulum swing the other way and smear the innocent.

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  10. I'm sorry you're still not feeling well. I have seen a lot of Christmas decorating already on Instagram, trees put up and all. I scroll past - don't even want to look at it yet. I'm one of those who believes in celebrating one holiday at a time. Let's celebrate Thanksgiving first! And I'm definitely in no hurry to be digging out boxes of Christmas decorations out of the basement. I'm actually kind of dreading it, to tell you the truth. The older I get, the less fuss and work I want. Every year gets more minimal. Now I understand when my mom went through this. :-)

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    1. We never seem to listen to our elders till we're more their age!

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  11. I am so happy about all those coming forward, because, not only does it help the current victims, but it takes away a lot of leverage from the perps, because they can't depend on closed mouths keeping their dirty little secrets anymore. It takes away the stigma for the victim's too.

    As for the other, I have a saying....love everyone and let God sort out the rest. I don't judge people's lifestyle choices, even if I may not agree with them. I love people and we all fall short, so live and let live, I say. My other favorite saying is from a movie...."Be nice to people on the way up, because you might meet them again on the way down." ::wink::

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    1. I like your saying! I certainly think everyone's opinion is valid. But I happen to agree with your way of thinking.

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  12. I'm glad you told us about Blogger having problems yesterday. I tried to comment and it disappeared. I was thinking I must have done something wrong. I can't believe Thanksgiving is two weeks from today. Geez. It's like once October ends the rest of the year is a blur! I never do any Christmas decorating until after Thanksgiving. We try to get the tree up the weekend after Thanksgiving and I slowly do a little more decorating after that. We have two young cats that dearly love the tree and decorations so I do it for them as much as anyone.

    It's good to see things catching up with these sexual predators. Unfortunately, this is only the tip of the ice burg I am afraid.

    I totally agree with you Brenda on the issue of equal rights. Being different should never prevent anyone from having equal rights! I get so aggravated when I see all these arguments over public bathrooms. I think Target has a simple solution - three restrooms - male, female and family. And goodness knows, it would not hurt any public place to add more bathrooms!

    I hope you are feeling at least a little better!

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    1. I can't believe my youngest daughter will be 39 next week either!

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  13. I am not very happy with the elections outcome you mentioned (and have a right to my opinion).
    So glad you are feeling better, Brenda!You are on my prayer list.

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    1. Of course you have the right to your opinion, and you should voice it!

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  14. Praying that you continue to heal + and thank you for blogging, still, even tho you feel lousy (((BRENDA))) - there are very good 'bits and bobs' in here, even things I wasn't aware of and needed to know about :>

    Back in the 80s, I landed in a secretarial job that turned out to be the nightmare that is all over the news today: with a skell who saw his assistant as easy picking, because he was in a nepotism job///couldn't be fired. The last secretary had literally had a nervous breakdown ;- Of course I wanted to quit! - I was still living at home with my parents, so I didn't have rent or eating fears - but my concern was the next woman hired would be the next victim. As the time slogged by, I came to realize this man had an actual phobia of people of a certain race - not even a fear, or a prejudice, but a phobia. And ... we had just hired such a person, too, for an entry level position. So I took it upon myself, in small sections of time, to train her on my job -- it wasn't easy -- she wasn't dumb -- she just had no self-worth, so I had to start there. After about a month, maybe a little longer, she could do my job as well as (maybe even better!) than myself, so I walked into the Big Boss' office, essentially gave him no notice ('Friday is my last day - oh yes today is Thursday, isn't it?!'), and then 'rescued' the situation by pointing out how I had trained Phyllis ('well you see it started as a way to help another woman with her self-esteem, Mike' ...) and she could just step into my job :> Problem solved! (Btw, when the nepotism ended, so did his job ... he's still with that girlfriend he was living with at that time, and they even have adult children now, including girls, which does frighten me!) I did what I could, in a situation where I didn't even have a voice, and sometimes that is what it takes, too.

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    1. I always think of those things to say afterwards. I like what you did and said!

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  15. Nice to hear that you feel a bit better.

    I read the comments and feel so very lucky that I have never had problems with male coworkers or male bosses. Just the opposite: I have worked in industries where the primary hires were male -- they were confident in their skills and manhood and just wanted me to succeed. They were also gentlemen and still felt it a duty to open doors and stand when I entered a room.

    I also feel very fortunate that I grew up in a home with a mom (female from birth) and a dad (male from birth) and one sister (also female from birth) There seemed to be a healthy balance between female/male strengths and weaknesses and a genuine love of family. Just happy that my genetics and life experiences have enabled me to live life as a cisgender (never ever knew this word existed until just recently). A need for a transgender bathroom seems pretty weird to me (and being in the corporate world, I realize that if companies have to set aside space and $$ for a transgender bathroom, it is the consumer who will bear the costs in increased prices for products).

    As for an election, I just hope the best qualified individual wins whether this person is male or female.

    I am planning to decorate for Christmas before Thanksgiving; I do not tire of the decorations and especially enjoy the glow of the Christmas lights. This does not dim my joy of Thanksgiving.

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    1. You are lucky. If you don't get tired of the decorations, then have fun decorating!

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  16. Amen!

    I have to say, though, that I do feel some compassion for those who are sexual predators as a great many of them were sexually abused themselves as youngsters. It's like the old saying: the sins of the fathers......
    Not that I condone their actions at all, but it just makes me sad to think of little kids being abused and then ruining their own lives by repeating the abuse with another young person. I don't know what causes sexual abuse in the first place but if I had to guess I'd say it is not feeling loved or or protected as a child. Children
    need to feel that they are unconditionally loved and accepted by those raising them. But it's a complicated issue because treatment isn't available to everyone and secrecy is so common.

    I hope you'll be up and about soon, Brenda, and that the new meds are working.

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    1. I know what you mean. I think the perpetrators were more likely to have been abused themselves if they abuse children. But obviously some men just take advantage of their power and take advantage of women, which I'm glad is coming to light.

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  17. Glad you are feeling better, albeit slowly! I think Thanksgiving is such a wonderful and special holiday and it deserves its own focus. When to decorate for Christmas: complicated if one wishes to observe a holy Advent. In my faith tradition, Advent is a time of introspection and preparation of the heart, a time of sober reflection. This doesn't always fit well with the massive decorating/shopping/cooking/eating blitz in our culture. I love decorating for the holiday, but try to do it slowly, a little at a time. If one uses a real tree, it is best to wait to put up the tree until later. Just went to a great craft show in Omaha and watched people spend hundreds of dollar on decorations, which were truly beautiful and hand crafted. But, wow, who can spend like that every year?? How does this relate to the humble birth in a stable?

    Like you, I am pleased with the election results. I love the quote from one of the readers about loving all and letting God sort out the rest. Such good advice.

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  18. Hope you start feeling better day by day! You really have had your fair share already.

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  19. Brenda glad to hear that you are feeling better.

    I am amazed at all of the sexual assault info coming to light. In each case the person admits, says they are sorry ( or what-have-you ) and suffers the consequences.

    The President was accused by 17 women or so and denied it all. Said he'd sue. Never did. Hmm...

    So he's the only one thus far not admitting or suffering the consequences that I can see.

    It's been like Dominoes in the last week seeing all of these things come to light.

    As to DECORATING? I just decorated for FALL a few days ago because until then the weather here was still summer.

    Today it snowed, lol! :) Just a wee bit, but our first. The grandkids were thrilled and couldn't wait to run outside. A high of 30 degrees, a low of 17 tonight, and a few snow showers, even a wee bit laying on the ground

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